sydneylovesyou123 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I have posted before about my issue I am having with my LDR. The fact that we had a wonderful summer together, but then he took off for Pharmacy School, which is an accelerated program. We started dating in July and at the end of August is when he went away. We talked today after almost breaking up, he doesn't know what he wants and says that he hasn't really "thought" about it. My assumptions are that his full attention is on school. Both I and his mother have discussed the fact that we do not see this school fitting for him. But I continue to support whatever decision he makes, since I want him to succeed. My boyfriend is constantly super stressed about school. Today he told me he knows he isn't the same person when he has stressed. Hence why his last girlfriend cheated on him because of similar issues. He says that he doesn't want me to take on the stress, but has heard that long distance relationships don't really work out. I explained to him that both people have to be in it fully. He also said that when he gets stressed he doesn't want to talk about anything with anyone or anybody. He's very independent. Although he hasn't been diagnosed, I feel as though he is going through a depression. We are from the same hometown, and went to the same college before he went to grad school, but have only been dating for 5 months. When I told him all I needed was more than a few text messages a day, and for him to want to know what is going on in my life. I know that he is so entirely busy he doesn't really have the time, but he said he would try it. Notes: I am always there for him. I feel as though school is taking over his life and his thoughts aren't clear when it comes to me. Should I be concerned that he is acting this way? When we are together, everything is perfectly wonderful. But the moment he goes back to school, he is very unhappy. Would words of encouragement help a lot? Or should I just not answer his text messages right away to make him wonder where I AM. Because I'm always there for him, does he not know what he wants with anything because of his depression with school? Guys---your input would be greatly appreciated because I don't understand what is going through guy's minds all the time. I hope that all made sense, I'm sorta rambling. Thanks!!
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