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Okay, so I'm 21 and I've been doing martial arts since i was about 10. From when I very started, I had always had a crush for years on my instructors son who used to train as well - I mean I was absolutely in love with him, you know teens haha.

 

When I saw him, I got that 'warm and fuzzy' feeling, which I have never had with anyone else. But there was another feeling, some kind of extreme deep happiness or love and shiver at the same time! It's so weird I couldn't ever explain it properly.

 

So I stopped training for a few years, and I didn't see him. Since I stopped seeing him, I have never had that "feeling" about anything or anyone. Not ever again!

 

Then I served him at my work randomly, my gosh, the same exact feeling I felt. But I didn't stay in touch. Because the feeling is so, dreamy, I feel like contacting him would be pushing some boundary, does that make any sense?!

 

Then about a week ago he came back to training just for a visit... My sister went and hugged him, and he asked her if I was there..

 

Me, having anxiety problems and possible depression, I've been in a state of 'depression' for ages. When I saw him, (again) wow the first time the depression went away for years! It was like magic.

 

He's single, and I'm single. But I don't have his number, and I'm afraid to start the contact with him, he seems so dreamy like he's untouchable!.. Wow I must sound weird, but i cannot explain this!

 

I'm going crazy thinking about him,so.. what is this crazy feeling...why can't I get myself to speak to him or contact him? What on earth should I do?!

23 minutes ago - 4 days left to answer.

 

 

 

And he's not "so hot" thats why I like him... It's something much more than that! We have some weird connection, gah, i wish i knew what it was...

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Next time you see him just start a convo and then after you chat for a little while say something like "I would love to get together sometime and catch up more, can I text you?" And that's it lol if he gives you the number text and try to set something up.

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I'm going crazy thinking about him,so.. what is this crazy feeling...

 

The crazy feeling is a fantasy relationship you've spent years building up in your head.

 

We have some weird connection, gah, i wish i knew what it was...

 

Careful using the word "we." YOU feel a connection with him. Right now, there is no indication that he feels the same way toward you.

 

So, what to do? Can you send him a friend request on Facebook? That way you could at least bring youself more into his orbit (assuming he accepts), to see if he shows any interest in you? Either that or flirt with him the next time you see him. I also think you should date other guys. The fact that you have been crushing on this guy for years (and reading between the lines, think you are in love with him) is not healthy.

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Then about a week ago he came back to training just for a visit... My sister went and hugged him, and he asked her if I was there..

Were you?

 

Did you talk to him?

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