What's up with him?

[ariannasins]

I've been seeing this guy for a month now. At first I didn't think he was my type but things are progressing. In his first email to me, he stated he wanted a partner/live in companion. On our first date, he took me to a nice restaurant and surprised me at his place. It was my bday and he got me flowers, 2 movie tickets and a bracelet. We talked all night and ended up making love.

 

I decided to leave the next morning because I was embarrassed. He made me a smoothie before I left. He told me to call him when I got home but I ended up falling asleep. He left me a long voicemail saying he missed me. Keep in mind he is 25 years older then me and I am 25. Anyways, he is very busy with work since he has his own biz. He went on a business trip for a few days then he called me again when he got back. We talked every day for the next few days. I didn't bother to call him because he called me. If I try to get off the phone, he loves to drag the convo.

 

The next date we went on, he took me out again. He never let's me pay when I offer. Whenever I eat out with him, he stares at me if im not looking. I told him this makes me nervous but he just chuckled. Also, he holds hands with me alot, kissing me in public. Also, when we got back to his place- he cups my face, looking deep in my eyes. We can't seem to keep our hands off each other as he is an amazing lover. I know he's a very busy man because he always had to fly out of state for important meetings but the next morning he asked if I could drive him to the airport instead. I said I couldn't because I only have to work in an hour and the commute was 40 mins away. We hugged and he walked me to my car.

 

He also said I'd be at his place more then I thought and told me to ask him what drinks/food to stock up on, in case I get hungry while I'm there..

 

Anyways, after his flight- he called me that same day early in the evening, leaving me a playful voice message. He just said he was worried if I got home safe.

 

I know it's too early to tell, but what's up with this guy? Does he dig me or something ? I'm afraid of getting hurt so I'm trying to push away emotions.

Edited December 7, 2012 by ariannasins

[Ninjainpajamas]

"I've been seeing this guy for a month now. At first I didn't think he was my type but things are progressing."

 

Senses fully active here.

 

"In his first email to me, he stated he wanted a partner/live in companion."

 

Hi, would you like to live with me and provide me with a vagina while I work and go out of town....all expenses paid, it's a pretty good deal!

 

"On our first date, he took me to a nice restaurant and surprised me at his place. It was my bday and he got me flowers, 2 movie tickets and a bracelet. We talked all night and ended up making love."

 

Older man experience and tactics paid off, swooning commenced on naive younger woman. "Charm" fully activated.

 

"I decided to leave the next morning because I was embarrassed. He made me a smoothie before I left. He told me to call him when I got home but I ended up falling asleep. He left me a long voicemail saying he missed me."

 

Aww he wants to know how his future live in FWB is doing...so sweet

 

"Keep in mind he is 25 years older then me and I am 25."

 

Another one bites the dust! yeah! ::jazz hands::

 

"Anyways, he is very busy with work since he has his own biz."

Poor guy, probably has so much difficulty finding a woman his own age...totally not used to swooning younger women. More reason to have a vagina sitting at home waiting for you, it's like a puppy, but better.

 

"He went on a business trip for a few days then he called me again when he

got back. We talked every day for the next few days. I didn't bother to call him because he called me. If I try to get off the phone, he loves to drag the convo."

 

Old people love to talk, what can you do!

 

Aw he didn't isn't even giving you time to breathe, gotta lock in that booty!

 

"The next date we went on, he took me out again. He never let's me pay when I offer. Whenever I eat out with him, he stares at me if im not looking. I told him this makes me nervous but he just chuckled. Also, he holds hands with me alot, kissing me in public."

 

Soaking in that young flesh and enjoying life, like rays shooting out of a unicorns @ss, surely he is in heaven...totally not perving you and thinking about rubbing his grey chest hair all over your young supple face, ooo baby!

 

"Also, when we got back to his place- he cups my face, looking deep in my eyes."

 

You're just so cute and cuddly that's why!..........and more importantly, young.

"We can't seem to keep our hands off each other as he is an amazing lover."

 

Oh I'm sure he is...after all, nothing like sinking your teeth into someone that could be your grown daughter....mmmm, if only you were 18!

 

"He also said I'd be at his place more then I thought and told me to ask him what drinks/food to stock up on, in case I get hungry while I'm there.."

 

Be my young vagina and "you could have whatever you liiiiiike, yeaaaa!"

 

"Anyways, after his flight- he called me that same day early in the evening, leaving me a playful voice message. He just said he was worried if I got home safe."

 

Aw, he's just like a good dad...so sweet, have you met his daughter that's your age yet, maybe he just leave dual voice messages and leaves the same for the both of you.

 

"I know it's too early to tell, but what's up with this guy? Does he dig me or something ? I'm afraid of getting hurt so I'm trying to push away emotions."

 

He digs your vagina...it's a pretty good fresh baby maker, and he's willing to serve you a silver platter for it.

 

So...

 

A) Have him buy you a new car, or lend you lots of money (and you can split it with me) or pay your college tuition or whatever, he'll go far to keep your around it seems like

 

B) Wake up and smell the coffee and realize you're just another young hot piece of @ss this man is charming up and swooning to the best his ability to lock you into a "situation" that is preferable for him.

 

I know it looks like he's all sweet, genuine and nice because guys don't do this kind of crap but they're also not twice your age and trying to bedazzle you with a facade (at least not on his level)...but this guy is major BSer, his moves are extremely obvious, he is trying to charm the sense out of you so that you can serve his needs.

 

He already told you the scenario and situation, you stick around this guy and he will get you...because you're not the first or last he's done this to, he just wants you to be his pleasure toy so he can take care of business and then you'll do the rest once your emotions kick in, he knows all he needs is time and to keep up the charm, and then you're done, your emotions will idealize this whole thing...he's not very good but with your lack of experience and his advantage, it doesn't take much to lock the naive in.

[ariannasins]

Hmmm, something tells me you posted this in a "sarcastic" manner. I was a bit appalled but FYI, I am not a gold digger.

 

I just happen to like older guys instead of ones my age since most are more experienced in the sack and secondly, know what they want in a woman.

 

Most of the younger guys don't know how to talk to a lady or are overly immature for my taste but hey- If I meet one who shows me different otherwise, that would be nice.

 

I suppose this is my fault since I started at 16, in a relationship with a 28 year old for 5 years.

[naviis]

Hmmm, something tells me you posted this in a "sarcastic" manner. I was a bit appalled but FYI, I am not a gold digger.

 

I just happen to like older guys instead of ones my age since most are more experienced in the sack and secondly, know what they want in a woman.

 

Most of the younger guys don't know how to talk to a lady or are overly immature for my taste but hey- If I meet one who shows me different otherwise, that would be nice.

 

I suppose this is my fault since I started at 16, in a relationship with a 28 year old for 5 years.

 

Meh -- to each his own.

 

Personally I'd say as sweet as he is right now, you two are still in the honeymoon phase so a) enjoy! b) don't let things go any faster than you want to c) enjoy.

[veggirl]

Sorry but gifts and whatnot on your first date is creepy as hell. "making love"? You didn't even know him! Ew I got squicked out just reading your post. He is a creep. He would be doing this for any young girl, it really has nothing to do with you specifically. He is doing what works, gifts and all the lovey words and taking care of you. He's obviously done this many, many times. It's not genuine. Take a step back, why would someone you don't barely KNOW be giving you gifts and making grand gestures and promises? He's just doing what he knows will make you swoon..........

[SJC2008]

I'm tired of reading threads about not wanting to get hurt and 3rd date pump and dumps when these posters mottos seem to be "Eff first and ask questions last". You want casual or a ONS you're an adult and it's your business... You want a relationshp, keep the lid on the cookie jar until you're confident he's not taking you for a ride. That won't weed them all out but you'll have better odds than putting out on the 1st date.

 

Guy sounds like what Ninja said. He wants a live in vagina to lay when he gets back from out of town.

[DC4]

Sorry but gifts and whatnot on your first date is creepy as hell. "making love"? You didn't even know him! Ew I got squicked out just reading your post. He is a creep. He would be doing this for any young girl, it really has nothing to do with you specifically. He is doing what works, gifts and all the lovey words and taking care of you. He's obviously done this many, many times. It's not genuine. Take a step back, why would someone you don't barely KNOW be giving you gifts and making grand gestures and promises? He's just doing what he knows will make you swoon..........

 

I've been dating a guy since summer and if he get's me an xmas present I will be quite :/ about it.

[naviis]

I've been dating a guy since summer and if he get's me an xmas present I will be quite :/ about it.

 

Well if he didn't get her anything for Xmas he'd be a crappy sugar daddy...

[jcrew11]

Hmmm, something tells me you posted this in a "sarcastic" manner. I was a bit appalled but FYI, I am not a gold digger.

 

I just happen to like older guys instead of ones my age since most are more experienced in the sack and secondly, know what they want in a woman.

 

Most of the younger guys don't know how to talk to a lady or are overly immature for my taste but hey- If I meet one who shows me different otherwise, that would be nice.

 

I suppose this is my fault since I started at 16, in a relationship with a 28 year old for 5 years.

 

You must be really HOT. Do you have any pictures?

 

I say go for it. George Clooney dates younger women all the time.

[Cutiepie1976]

Ninjainpajamas pretty much summed up your situation. Just make sure there isn't a wife in the background. That those are indeed business trips and not him returning home to wifey from his "business trips" to your kitty.

 

I don't think anyone considers you a gold digger. I just think you're naive and inexperienced. The guy is clearly a sugar daddy who is using you while you are in your prime dating years. But hey, you're happy with his little trinkets. He's happy sleeping with his daughter's age mates. You're both consenting adults in the transaction. Have at it while the good times last.