Frank13 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I have known her about a year and I see her at her work place every few weeks and talk briefly. She is 40. Tried to get to know her a little bit and have been taking it very slow. Went out on a second date with her and she spent most of the time showing me photos of herself, her cousins, kids, house, place where she used to live, her on vacation, etc. Some of the pictures were of her in bikinis and she has an incredible body. The main emphasis was showing me photo after photo of herself. She had a ton of them. So what the hell does this mean? I almost felt like she was doing this to avoid conversation. It is one thing to show pictures for a few minutes but this went on for damn near an hour and a half. Never got into any deep conversation. At the end of the date she kissed me on the cheek and gave me a hug and left. I called her today, and it went to voicemail. Told her I had a good time and I would like to see her again. Haven't heard back. I know there are all these games about waiting a few days and not seeming desperate, but at this point I am not emotionally involved and figured if she wants to go out again she will, and if not she won't.
dasein Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Well, you have to take the reins in early dating. How did you end up on a second date looking at photos? Don't allow things like that to happen in the future. You should plan early dates to be fun and at least partially active. As far as specifics, try not to leave broad date invites via VM. If your call to ask out for the next date goes to VM, simply leave your name, number and ask her to return the call. If she doesn't, wait several days to a week and ask out again. If that goes to VM and she doesn't return the call, move to other options. No way to tell what it means with respect to her showing all the photos. It's possible she wanted to let you into her life some, or on the other end to chase you off by boring you. It shows social maladjustment on her part to do that, but not a hanging offense. Good luck.
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