Kristine Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Okay so he has texted me daily, so I'm pretty sure he's still interested. But here's the question. He told me today he's feeling better, yet he didn't say anything about setting our next date. So I noticed this and texted him back saying Glad he's feeling better and to let me know if/when he wants to go out again. I added the if so I wouldn't seem as pushy. But I like him so I'm kind of acting a little crazy about things, co-worker friends think so at least. History Usually a guy pursues me, and I'm all not interested acting but the fact of the matter was I WASN'T INTERESTED and it wasn't an act. So they pursued harder and I ended up married to those two pursuers because well persistence pays off with me. Now this guy is laying low, compared to what I'm used to, except in person he was quite different. My 2nd husband was a virgin when we met so I was the sexual pursuer, my plan was to use him (yeah smart I know) for sex and well I didn't realize he was a virgin until I knew I took his virginity. Then I had family/friend pushing us together so I married him/divorced him when it finally dawned on me it was my life not theirs and now I'm meeting a guy I really like and don't know how to act! Additional Questions How long to resist his very desirable ways? He asked me to his place several times during our first date, I said no though a part of me wanted to say yes. I am human, it has been a long time, and he's a man I so want to be with, but I want more than just sex with this guy. What do I do to secure a 2nd date? Do I just wait? I HATE waiting. It's just the worst part of dating. How often should I be texting him? Do I ever call? I'm dying to but I don't call, but I'm dying to call him. I want to hear his voice. Tell me how to act when it's a guy I actually like? I know how to get married to guys I don't like, tell how to make it work with one I do!? Please
charlietheginger Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 The poster above is correct this is not 1952 this is 2012.... Women always follow that stupid book " the rules " book was written over 40 yrs Ago ...sure some rules apply but a lot Don't guys have more options then meeting A girl at church, highschool or at work thats how it was 40 50 yrs ago Guys nowadays have OLD social events Concerts,singles groups, bars,night clubs... if a girl wants a guy nowadays she has to.equally show Interest or guy explores other options
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Call him missy if you wanna callm speak to him and setup the date. You have to do a little pushing too...so call and ask for a night out. See what happen. Fear will not let you know - but he will.
Author Kristine Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 Yeah well for years I've experienced the chase, and I believe it's what guys like to do it seems to be since those guys chased the hell out of me. So how to break that way of thinking down? I don't want to seem too eager, and neither does he obviously, but I really don't know what to do here?
Author Kristine Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 Yes it's true, ONE DATE a week of phone calls and e-mails and one date. He got sick before date number two could happen.
charlietheginger Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Yeah well for years I've experienced the chase, and I believe it's what guys like to do it seems to be since those guys chased the hell out of me. So how to break that way of thinking down? I don't want to seem too eager, and neither does he obviously, but I really don't know what to do here? Then give him something to chase... Send him a pic of you in your new dress or jeans..... When he text how your day was tell him you Went shopping and bought a new dress send the Pic say what do you think of it ? Men need visual reminders of what they are chasing
Ninjainpajamas Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Kristine.......you crazy. You're one of those people who go through life wanting what you can't have and settling for what you don't really want because of it. Until you can implement some self-control and patience, everything you do is going to be in an overzealous, over-the-top, freaky way which will scare away the men you really want because you'll give off the desperate stank, and the guys who will pursue you are the ones who think they can white knight you to sanity. Now...I am going to finish eating my food. 3
Drseussgrrl Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I just read your other thread. He wanted you to go back to his place on the first meet-up. You declined, he got "sick" before date number two and isn't pushing to reschedule - at all. You are wayyyy more invested than he is at this point. And, sorry to tell you but he's looking for sex. He's chatting up other women online hoping he'll find one that will give up the goods. Mark my words. 1
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