somedude81 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 After my class ended without accomplishing everything I wanted to, some members suggested that I friend some of the girls and message them. So now I did that and had a fun little conversation with a girl last night and now I'm stuck. What do I do next? Obviously I don't want to just be FB friends with her. I'm not sure if I should try to get her to meet up with me right away or chat to her some more, if so what about. One benefit to communicating over text is that it allows my humor to come through more easily. I can do the same thing in person, but need a little more time to warm up. Any ideas how I should play it with this girl? I'm also planning on adding a couple of more girls from my class and start with them as well. And yeah, I friended a couple of guys as well. 1
Drseussgrrl Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Yes. Get off Facebook and call her up like a MAN. 2
iris219 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Go ahead and ask her out (or ask for her number). A guy who talks to me, but won't ask me out gets relegated to friendship status because I assume he isn't interested. My last date came from a guy finding me on FB and asking me out. I wouldn't have entertained chatting with him; it's not my style and chatting with near strangers bores me, but I love going out (as do most girls).
scratch Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 But the only reason a guy talks to a woman for any length of time is in hopes of getting between her legs. That's an odd reason for you to constantly be on this messageboard. How have you fared thus far in talking to the women here? I only met one so far, and haven't gotten to pee in her butt yet, but I think I am wearing her down. Let's you and I keep trying, you sly devil. That's what sex is, right? When you pee in her butt? I probably have a lot to learn from you about sex as well as picking up women.
scratch Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 There are no women here. This is the internet. Are you enjoying your discussions here with the hundreds of dudes pretending to be women? Let's you and I end all our posts with "Tits or GTFO." I'm learning so much from you, I kinda feel like I should send you some money. $1 Million sound okay? Just PM me your bank account number, and when I get back from Nigeria I'll give you the cash.
Author somedude81 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 LittlePrince and scratch, take it outside please. Yes. Get off Facebook and call her up like a MAN. Go ahead and ask her out (or ask for her number). A guy who talks to me, but won't ask me out gets relegated to friendship status because I assume he isn't interested. My last date came from a guy finding me on FB and asking me out. I wouldn't have entertained chatting with him; it's not my style and chatting with near strangers bores me, but I love going out (as do most girls). OK, so I should try to ask her out now? No I don't have her number, but she has it listed on her page. I could ask her for it just to make it official that I asked. Next week is finals so I don't think she'd want to go out until then. Any ideas how I should bring it up? Should I try to have a conversation with her first before I ask her or just ask her in a random message. She's Vietnamese so I'm thinking about asking her if there are any good Vietnamese restaruants in the area and somehow getting her to go to one with me. 1
veggirl Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Tell her you'd like to take her out to celebrate the end of finals! and you can just bring it up. next time you chat to her. I think its fine to ask via fb chat for now. 2
c57dood Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Be bold dude. Don't use facebook, every lame o does that. Look her in the eyes and ask her out. Getting rejected in real life is like having a girl slap you in the face. It stings for a little bit, but then you heal up and move on.
Author somedude81 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 Be bold dude. Don't use facebook, every lame o does that. Look her in the eyes and ask her out. Getting rejected in real life is like having a girl slap you in the face. It stings for a little bit, but then you heal up and move on. That ship has sailed already. Unless I arrange something through Facebook, I most likely won't see her again. Tell her you'd like to take her out to celebrate the end of finals! and you can just bring it up. next time you chat to her. I think its fine to ask via fb chat for now. Hey I like that, I think I can throw that in there in the middle of a conversation. I think I'll send her a message tomorrow and invite her to get something when classes are over. Also, I'm guessing there isn't any point in chatting with her unless I'm planning on asking her out in that conversation.
TheBigQuestion Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Whatever you do, don't word it like it's some sort of buddy-buddy hangout. Make it unambiguous that you're taking her out.
Author somedude81 Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 Whatever you do, don't word it like it's some sort of buddy-buddy hangout. Make it unambiguous that you're taking her out. And that's where things start to get complicated for me. Thanks for bringing that up. Any suggestions on how t word it?
Imajerk17 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Send her a message: "Hey [girl's name] I'd like to take you out to celebrate the end of finals but I don't want to be lame and set it up over Facebook. Give me a number I can reach you at and I will give you a call. Somedude [your number here]" 1
c57dood Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 That ship has sailed already. Unless I arrange something through Facebook, I most likely won't see her again. Not trying to be mean, but the window of opportunity for girls has a small time frame and like the poster after me said, now you gotta worry about her thinking it's a buddy buddy situation because you didn't take advantage of the instances where you DID have the chance to ask her out and make it clear. If I were you, I'd forget about her and move on and try again with someone else.
TheBigQuestion Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Not trying to be mean, but the window of opportunity for girls has a small time frame and like the poster after me said, now you gotta worry about her thinking it's a buddy buddy situation because you didn't take advantage of the instances where you DID have the chance to ask her out and make it clear. If I were you, I'd forget about her and move on and try again with someone else. Wrong. Just because he hasn't already asked her out in person doesn't mean a thing. People hook up via Facebook all the time. Whether it's "lame" in anyone's view is irrelevant. It works, he's into the girl, and for the time being, it's his only means of communicating with her. Therefore, he should make use of it. What does he have to lose?
veggirl Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 If I were you, I'd forget about her and move on and try again with someone else. They've had like ONE one-on-one convo outside of class! The ship has not sailed! And he should def not forget about her before he even ASKS!! SD just chat her and tell her basically what Imajerk said. I wouldn't do it in a message (email) cause that's too easy for her ignore. A Chat she will likely respond to, regardless of the answer. An email type message she might ignore. 1
espec10001 Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Wrong. Just because he hasn't already asked her out in person doesn't mean a thing. People hook up via Facebook all the time. Whether it's "lame" in anyone's view is irrelevant. It works, he's into the girl, and for the time being, it's his only means of communicating with her. Therefore, he should make use of it. What does he have to lose? Well, he better be prepared to have to convince this girl it isn't just a friendly get together. He could've avoided all that if he had just made clear his intentions in real life from the get-go. Facebook is a virus and Mark Zuckerberg should be executed. 1
Lonely Ronin Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 Ask her if she want's to go a salsa club with you. One other thing get rid of that avatar....
Author somedude81 Posted December 8, 2012 Author Posted December 8, 2012 Bah, I can't think of anything to start a chat conversation/message with. I'm thinking about just calling her a dork because the interests on her page are pretty nerdy even though she doesn't seem like a nerd girl at all and then just see how the conversation goes. I'd message her something like "I knew it, you're a total dork " Then we'll talk about her interests for a bit and so on. 2
veggirl Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Bah, I can't think of anything to start a chat conversation/message with. I'm thinking about just calling her a dork because the interests on her page are pretty nerdy even though she doesn't seem like a nerd girl at all and then just see how the conversation goes. I'd message her something like "I knew it, you're a total dork " Then we'll talk about her interests for a bit and so on. teasing might work. try it!! (I'm serious) and then ask her out ffs! now, wait for the yelling about how girls hate that and wow SD you are really mean.
Author somedude81 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 (edited) Well I sent that message to her many hours ago hoping to start a conversation but she didn't bite, no reply Guess that's it then and now to pretend I never knew her? I really should have asked her out while we were still in class. Oh well, just another mistake not to be repeated. Edited December 9, 2012 by somedude81
Meeks7 Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I really should have asked her out while we were still in class. Oh well, just another mistake not to be repeated. Aren't you tired of making the same mistakes over and over? What action steps are you going to take to make a change?
Lonely Ronin Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 Well I sent that message to her many hours ago hoping to start a conversation but she didn't bite, no reply Jesus man, do you know for a fact that she has read it and didn't reply? It's Saturday she might not have even looked at FB today.
Author somedude81 Posted December 9, 2012 Author Posted December 9, 2012 I sent it around 2 and it's 8 now. Yeah it's possible she hasn't seen it yet. I still don't think she'd reply. I'm negative that way. If I don't get a reply from her by Monday or so, should I try to send another message / try to chat with her, or just forget about her?
veggirl Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I sent it around 2 and it's 8 now. Yeah it's possible she hasn't seen it yet. I still don't think she'd reply. I'm negative that way. If I don't get a reply from her by Monday or so, should I try to send another message / try to chat with her, or just forget about her? On tuesday send her a chat when she is online and say "I see you are ignoring my message can I take you out to celebrate the end of finals?" or something. who cares...you've got nothing to lose.
Lonely Ronin Posted December 9, 2012 Posted December 9, 2012 I sent it around 2 and it's 8 now. Yeah it's possible she hasn't seen it yet. I still don't think she'd reply. I'm negative that way. If I don't get a reply from her by Monday or so, should I try to send another message / try to chat with her, or just forget about her? Personally I would do nothing. If she is anyway interested in you she will respond. If responds and declines, and doesn't offer an alternative date/time/activity then she is not interested in you romantically (at least right now).
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