ocsav Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Need some help here: I met this girl 5 months ago (not that long ago) and we have had a great time. She is 23 and I'm 33. We used to spend all the nights together but then she started getting busy and stressed with her studies and we started drifting some nights apart. However, I just left my job, was lost and needed her attention. This caused a clash but without any major fight. We spent a great time together on Friday to Saturday where she tells me that we have a glorious relationship (it's her words) and "I love you so much" but she wants to get rid of the stress and therefore breaks up. But during this we made out all night, she told me she was confused, she said she wants to be with me and then break up (back and forth) and doesn't want to lose me. Even while she was going away (after she cried) she was trying to kiss me even when I was avoiding it. Monday, she sent me a text saying "Hey, how are you? Kiss". I replied in the same way without kiss and got a: "have felt better" and asking to meet up in the weekend for giving me my clothes (I asked to get them right when we broke up). I'll reply later on today in a dry manner but with consideration. But I strongly feel that she will try to make out with me again tomorrow. What should I do and what should I think of all this situation?
Author ocsav Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 An update to this story: on Sunday we met at her place and we kissed all the time. She said she was confused and that she might want the relationship again (and she misses me). Yesterday we met again and we kissed all the time. She says that this is a mess (which is) and that she has a "too nice time with me". Damn, how do I overcome this final resistance now?
CptSaveAho Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 You run away, as fast as possible. I dont break up with people that I am having a "glorious relationship" with She's not confused, she knows what shes doing.... shes letting you down easily
Author ocsav Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 Just noticed that there was an update missing between my original post and the making out on sunday and yesterday. On Friday she sent me a message saying that she missed me and she was divided if she wanted to spend that Friday with me or not. We ended up not spending as I was out with a Friend and she thought it would be messed up. Now you have all info.
Gottabestrong Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Sounds like she misses the physical part of your relationship. Are you happy just being FWB with her now? If you are, go for it. If you think it might hurt you because you keep hoping for more, than I would keep my distance. Good luck either way!
Author ocsav Posted December 12, 2012 Author Posted December 12, 2012 actually there is was no sex involved on sunday and yesterday we were in a public place....actually with all her college friends surrounding us while we were kissing (she was a bit uncomfortable to say the least). let me put it simple: it feels like this can both lead to a relationship or to nothing. I'm keeping my hopes as low as I can and moving on and dating other people (for some reason I don't want to have sex with them). But would you get rid of someone that you love and think you can have a great future together just because of pride/safety?
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