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[somya]

I am a disabled paraplegic girl, i met someone when i went to treat my physical problems in hospital( not in my city).. when i came back from the hospital , that guy messaged me , we add on facebook then he asked my number, i gave.. but after a while started saying he loves me very much.. i told him my problems and i told this not going to be easy anyhow but he sticked to his love and then after a month i accepted his proposal..

After a month he broke up with me with a reason that his relatives and family members will never going to accept a handicapped girl in his life.

Then again i went to hospital, we started to talk.. i asked him shall we tell our mutual friends that we are back again he said no.. he doesnt wanted his friends and my friends as well to know about our relationship... in between three times we broke up and again he came back in my life.. all the time he did the break up.. he initiated the contact also..i cant blame him also because i know he is having family and i am a handicapped girl..

After the last breakup he asked me for friendship but i denied, i said i can never be your friends and stopped talking with him. Deleted him from facebook..

Now after the four months of tottaly NC, i thought i have moved on and i wont expect a reply and I e- mailed him about i got appointment for my job ( for that job i was waiting from very long and he also wanted that i should get some nice job), he replied me that he was very happy to hear, then asked me couple of questions about job and my family in the next mail, which replied, then about a week we exachanged a mail, Then he liked one status update on my facebook inspite we are not friends, I saw him in my subscribers list who can see my public updates..

Then in the night he sent me text, it was simple forwarded message related to break relations and second chances about friendships...

That night i didnt reply his text but next day morning (yesterday) i replied with one forwarded good morning message, he didnt replied full day , then today early morning he sent one good morning message .. i replied.. thats it..

So i want to share that inspite of the fact he hurt me lot, i cried a lot , i went into depression, started distrusting everybody that much i loved him , i never forget him.. i tried a lot but i cant stop thinking about him.. i thought i wud never going to talk to him in my lifetime but it was i only who emailed him about my job, now when he texting me i dont know what to do. I have self respect but the fact is i love him so much.. so very much.. please suggest me what to do.. should i continue reply his text or should i add him in facebook ( i deleted him from facebook before and deleted his freinds also)still we have so many mutual friends.. please suggest me what to do.. i want him but i know i have physical problems so i dont want to spoil his life also but i want to be in contact.. through text he wil continue because nobody will come to know that we are talking again so i wanted to send facebook request to see if he is ready to tell everyone that atleast we are freinds.. what should i do should i send friend request or not...? after reading my full story please tell me what is good for me..

[Cutiepie1976]

We are all flawed. None of us is perfect.

 

You need to find someone who loves you and everything about you. Just because you are paraplegic doesn't mean you have to settle for someone who won't even publicly acknowledge he's dating you.

 

I say drop him! He is detrimental to your self-esteem and your emotional health. Your disability will likely always be an issue for him.

 

There are online support groups for those who are dating with significant disabilities. Do a google search and join a couple of those for advice and support.

 

Will it be harder for you to find someone than if you had full use of all your extremities? Yes. Can you still find someone who will love you, cherish you, make you happy, and want to build a life with you? It will be a little harder, but absolutely!

[somya]

He sent me text messages last nite asked me as 'why you are not sending any text and only replying for when i ask you? i said not like that i was little busy

then he sent text 'do you hate me? angry on me?

i said- what if i say yes?

he replied- I am sorry for everything please forgive me

after that i text him- why asking sorry, you didnt do any wrong, did you?

then he didnt reply after that and no text from the morning also..

what should i do now? please suggest

[Samilia]

This guy seems really unstable, that's what comes to my mind. I don't know if he gets high on toying with you, but he's either playing games with you, or he's just not right in his head.

 

Some girls seem to think they don't deserve much because of whatever reason, are you in that bracket? Don't waste your time on this, realize that he's really not right for you (or for anybody else for that matter).

 

Let's rewind a bit on what he's been telling you.. he's hiding you from his family for a bs reason, he's hiding you from his friends, he's hiding from your friends.. That's not a healthy relationship or friendship. If anything he should have introduced you as his friend and take it from there.

 

I understand that your handicap isn't small, but don't let him take advantage of your emotionally.

[lavitabella]

If that were me, I would just ignore this guy from now on or just small talk. He's messed up and has no right to be leading you on like that. Which I believe is what he's doing. Tell him, 'if you don't want to be with me/admit you're with me then please just leave me alone from now on'. There's no need for games, which it seems like hes playing with you..