If the dumper finds someone else, is that considered a REBOUND RELATIONSHIP?

[singleman]

My girlfriend dumped me while she was in the process of being interested in someone else. And only after a few days that she told me that it was over, she was already out with this other guy. Is that considered a Rebound Relationship, or is a Rebound only for the Dumpee?

[dyermaker]

: Who cares? Isn't it just semantics?

 

You can call it whatever you want.

[singleman]

good point, but just curious

[daphne]

Single,

 

It is a rebound in the sense that the person didn't have the guts to cut it off when they realized that things weren't working out and needed someone else to run to. You and I both know that some go from one to the next to the next. If she really liked this guy and took you for granted, it's not the same kind of rebound that you experience when you get rejected (not the feeling of desperation because you assume you can always go back to the person you rejected) but it's still a rebound.

 

But it's unhealthy either way, in my opinion. I did it in my early 20's 3 times in a row (divorced a guy, dated & broke up with a guy, engaged a guy then broke the engagement, then went solo) and by the time I landed on my feet after 2 bad guys and one ok guy, I was a mess. It all caught up to me at once. I don't wish that on anyone. Weak people need others to keep themselves from experiencing the emptiness that occurs after a breakup. I was weak and I ended up with a few losers because I didn't take the time to see what they were about and just took whatever was available. That's pretty sad when you make a habit out of it.

 

I wouldn't even bother wondering what's going on in her head. You will be better off without her. And once you're over it you'll have lost respect because you'll see more clearly that she's a little screwed up.

[Papillon]

I don't thing there was any rebound. She never went down to bounce, she kept going ith someone else. You are the only one who is gonna go down. But like dyer said, "who cares, isn't it just semantics?"