edwardo47 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I had an excellent mediation today. STBEW gave me the house. Never brought up my gun collection, militaria collection, Harley,70 GTX, gold and silver. Then after all is done, she ran to the other man under the ruse that she was going Christmas shopping. She still leaves her email open. I am going to play the F-ing game until the divorce is settled but I am so F-ing angry. The children asked, "Where is mom?" when I picked them up from school. I answered I do not know. This woman is evil. Feedback? I know, You are getting much more than most in this settlement. The problem is my STBEW is a lying piece of ****e!
Ninja'sHusband Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 My feedback is keep posting here It such a release. Other than that, all the cliche advice, go to the gym, listen to music, work through the anger. I guess another thing is that anger is a secondary emotion, usually to frustration, or fear or something. Here you want her to be HONEST and stop CHEATING! but you can't control her. It makes you ANGRY!! Sooner or later though you will have to give up and move to grief stage. Your STBX is a lying cheating person and is not who you thought she was. You've lost that person you loved and it hurts like a bitch. You'll have to work through that pain and then maybe you'll hit acceptance and move on. It's such a horrible process, I'm sorry you're going through it 2
Oberfeldwebel Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I am sorry that you find yourself in this situation, particularly at this time of the year. Do not concern yourself with her stupidity, instead concentrate on your children and yourself. Take time for yourself to do hobbies you enjoy, exercise and exploring things you have always wanted to do. Do special things with the kids, over the holidays that they want to do. There is no need to include her in these festivities. She may not acknowledge these events in the short run, but will hit her in the long run. Eventually, when the divorce is over and the thrill of the relationship, evolves into reality, it won't be so much fun. By then you will have protected your assets, have a great relationship with the little ones and all she will have is some Barney. Move forward my friend and don't look back, tomorrow is a brighter day. 2
seibert253 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Focus on the early Christmas gift God gave you, the house any your toys. You made out dude. Take your focus off your broken STBXWW, and be thankful you get to keep your home and some toys. Most guys in your position are not so blessed. 2
Author edwardo47 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 Just an update for all to know. Went to do laundry this morning and the white panties from our wedding night were on top of the pile of laundry. Did not have to get too close to smell the unmistakeable odor of sex. Disgusted and feeling angry but I am going to play cool until the divorce decree is signed by the judge. Only then will I open up on the whore. This is the mother of my children? Less than a month since this separation. The whore moves quick! Took me months to get to that.
Balzac Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 How cruel, heartless and disgusting! Better that she threw her wedding panties into a fire. I cannot imagine such psychological warfare. You have suffered unspeakable torture. Your patience is unsurpassed. 1
Yasuandio Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 She's a pissed off horny psycho. You cannot trust what she has agreed to, it may be possible to back out, and it would not be prudent to ever assume she will be reliable. If I were you, I'd photograph that "panti scene" and bag the evidence in case she backs out of nice-nice mediation you had yesterday. I am very sorry to say that this "Bunny Boiler's" behavior indicates she's really got some deep hatred towards you, and this may not go so smooth as you think. Yas 1
Steadfast Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Went to do laundry this morning and the white panties from our wedding night were on top of the pile of laundry. Did not have to get too close to smell the unmistakeable odor of... My ex did this once. She stopped to visit the kids and dropped them on the laundry room floor. No question she did it to anger and humiliate me, but all it did was stick another dagger in my attraction for her. It was a clear sign of the deep hatred and resentment she had for me. In her eyes, I was recovering just a little too well and was not suffering enough. It backfired. In time, the 'knowledge' of her outside activities lost their sting. In the end, she did me a huge favor. What more can be lost when a spouse doesn't care who you're sleeping with? Her weapon was out of bullets. My heart was hardened, which gained her yet more bitterness and anger. After, I told her she could visit the kids in her own location. Pick them up and leave. More anger. I didn't care. When I finally moved, she offered to 'help' sort the new place and I politely declined. More bitterness. I didn't care, and still don't. People will walk on you if you allow them. Don't. The common phrase is making your bed and lying in it. Let her have what she has chosen to have. Pick something new for you to have. Let her go. 1
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