Kateskates Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 This summer around July I met a guy on chat roulette..sounds super sketch believe me I know haha..but ever since that night we texted skyped face timed talked on the phone you name it we always stayed in contact. Shortly after meeting online, like a week, we had fallen for eachother hard. We clicked so well, and for those few months everything was perfect minus the fact we weren't together. Then things get complicated. He got back together with his ex so naturally I try to stop talking to him. Doesn't work, can't stand not talking to him. So we do this on and off again talking thing which is emotionally draining. I knew he had a girlfriend but he made excuses saying he needs the presence of a girl around because of some childhood problems. I try my best to understand. We do this whole on and off again thing every 1-2 weeks. This lasted up til te beginning of November when I decide I need to do what's best for me and not talk to him until he's single..because it just didn't feel right to me for him to have a gf while saying he had all these feelings for me. It's been one long agonizing month. Keep in mind this whole time he's telling me I'm the girl of his dreams and he truly wanted to marry me. He was serious about it too, and I felt/feel the same way and I think he still does. Ill be going to college in the fall aka more freedom aka ill be able to meet him. BASICALLY what I'm asking is YOUR OPINION ON MY SITUATION? My friends legit think I'm crazy and they don't understand what I'm goi g through so they dont support it. Pleeeeeeease help it would mean the world to me. I really need people who have experienced this to talk to
Sasu Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 He have a girlfriend but says he have feelings for you as well and wants to marry you ..Its clear he dun got control on his feelings and wants both at the moment ( you and the gf) ..where do you think it will lead to honestly ? You are doing okay with no talking for a month at the moment.One month is decent time ,If he cared.He would be with you by now & leave the gf ( the one he doesn't feel for acc to him ) xx Stay strong.
justwhoiam Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 You are doing okay with no talking for a month at the moment.One month is decent time ,If he cared.He would be with you by now & leave the gf ( the one he doesn't feel for acc to him ) xx Stay strong. I agree with that. 1) He must choose. 2) Meet him. 3) Don't go too far with him before meeting him, and when you meet up, don't sleep with him, get to know him in person. 4) Let him come to you. 5) Keep the no contact rule, and see if he gets back to you. If he doesn't, forget about the previous 4 points.
Author Kateskates Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 My guess is that he really likes/loves you, but keeps the other girl for sex. That's why you could have a really deep conversation with him, and see what's REALLY going on. Talk about his real need of being with that girl. Talk about the potential future of you together. PS: Anytime I hear a story where a guy talks about marriage and long life together with a girl he's been with for just a few months...a BIG RED FLAG comes up for me. Keep in mind that guys tend to tell girls "what they want to hear" for different reasons, I don't know exactly what yours could be, however it seems a little manipulative. And I'll live you with a quote, that fits great in your situation: His Actions Speak Louder Than His Words. See we have had many manyyy deep conversations over text and Skype about our feelings and I really think he's the one for me and they way he'd talk to me you'd think we were married. That sounds crazy, but he would go on and on about how much he loved me. The feelings were so super strong and we were so open and honest about our feelings, which makes letting go all the more hard. I miss him like crazy. But I know if I reach out to him again the wheels will keep turning. On and off again and I just can't handle that, although having him in my life is amazing ugh I love him and just talking about it gives me butterflies. I honestly have no idea what to do anymore. Like tswift said "it rains when you're here and it rains when you're gone". I'm dying to know if its killing him like its killing me
bluegreen Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 NO ONE died from lack of sex period !!! Sorry to say he might love you in his own way actually more like fancy you but he is not in love with you she is not a wife he has no kids or puppies with her why would it be hard to leave then ? Cut it off MEAN IT and watch what happens if he loves you he will leave her. OR Keep giving him reasons to stay and f... her when you are not with him while on another hand fool around with you online while she is not there and he will go on happy as clam in shell but what about you eh ? I don't want to embarrass you or hurt you but you need someone to tell you like it is ... 1
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