sarahfort Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 I know this is silly. I've been with my guy for 2 years now, we're in our twenties and things are pretty serious. I have been so lucky in the last couple years, I see him a ton, we don't live together yet ( I'm a poor student), but we are together 5 or 6/7 nights a week. due to his career, he will have to be away for 2 months or longer every winter, to pursue his dreams which i support. He just left on family vacation for a week ( I couldn't attend , exam period) , and I'm kind of panicking now because I miss him SO much already and it's only been 1 day. I'm used to either being around him or being able to text. I've never been without communication. I miss him so bad, and I'm gonna have to go through this again for 5 weeks coming up soon. Please any advice on how to make missing him a little more bearable? I can keep myself busy but it's the evenings I know I'm really going to have a hard time with. Anybody have suggestions or past experience?
xdahliax Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Where is he going that he can't text or Skype?
Author sarahfort Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 he's gone right now to a resort, he didn't being his cell with him. But in january he's gone to arizona for 5-6 weeks and he'll have his cell but on limited text allowance since its more expensive. We'll be able to skype maybe 1-2 times a week. It still makes me sad though. I wish it was easy not to miss him.
Author sarahfort Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 I'm all the way up in canada so he'll be very far away...
xdahliax Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 he's gone right now to a resort, he didn't being his cell with him. But in january he's gone to arizona for 5-6 weeks and he'll have his cell but on limited text allowance since its more expensive. We'll be able to skype maybe 1-2 times a week. It still makes me sad though. I wish it was easy not to miss him. It honestly doesn't seem like he misses you nearly as much as you miss him. If he did, he would have brought his cell with him. I'm Canadian as well but I have a home in the southern U.S., I know that North American plans are not that expensive. Actually, they're very affordable. I understand that I don't really know the situation, but something about this seems off. I think you need to reexamine the relationship. If you think that you guys share a mutual level of attachment, then you can: distract yourself with friends, sign up for classes (cooking, art, dance, any hobby), volunteer. Basically find something that's new, exciting and that you're passionate about. You'll still miss him, but it should help.
Author sarahfort Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 Sorry, but he didnt bring his cell phone with him as it's an easy way to lose a 700$ phone. Even I wouldnt bring my iphone to a mexican resort with me. Its too expensive to text and not worth it if it got stolen. Secondly, he is going down to AZ to play golf, so he will be extremely busy, and even if he gets a US phone for 2 months, I'll miss him just the same. My question was asking for advice on how to make it seem easier, or people with stories on how they got through it. My relationship is much stronger than most - I'm just anxious about not being with him.
newmoon Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 perhaps involve yourself with some activities to take your mind off your bf - and that way when he does call/text/skype you will at least have things to tell him and not just 'i miss you.' his absence is providing you with an opportunity to work on yourself and strengthen the relationship. you might also consider sending some care packages or things his way to show you are thinking of him. just occupy your time with your own activities... it's not hard, and the longer someone is gone the easier it gets - the first few days/week is the toughest
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