irc333 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I'm hearing about how some people refuse to date during the holidays because that's the time of year most people are lonely and are dating or getting together with people for the wrong reasons So, they simply avoid those people (or dating in general) until Jan. Think that's a silly reason to stop dating? I was talking to a friend of mine about this in general and he's never heard of such a thing, but do you find this to be true? I would think it's a great opportunity to meet people.
Imajerk17 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 (edited) Its just an excuse that women say to a guy they're not interested in to let him down easy. If a woman is into a guy she will find time for him. This holds 12 months out of the year, December included. Edited December 7, 2012 by Imajerk17
Author irc333 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 Its just an excuse that women say to a guy they're not interested in to let him down easy. If a woman is into a guy she will find time for him. This holds 12 months out of the year, December included. Actually, I've seen women say this as a general blanket statement, about ALL guys and dating.
phineas Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 It is actually a great time to mingle with other people so that you won't feel alone during holidays. Try it. I don't usually feel more or less alone because it's the holiday's but it's real easy to find a social event you can go to alone because there will be so many people out.
grkBoy Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I've had several women in my past who met me in the fall, were all into me, but then shortly before or after New Years they ended it. I tend to think most of the holidays are couples-centric and thus many suddenly lower the walls and try dating more in the hopes of a holiday fling at the least.
carhill Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I avoid it because I prefer to put my energy and love into people who have a history of demonstrated love and care for myself and I for them. It's my way of 'giving back' exclusively to those who are important in my life. I might be open to social opportunities but my loved ones will always be the priority. Other than that, I don't mind being alone and don't feel the odd person out not being 'coupled'. Life goes on. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Time of year doesn't matter to me when I'm dating or looking to start a new relationship.
naviis Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Time of year doesn't matter to me when I'm dating or looking to start a new relationship. Same. Although if I'm single and have no plans for New Year's...
EasyHeart Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Didn't we do this same thread a few weeks ago? I don't like dating new people during the holidays because (1) people are busy with family, friends and work parties, so scheduling is a bitch and (2) every place is busy and crowded, so going out isn't all that much fun. I met my current GF on Dec. 20 two years ago. I called her the next day and said that I wanted to go out with her, but the next few weeks were busy with holiday stuff. She laughed and said she had the same problem. We discussed it and I said I'd call her on Jan. 15 and we'd make plans for a date. The rest is history. . . . 1
Author irc333 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 Didn't we do this same thread a few weeks ago? I don't like dating new people during the holidays because (1) people are busy with family, friends and work parties, so scheduling is a bitch and (2) every place is busy and crowded, so going out isn't all that much fun. I met my current GF on Dec. 20 two years ago. I called her the next day and said that I wanted to go out with her, but the next few weeks were busy with holiday stuff. She laughed and said she had the same problem. We discussed it and I said I'd call her on Jan. 15 and we'd make plans for a date. The rest is history. . . . So after dating 2 years, you guys aren't planning on attending the other person's Holiday events? Kind of unorthodox, unless you're in some kind of LDR with her.
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 This time of the year is when I care most about being in a relationship! And valentines day! I want to have a guy to like make out with on nye and Christmas and my birthday and someone to buy me shots on my birthday too
amaysngrace Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I did this two years ago, started seeing a new guy and it was a lot of pressure during the holidays. Plus I had my exBF show up cause we're still friends and got a present and a card from my exH too and he thought all that was crazy and he couldn't handle it and started planning trips for us to go on in summer. It was madness that he couldn't handle and its all because he wanted a girlfriend for the holidays.
jcrew11 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I think its because no one wants to spend a lot of money on a gift for someone they barely know. You can wuss out and buy a $20 gift for a new girlfriend, or if you really like her, you'll have to get her jewelry for $100 or more. Plus going to holiday parties with a new boyfriend/girlfriend is kinda awkward it you are unsure about the person being a long term match, and having to introduce him/her to your relatives.
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