sarahfort Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 A little background, we've been together for 2 years, and we're in our twenties. We used to live an hour apart and see each other on the weekends, and for the last year he has been living in the city , about 15 minutes away. Since then, we haven't really gone more than 2 days without seeing each other, we always text and never run out of things to talk about. He is absolutely the love of my life and I know he feels the same. I am a full time student, and his job is seasonal, and requires him to practice on his own time throughout the winter. Right now he has gone on a week long vacation with him family. I was invited but I had to turn it down, because of an important exam. I feel bad for being so jealous, but I am. I am stressed out over school, wishing I was on vacation, and I can't talk to or see my boyfriend for a week. Its only been a day and I had NO idea i would miss him this much. ( I know its only a week and it's not a long time, but it's still hard for me). I can't even occupy my time going out with friends, I need to stay in studying:( Has anybody else ever felt so miserable when they're loved ones are away? I just feel pathetic and weak like I shouldn't be so sad that he's gone for a week. My world is feels so much better when he's in it. Also, as I was saying about his job, He will be gone for 5 weeks this winter, and next year he could be gone as long as 3-4 months. I guess I've really scared myself a little. If I get so sad about him being gone for a week, how am I going to be able to cope when he's gone for a month or longer?! I never really thought about the idea of having to spend time away from him on a regular basis. I am not worried about him cheating or anything like that, he loves me more than anything and i know it. I guess I'm just looking on some advice on how to not miss him so badly, or ways to make it seem easier on my heart. I get so anxious thinking about how badly i'll miss him when he's away.
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Your life should not revolve completely around a relationship. That's not healthy. Besides you'll end up smothering the person and he'll resist and withdraw over time. See this one-week vacation as a wake-up call to develop your own interests and hobbies. To become your own person again. Have other things and people who fill your life. You'll be more interesting if you do so, and less dependent on a single person.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Yes, it's normal...and no it doesn't mean he's the "love of your life"....that will be tested, don't worry. It sucks though because it's the holidays and who wants to be studying and no on vacation...especially without your SO. It's an emo time of the year basically, especially if you can't be around loved ones. You'll manage to deal with the missing emotion, it's something that is likely to happen as you get older and until you're really settled down into your career and depending on the type of career it can be more of the same. So 3 or 4 months? typical or common in LDR relationships, it's just something you've got to deal with and after going through it...trust me, you question going through it ever again because it sucks bad. Everything you're going through is normal though, it's comes with the territory in these kinds of situations...doesn't mean it's more "special" or that "you're so in love" unfortunately, you could not make it through the LDR portion of this relationship, cheating can happen when feeling lonely and missing affection as time goes on, more easily than you may realize.
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