Sun Devil Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 One of my lab partners is this girl who I have developed an interest with. I have talked to her a few times over the past month, but have done nothing outside of class with her. How should I ask her out?
DC4 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 You can splatter her with burning sulfur like I did to my lab partner one year (on accident). Hint: it didn't work. Seriously though, I'd wait until you're almost done being partners. What happens if things go south and you still have to work that closely together?
Author Sun Devil Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 We are only doing one more project. Why should I wait? How should I ask her out?
charlietheginger Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 ask her out after the lab is over.... If you ask her out she says no.... That sexual tension you felt Will quickly turn to akward Feelings of " u beeech "
MikeyBe Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 If you want to be confident about it then invite her to something specific at a specific time. Or you can be more casual and ask her what she's doing after lab and invite her to a bite to eat or a coffee or a drink or whatever. Or you can be loosey goosey about it and invite her to kick it with you and your friends somewhere or invite her and her friends to something like a party.
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 The problem is you should already have a gauge for her interest level and set some ground work for a potential date. Right now you're going in as a blind man, there's been nothing happening between the two of you, nothing flirtatious, no type of interest, you've only spoken to her a time or two. If you're going to ask her out, ask in a way that doesn't give full intention of what you are trying to do "date her", since she's your lab partner that should be such an easy in to make small talk and conversation...that's honestly where you should have been getting to know her to see what's there. The average guy looks for "in's" to raise small talk, while over thinking it a thousand times at least he accomplishes his goal...somewhat, and although likely to be friendzoned. Too many men are trying to turn water into wine, when you have an opportunity to flirt with someone and gauge the interest level it's wise to do that before putting all your cards on the table, so that by the time you ask her out it's a no brainer practically, there should some kind of tension or attraction level present. I think if you just ask her out it'll look like you're trying too hard, it's really frustrating seeing how a lot of the guys operate with women they are interested in...I swear, it's like they are almost intentionally shooting themselves in the foot, but it's really just a lack of ability to have a good conversation with another human being to gauge what is there, if anything...if you're interested still then just ask her out, I mean really...is it going to make a difference how you do it at this point? If she says yes it'll be a lucky shot, if she says no then you just added some awkwardness to a for lack of a better term "professional" situation in which I'd just pretend it never happened and conduct yourself so. You've used none of your opportunities to get to know this woman/girl...maybe there wasn't a lot, but if there is one you need to be able to take advantage of it...you can't just think about it and sit on it then react, you have to react first because the opportunity will pass you by, then it's just too late...timing is extremely important and it displays confidence in yourself. If you back away when the time is right, it could make a difference between a woman being intrigued by you or simply overlooking you and grouping you into the rest of the herd...which is off your radar. 1
phineas Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I would get the beakers for my lab partner. LOL! She asked me to go to some hippie-fest over the weekend last day of lab, after the lab was over & I turned her down because I made plans to have friends over to help me replace my muffler system. Yeah, I was pretty friggen stupid back then. As you can guess she lost all interest in me & never returned my phone calls. So if women wait until then so should op.
jcrew11 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Get her Facebook information. Add her. Find out if she has a boyfriend or if she is seeing anyone. Find out some of her interests, so you can have something to talk about, after class. If something cool is happening, like a concert, that she would like, as her to go to it. If a friend is having a party, ask her to go to the party. Or just ask her what she's doing on Friday night, and if you want to get drinks. Ask her to help you study, or to borrow her notes.
Author Sun Devil Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 I plan on asking her if she wants to do something fun this weekend. when I ask her, I will be more specific. Do you think that this would work or is it too blunt?
PrinceAli94 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I plan on asking her if she wants to do something fun this weekend. when I ask her, I will be more specific. Do you think that this would work or is it too blunt? How close are you two? Can you comfortably converse with her and talk about things outside of your lab work? Sounds to me like you might want to warm her up to you a bit more, otherwise you advances might come off like you said, too blunt.
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