Is leg lengthening surgery a good idea for a short guy

[Sun Devil]

I tried online dating and out of the thousands of women, not a single one would date a 5 foot tall guy. I am reconsidering leg lengthening surgery. I have heard that you can grow up to 6 inches with it. Even a gain of a couple of inches might help. Before you say about the risks and costs, I do have access to that kind of money and have not heard about any major risks if you use good quality doctors. I know that it will be painful, but it cannot be as painful as being constantly rejected over and over again. Would it be worth it or are there other methods that are better?

[dasein]

I don't think it's a good idea, no, and doubt anyone here would. This is a conversation to have with a doctor, who will try to dissuade you also.

[Carenth]

No.

 

For the 1000th time I think your issues stem from the way you look at yourself. Which is extremely negatively combined with a extreme desperation for a relationship/sex.

 

Since I'm feeling like a broken record as I've replied to a lot of your threads where you pretty much discredit everything others and I have suggested (which is working on your self esteem and learning to love yourself rather than looking for validation in others).

 

Getting expensive surgery won't fix those other problems.

 

I'm done.

[FitChick]

How old are you? Perhaps you could take some sort of growth hormone or sex hormone. Maybe your pituitary is not functioning. See an endocrinologist first. Then have him recommend a surgeon instead of picking one from the phone book.

[Sun Devil]

I am 23 years old and my bones have fused so there is no chance of growing. I know that I have been told to be more confident and work on self esteem issues, but hearing about short guys who are successful in every way except for attracting women concerns me. I do not want to be the guy who is single and lonely when I am in my 40s or older. I want to have a family of my own someday

[Pasttense]

Get some elevator shoes (Do a Google search for that phrase). You will find sites which say things like:

"Welcome to ..., a leading American online store featuring Men's Height Increase Elevator Shoes. With over 14 years of elevated shoes retail experience on the web and in direct manufacturing, we are able to provide you the highest quality footwear at the greatest price. Our shoes will invisibly add 2-5 inches in height without losing any comfort."

 

So instead of being 5 foot, you can look like you are 5 foot 5 inches.

Edited December 7, 2012 by Pasttense

[Sun Devil]

Those elevator shoes have to come off sometime. Once I take them off, women will know my true height.

[Eternal Sunshine]

I am 23 years old and my bones have fused so there is no chance of growing. I know that I have been told to be more confident and work on self esteem issues, but hearing about short guys who are successful in every way except for attracting women concerns me. I do not want to be the guy who is single and lonely when I am in my 40s or older. I want to have a family of my own someday

 

Go for Asian girls, they are typically shorter so won't mind as much....

[LittleTiger]

I tried online dating and out of the thousands of women, not a single one would date a 5 foot tall guy. I am reconsidering leg lengthening surgery. I have heard that you can grow up to 6 inches with it. Even a gain of a couple of inches might help. Before you say about the risks and costs, I do have access to that kind of money and have not heard about any major risks if you use good quality doctors. I know that it will be painful, but it cannot be as painful as being constantly rejected over and over again. Would it be worth it or are there other methods that are better?

 

Talk to your doctor. Sometimes this kind of surgery can do wonders for a person's self esteem and confidence. Do your research, talk to people who know you well and weigh up the risks. This is not a decision you can make with help from strangers on the Internet.

[Pasttense]

Those elevator shoes have to come off sometime. Once I take them off, women will know my true height.

 

They don't need to come off until there is a connection between the two of you: then when a woman finds herself very attracted to you, she will no longer care that you are short.

 

For a purely sexual encounter, you might try candlelight--explain how it is very romantic. Hopefully it will be dim enough so she won't notice your shortness then.

Edited December 7, 2012 by Pasttense

[hinatticus]

Are you a troll sun devil? Sorry, but all your posts are about being short like it's some sort of disease. I was starting to feel self conscious myself after reading your threads. I never once cared about my height, except at work when I need a ladder to install a light whereas my boss who is 6'2" doesn't, but other than that I could care less about my height.

 

Do you consider a guy who is 5'4" extremely short? I've been on online dating and have seen many woman who'd date short guys. I just got back from a date and I'm pretty sure she didn't care about my height.

 

Are you sure it's not something else about you that women don't like? Not trying to be rude.

[Sun Devil]

I am not trolling. I have an issue with my height. I know that women are attracted to tall guys. I have not yet met a women who would date a short guy. I keep hearing about short guys who never are able to get girls. It is depressing and I will not allow myself to become that. When I start getting results, then I will not worry about my height.

[hinatticus]

Dude, I just told you about me!

 

I know for a fact, that some woman don't give a **** about height. If there is anything that anyone is self conscious about, it will affect the way you present yourself in a very negative way. People pick up on negative and run away. People also pick up on positive and are attracted.

 

STOP worrying about your height.

Edited December 7, 2012 by hinatticus

[Sun Devil]

I will try again and see if I missed any. I also heard that women become less shallow in their 30's. I may have more luck as I get older

[hinatticus]

I met my ex when she was 22, I was 29 at the time. We were together for 4.5 years and had a kid together. She is about 2 inches taller than me. I just got back from a date and the girl is only 5'0", this girl is the only girl in my life that I've gone out with who was shorter than me. I even flat out asked my ex if height mattered(I asked based on your numerous posts), and she told me no. It was all in the way I carried myself. Maybe my looks play a role, I doubt it though. I'm a nice guy with an edgy look. I look badass but I am very nice. Maybe try a make over of some kind.

 

How do you dress now? What's your hair look like?

[terlislee]

Short height might be a disadvantage, but almost everybody has some, smaller or bigger, take it as something you cannot change and like yourself the way you are. I have a friend that's around your height and has a beautiful girlfriend, I'd show you a picture of them together but I've deactivated my FB due to a break-up, so give me a few weeks And lots of my taller friends (not too tall I'm around 5'4") are dating guys smaller than them. I see girls smaller than me all the time, and I don' think all of them would object to dating someone of similar height. On-line dating seems to be very unforgiving when it comes to physical characteristics, but that's an artificial environment and it doesn't really work like that in RL, you don't filter out everybody under a certain height and pretend they don't exist.

[AlexDP]

Talk to your doctor. Sometimes this kind of surgery can do wonders for a person's self esteem and confidence. Do your research, talk to people who know you well and weigh up the risks. This is not a decision you can make with help from strangers on the Internet.

 

Leg lengthening surgery involves breaking your legs. With any leg break there is a risk that the bone does not grow back well. Even in a controlled environment that risk exists. Not to mention the amount of pain OP will be in.

 

Is it a good idea? Not really. It's probably the worst idea anyone has ever had.

[Sun Devil]

Why is it a bad idea? I looked at the forum make me taller and everyone who did it felt better. It would make it easier for me to attract women

[Drseussgrrl]

This surgery runs on average $85,000. And from the sound of it excruciatingly painful. And people on average only get on average 2-3 inches taller.

 

This sounds like the worst idea ever.

 

What if, after all is said and done, you find yourself having no better luck with women? Will it have been worth it?

 

You seem to think that having this done will solve all your dating woes. Trust me - it won't.

[integralForest]

I think leg lengthening would have limited return on investment. How many inches could you grow before your legs start looking weird and out of proportion to the rest of your body? Height isn't just in the calf part of your legs, its also in your thighs and torso. These are areas you can't lengthen with surgery. You'd also have scarring and months of pain.

 

Lots of women date short guys! I won't lie, height matters, but so do a lot of other things like a good personality, personal fitness, style, and an attractive face. If you have a height deficit, then perhaps you can compensate by working on the other areas.

 

One thing that women like is confidence. They may overlook your height, but they won't overlook your insecurity about it.

 

I have a friend who is a similar height to you and he never struggles with dating. He is also a very accomplished and confident guy.

[Sun Devil]

Isn't height the number one physical requirement that women want?

[KungFuJoe]

Isn't height the number one physical requirement that women want?

 

Yes. It is the ONLY thing they desire. Nothing else matters

 

You can quote me in this as well. I stand by this statement.

[integralForest]

Isn't height the number one physical requirement that women want?

Not that I'm aware of... All women value different things.

 

But lets be honest, it all comes down to confidence. If you're not a confident guy, you'll have a hard time dating. If you need to lengthen your legs because its the only thing that improves your confidence, then perhaps it is a worthy investment. I'd at least work on your confidence and improve your other areas of attraction before dropping $85k on leg lengthening.

[tman666]

Dude...

 

Think about all of the $ (insurance will likely NOT cover this) this would cost you. Think about the amount of physical pain you'd have to live with, likely forever to some extent. You're trading a good portion of your ability to live a quality life based on the HIGHLY presumptuous notion that being 5'6" instead of 5' will magically give you the keys to mountains of pussy.

 

Yes, your height is probably holding you back with a lot of women. But even if you did get to 5'6" (after much expense, time, and pain), you'd likely still be considered "short". There's no way that you can justify this rationally.

 

Online dating is the absolute worst choice for most men, in my opinion. You have to work on yourself, your social skills, your self confidence, etc. The only way I can see online dating being advantageous to you is if you join a site specifically for short people (which may or may not exist; I don't know).

 

There are some things in life that we all have to accept and work around.

[Mrlonelyone]

Five feet. I say go for it. After all to feel good about myself I have changed my appearance to embrace my feminine side quite a bit. How could I criticize you. There are just two points you should consider.

 

1.) The problem you have stems from issues that you, and the women you seek have with the stereotypes of gender we all toil under. As the man your supposed to be big and burly, she's supposed to be light and dainty. Never mind that 1/2 men and women are obese, and therefore 1/2 of women aren't dainty. never mind that 1/2 of men are shorter than 5'10". Try to find a woman who has gotten over the need to have a man in order to feel like a woman. A truly secure woman won't hold your height against you.

 

2.) Long legs are thought of as an attractive trait in a female. There is a danger that if you lengthen your legs to much it could make you look a bit feminine. Things like attitude, clothes and exercise can offset this. There are plenty of transmen who look and are totally macho to demonstrate this. Ideally a mans leg length equals his torso length, while a womans leggs are longer than her torso.

 

Thoes things said, try to realize that a quality woman. A woman who really likes you and wants to have your babies will not rule out out based on height. Many women will. However, it's not because something is wrong with you. More likely it is because they are insecure about being taller than a man.