na49 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Next week should be the last week that I have to see my ex in classes. Unless I see her around campus, I really shouldn't see her anymore. Do you think that this will help me to "forget" about her? Or do you think there's also a chance that not seeing her for a while will make me miss her and cause me to go backwards? I guess the question is for people who don't ever see their exes and people who go to school with their exes. How do you deal with seeing them around if and when you do. I also think I'm having a little trouble realizing that she's moved on and that I am moving on too. Probably because I'm still under the impression that our relationship was so great and we were perfect for eachother and all of that nonsense. I like to think that she'll miss me and everything but I know that she isn't. I miss the way she was but I find myself wanting her less and less but still haven't been able to go a day without thinking about her. Is there any way I can get myself to think of her less? I like to look at my progress and I'm happy with where I am now as opposed to a month or two ago. I'm just afraid of having a setback. At times I want to check her facebook and twitter to see what she's been up to but I haven't actually gone through with it because I also realize how it will hurt me. Are there any ways for me to prevent a setback?
ItxWillxGetxBetter Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 You will be better off not seeing your ex. You will heal faster trust me. I was sort of in your situation. I was still living with my ex when we broke up. The place we were living at belonged to my family. My ex had no where to go so we both decided that we would still live together. I had family around here but because it was my family's home I decided to stay as well (Yeah I know its complicated). I tried this for 3 days and realized how screwed up this situation was and I left. The more I was there the more I would be hurt and unable to move on. I left and its been close to 2 months and I'm a lot stronger. I think of her less and trust me it is MUCH better. There is no quick way to not think of your ex or not have setbacks for that matter. You can put yourself in situations where you can prevent those setbacks. For starters, you just have to avoid your ex like the plague and also not check up on her social media. In time you wont really care and wont really have an urge to see how they are doing. You just have to be strong and patient. It will suck for a bit but it does get better. Good luck.
Author na49 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 I've tried avoiding her, and fight my sudden urges to want to see what she's been up to. I am actually afraid that I will check up on her one day and set myself back. I know that I'll probably see things that I won't be able to unsee and I'll feel like I'm back at day 1 of the BU. Hopefully those sudden urges go away eventually. I also find myself checking my phone at times with an ounce of hope there is a text from her. I was about to block her number but talked myself out of it. I realize that I will have to do it eventually for my sake but I almost feel like once I do that, I'll have gotten rid of her completely which I don't know if I can do yet. It's confusing how I don't want to get rid of someone who got rid of me like it was nothing and treated me like dirt. Someone who doesn't care about me at all anymore, doesn't have my best interests in mind and goes weeks without thinking about me. and I still want her to come back.. how stupid is that?
suladas Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 It's not stupid, it's exactly how I felt to. Deleting their fb, number, etc is hard, my ex's number is still in my phone, I deleted it for a few days but put it back in. As much as I am 99% over my ex, I still want her back and care very much for her. Your feelings just change, seeing them no longer hurts. You stop checking your phone, you realize you are no longer in each others lives and just become ok with it. It's weird how the mind works. How you can want someone who has become completely cold towards you.
Author na49 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 It's not stupid, it's exactly how I felt to. Deleting their fb, number, etc is hard, my ex's number is still in my phone, I deleted it for a few days but put it back in. As much as I am 99% over my ex, I still want her back and care very much for her. Your feelings just change, seeing them no longer hurts. You stop checking your phone, you realize you are no longer in each others lives and just become ok with it. It's weird how the mind works. How you can want someone who has become completely cold towards you. It's pretty strange how it is so tough. I don't have her number on my phone, I realized that having it doesn't help me. I texted her nonstop asking for an apology (this was like a week after the BU) and got ignored nonstop. I went back to her crying like a dog. So I'm glad I put a stop to that. Sadly I still remember her number by heart, so I recognized it the past two Sundays that I got a simple "hey" text from her that I didn't respond to. I think I'm 99% over my ex, I care for her but also don't. I don't know if she cares for me anymore, I like to think she does but I'm sure she doesn't. I guess the longer I go without seeing her, the better it will be. Not looking at her when I do see her has helped although I feel a little weird. I know that looking at her still pisses me off. Maybe I'm not as over her as I thought.
suladas Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 It's pretty strange how it is so tough. I don't have her number on my phone, I realized that having it doesn't help me. I texted her nonstop asking for an apology (this was like a week after the BU) and got ignored nonstop. I went back to her crying like a dog. So I'm glad I put a stop to that. Sadly I still remember her number by heart, so I recognized it the past two Sundays that I got a simple "hey" text from her that I didn't respond to. I think I'm 99% over my ex, I care for her but also don't. I don't know if she cares for me anymore, I like to think she does but I'm sure she doesn't. I guess the longer I go without seeing her, the better it will be. Not looking at her when I do see her has helped although I feel a little weird. I know that looking at her still pisses me off. Maybe I'm not as over her as I thought. Ya if seeing her makes you angry you're not quite there yet. Seeing her should make you feel nothing. It's a good feeling. Ya I deleted it but knew it by heart to and didn't see the need as I never looked at old texts or anything anyway. Plus even the few times I contacted her in the last few months I didn't care. It's only been a week since having contact with her and it didn't phase me at all. It's not worth thinking about what you think she feels, none of it matters. Because whether she cares about you or not, she doesn't want to get back together so nothing else matters.
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