Toddbt12y1 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I am sorry to hear how he has scarred you. I know the feeling well. In the end, you will have a choice to make. Escape the past, or not. I know you will. I can tell by your profile picture you are a very attractive girl. This guy is clearly nuts for not treating you well! Why cheat, when you have such a foxxy lady here He is stupid, selfish. He will be hurt himself and try to come back, that's when you get the pleasure of shutting the door in his face, and rejecting him, like he did to you. Trust me, go out, and enjoy yourself. Or enjoy yourself at home. The scars will heal. It will somewhat carry over to your other relationships, but it is up to you on how negatively it is carried. Use it postively, remembering not to trust in people too much; but also using it to stay away from guys with the attitudes of this boy(refuse to call him a man, he should have his b*lls cutoff for hurting you) You are an amazing girl, and you look beautiful! I like the hair btw, keep it long, it's beautiful. Be silly, be flirty, and you will see. I cannot promise it will end your hurt(anytime I think of my ex enough, I get hurt still too...But I usually distract myself, and stop those thoughts - doesn't always work.) So I understand. Anyway, you are beautiful(i know, i know, said this a lot). But I want to stress to you, that you are beautiful. You look nice, a very pretty lady. You just need to find the right guy that will love just your beauty and not some whore putting out...Frankly speaking I wouldn't even need to look at another girl if I had you /hug 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Girls, or even guys. Why don't you use this thread, not just for sharing your emotions. But as a way of venting that aggression. Cuss out your bfs names, do whatever. Release your anger, use it for that, not just a release of your sorrows. See how that helps. Act like you are telling them off, like this is you talking to them, after all they did to you. Be mad, be mean, get it off your chest. 1
Author Dkp Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 I want to thank everyone that took the time out to reply. I feel really stupid because you are all right and idk why the heck it's so hard to let this bad person go! I should hate him and it should be easy especially because of all the things hes putting me through. I made a list of all the good and bad and the bad definetly outweighed the good. It's hurts that someone would do this to me.. I know time will heal and that I just have to go through this and accept it for what is. I will not break NC and if he does I'm not giving in.. Not this time. I know no matter how much I want it to work someone like that cannot change over a few days. It's who he is and it's a shame.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I want to thank everyone that took the time out to reply. I feel really stupid because you are all right and idk why the heck it's so hard to let this bad person go! I should hate him and it should be easy especially because of all the things hes putting me through. I made a list of all the good and bad and the bad definetly outweighed the good. It's hurts that someone would do this to me.. I know time will heal and that I just have to go through this and accept it for what is. I will not break NC and if he does I'm not giving in.. Not this time. I know no matter how much I want it to work someone like that cannot change over a few days. It's who he is and it's a shame. Yep, the sooner you realize you can't change people to what you want them to be the better off you'll be. The right person won't need to change, they'll be right. This guy is not right. 2
Author Dkp Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 Goin on three days. Don't know why but i thought he would of reached out. It's really hitting me right now. I'm getting angry! Like how dare you do this to me!!? Maybe he's spending time w/ the other girl and is realizing he doesn't want me anymore. Well apparently he never wanted me but didn't think it would be this easy for him. However I'm also realizing I don't want him! I will never allow myself to go this low and degrade myself ever again! I want him to call so I can say **** off! But he doesn't care! He doesn't care!!!! I need to keep telling myself that and I shouldn't care either!!!! I needed to let this out.
TaraMaiden Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 If your best friend had started this thread, what would you be telling them? Then stand in front of a mirror, and tell her. You ARE your own best friend. Stop doing this to yourself.
Maya_Dawn Posted December 7, 2012 Posted December 7, 2012 This is 100% true. "the power of relationships lie in the person who cares the less.". Makes no sense to me. Treat a girl how a girl is SUPPOSE to be treated and you will be the one heartbroken in the end. Treat a girl as if you never even loved her in the first place by cheating on her and lying to her, she'll love you even more. Take Rihanna and Chris Brown for example. Girl got pushically abused yet they get back together and she still loves him. I still don't get it. This is what makes me never want to be in a relationship again. Or if I would be, I'd be the one caring less but without cheating and lying. Can I lend a different perspective? Its easy to think that if you care less than the other person does you, you have the power. I used to subscribe to the same ideology, as I used to think to myself: make sure he loves you more than you love him, as that way you have the power and control. And there is nothing that makes you feel better about yourself than knowing you have the power -seeing the other person contact you, set dates with you, while you just go along. But the moment you lose the power, you'll lose everything, including your sanity. And you can lose the power without even realising it or intending to. When you realise it, you'll do everything you can - scrambling desperately, clutching at your partner, trying to make them care for you more, trying to detach yourself further - as you try to recover your power. The more you clutch and scramble, the more power you lose. You do this all the while knowing, deep down, you'll never get it back. That knowledge will kill you and drive you insane. So my advice is, lets stop thinking in terms of "who has the power", "who should care less" etc. Let yourself go. Don't always try to maintain the "upper hand" by always trying to gauge and measure the amount in which you care for your partner so it is always less than the amount your partner cares for you. Its an exhausting process, and you'll never actually let yourself enjoy the relationship. After all, its said that fortune favours the brave, so maybe if you just let yourself go, you might actually find a fulfilling rewarding relationship. I don't know if this alternative will work. But take it from me, its gotta be better than always trying to distance yourself so you don't get hurt. Hope this makes sense 2
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