Oberfeldwebel Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 There is not a worse time of the year to go through this than Christmas. Everyone around you is high on the holidays, so the depression over the ending of a relationship seems to be even worse than it would normally. I recommend that you use this separation constructively. 1. I ASSUME that the agreement addresses visitation, stick to this strictly as it will reduce unnecessary interaction with ex and develop a routine for your daughter that will give her security of what is going to happen. 2. Stop communicating with her except for legal or daughter issues. You know she is seeing someone else, the rest is irrelevant. 3. Work on you (exercise, hobbies, work, volunteer to help others), this will take the focus off of the turmoil and help make you a better you. Also it may allow you to meet new people. Look to do things you have always wanted to do, but have never had the chance to do before (bucket list). 4. Don't waste your time with a half-hearted reconciliation. Unless she is interested in an open committed relationship with you and only you, don't bother playing second fiddle for her. You are worth so much more to settle for her selfish behavior. 5. Don't wait for her to decide what will happen to you. When you have had time to heal and are ready to move on, move on. Make your plan and execute it as is in your best interest. Best of luck. 1
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