Lone Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Hi all, Ive recently broken up with my now ex gf. Two weeks 2 days officially but things were a bit distant a week or so before hand also. If you would like some backround info here are some previous threads and lord knows i would appreciate it: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/356788-gf-assistance#post4386324 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/358873-when-break-nc If you do read the above. Thank you. The past few weeks have been some of the worst and hardest times of my life. I have begun to see counsellors, started on anti-depressants and have been a burden on my family who only want me to recover form this. At the moment we aren't currently speaking. From all accounts shes happy with the split (or atleast is acting as such). For better or for worse i have to accept her decision and begin to move on with my life. Ive spent countless hours on here and alike reading "how to get her back/move on" guides. A similar theme throughout is that you need to actually let go before there is any chance of getting them back or even recovering yourself. Obviously im still hoping she will realise with time she made a mistake or miss me or what have you. My issue is that we run in the same social circle, share multiple mutual friends and I simply cannot just avoid her at all costs because this will A) alienate me from my friends B) be obvious that im avoiding her and just cant deal with the situation. So what im asking is...how do i act around her when i see her? Our last few interactions via text havent been normal to say the least. The last text i sent pretty much told her to pick up her stuff asap. - I was trying to gain a bit of self respect back as i had begged and pleaded the week earlier. Now im at the point where im thinking i may email her just to try break the ice...with this... Look im just writing to email you in an attempt to break the ice/cool the jets whatever you want to call it. Im really uncomfortable with where we are at and i really cant understand how we got to this point where it seems like we cant even speak to each other. I also want to apologise for my behaviour last week when u saw me last. It wasn't my finest hour so hopefully can leave it at that. Youve been my dearest friend for the past 6+ months and now i get the impression you dont want to know me? And as cliche as it sounds i do really want you to be happy. With yourself. Your life. Everything. As I know you do me. You've been a huge part of my life and i always thought we would remain friends unconditionally but lately am thinking you may not feel the same. We are going to see each other around and i would like for us to be able to interact and spin yarns as usual. Can you let me know because i dont want to play games - your someone i consider myself to be very close to and really have no reason to feel otherwise. I accept and agree that this is the best thing for both of us. It didnt work out for whatever reason. **** happens. Im dealing with it and have had some really good things happening lately which can maybe discuss another time... Im not sure if this email is a good idea however. She has picked up all her stuff from my apartment and things just seem to be very tense between us... any advice please
NavyAirTraffic Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I wouldn't send that email (I might be too late). Reading without emotion (most likely how she'll read it) you sound needy and weak.... sorry. -Sorry for my behavior- who the hell is she that you can't get angry, voice your opinion, yell, etc. I don't know exactly what you did, but that doesn't matter. You don't answer to anyone. -You don't want to know me?- I'm not good enough for you? -I want you to be happy- Your happiness is more important than mine, even though you want nothing to do with me. -Like to interact- How would you like me to behave around you, teach me. This is what I read. Every move you make here on out ask yourself "what would Brad Pitt do?". Sounds stupid right, but what do you think he'd do in your situation, send that email? He is a high value male, and high value males don't chase people that don't want to be with them, their not nice to people who aren't interested in them, they don't ask for forgiveness from someone who's unavailable.
Author Lone Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 I wouldn't send that email (I might be too late). Reading without emotion (most likely how she'll read it) you sound needy and weak.... sorry. -Sorry for my behavior- who the hell is she that you can't get angry, voice your opinion, yell, etc. I don't know exactly what you did, but that doesn't matter. You don't answer to anyone. -You don't want to know me?- I'm not good enough for you? -I want you to be happy- Your happiness is more important than mine, even though you want nothing to do with me. -Like to interact- How would you like me to behave around you, teach me. This is what I read. Every move you make here on out ask yourself "what would Brad Pitt do?". Sounds stupid right, but what do you think he'd do in your situation, send that email? He is a high value male, and high value males don't chase people that don't want to be with them, their not nice to people who aren't interested in them, they don't ask for forgiveness from someone who's unavailable. Navy. Thank you very much. You are completely right. I wont send it. Im nervous about running into her etc but maybe I can just tell myself to act like Brad when/if I do. I do miss my friend very much. But i've just come across this page which is very helpful: When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You | Getting Past Your Breakup bit corny but it speaks to me right now. SO you dont think i should be friends with her? i dont want to be or make people feel uncomfortable when we are both in the same room. We are in similar circles so I will see her around.... but thank u i wont be sending that email. atleast with those lines in it. your a champ
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