Pamkiss Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 The relationship I had with my boyfriend was quite intense. We were very much in love and happy. We started talking about marriage and future plans very early on. We both know we were at the same stage in life where we want to settle down. I am 27 and he's 28 and we're both stable in out jobs. We've been together for 8 months. However, about 2 months ago, things have gone very complicated. We both made mistakes and broke up a few times. We always ended back together because we really wanted to make the relationship work. It was very hard but we were still very happy. Things took the worst turn last Friday. Take note that we got back together 2 weeks prior to this from one of our 'breakups'. We were attending one of his friend's wedding and he got a shady text message from his ex. To sum it up, it seemed liked they've been talking for a while, talking about what I assume to be getting together. He gave me this lame excuse and it was obvious he was lying. So I asked him to back it up and call the girl in front of me to prove that what he's saying is true. He refused. I told him that if he wanted to save the relationship, this is the only way. Still, he refused. So we broke up. I am determined to move on now since he did not pursue me after that. He did not try to fight for me or anything. He keeps messaging and emailing me of "how much he loves me and he cant be without me, but that he wants me to find the guy for me". His messages always go along these lines, first saying he loves me etc. then pulling away, saying he's letting me go. Then he will send me messages saying he missed me so much and we should go forward with the trip we planned before we broke up. Then some messages will say, that his nights and mornings are the worst because he misses me so much. Or he doesn't expect us to get back together and he only wants us to be 'okay'. Mixed signals all around. At this point I am very confused. What is he trying to do? What are his intentions? Also, I already blocked him on Facebook, changed my number. So now he is emailing me. I don't know what to make of it. I do want him back but only if he sincerely fights for me and wants me back. Please help.
veggirl Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Well maybe his ex decided she didn't want to get back together with him after all. I can't believe you would even CONSIDER getting back together with this guy! He just wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants both you and his ex! Gross. He's a pig, a liar, and probably a cheater. He doesn't give a crap about you, only himself.
Author Pamkiss Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 i don't know for sure what they are actually talking about. The message i read said said something like (when translated) "Found it!" (might be a thing, place or person actually, no direct translation). This was his excuse and explanation, when we were broken up 2 weeks before he texted his ex for her to find him someone to date. If this is true, I dont have a right to be angry really as we were broken up then. But when I asked him to call her in front of me to prove this, he said no. I really want to know what he's doing with what all the messages or what he means by them. I want to know what his intentions are but I'm trying not to break NC.
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