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So since my husband and I have run into financial difficulties, we considered renting the basement (which my dad converted into a room). It sounded like a really good idea at first, but then I remembered when my brother and his fiance rented his studio. My dad would bug them all the time and we never heard the end of "how messy" they left it when they moved out. My dad isn't clean himself, but he's obsessed with how clean others are or aren't. My brother and his fiance claimed to have taken photos and spent plenty of time cleaning. We would be paying $750 to rent the basement with a half bath...would have to share the shower with his other roommates and share the kitchen. I can see my dad being on me every minute about a spot on the floor or on the stove, because that's how he is (even though he's not clean himself) even though we're paying rent. I'd honestly prefer to rent a room with someone else or find a roommate if we upgrade to a two bedroom, or even work a second job. I've had a better relationship with my dad ever since I've moved out. I also have two older cats there's no way we could surrender, because he's really anal about the litter box and cat hair. I think I'd rather not live with family if I'm going to pay rent...I think it would hurt our relationship. My dad wants me to let him know by the end of the month and I honestly don't want to do it unless it's as a last resort and there was absolutely no other options.

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TwinkletOes26 Established Member

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Maybe try to set ground rules before you move in say "hey dad I really appreciate yur offer but i know that you and i hae differing opinions about cleanliness so maybe it is best to maybe set some ground rules for the both of us in order to maintain a harmonious living arrangement"...something like that and then go from there.

You will probably be able to see if moving in is a god idea based on how he reacts to ground rules and such. I know it is his house but it sounds like in order for this to work compromises must be made....

 

If you see it isnt going to work then I would maybe try to find a room mate because your home should be a place of peace not chaos.

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My dad does exactly the same even though he's basically a hoarder himself.

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Then don't rent from him...

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UpwardForward Established Member

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I'm thinking $400. would be a better deal - especially w sharing a shower.

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I agree. I know his current tenant has been there for a few years now and this is a high cost of living area...BUT I know someone who's renting a room for $650 with own full bathroom included. And since I'm family and he knows my financial situation, he should give me some sort of discount. He also doesn't really want my cats there and at almost 9 and 10 years old, I'm not surrendering them. I know a friend who rents rooms also, but I'm hesitant to rent from a close friend as I'm concerned about conflict. I prefer not to rent from strangers, however, I don't want my renting to strain close relationships.

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that sounds like a lot for a room rental. Can't you get a studio? I wouldn't rent from your dad.

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Yes. When my son was having financial difficulties, he rented out the master bedroom w it's own bath for $550. and individual bedrooms at $400 w shared bath. This included use of pool, livingroom/big screen tv, and gourmet kitchen sharing.

 

I would shop around before giving into that $750. Perhaps keep searching for deals on apartments.

 

For just a few hundred dollars more, perhaps more privacy/peace.

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pink_sugar Established Member

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that sounds like a lot for a room rental. Can't you get a studio? I wouldn't rent from your dad.

 

Studios in this area are around $1000-$1200 unless you live in the ghetto, which are only a few hundred cheaper than a one bedroom. A bit pricey for such a tiny space.

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Find an old lady who could use the money for part of her house. She might even cook for you. :)

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UpwardForward Established Member

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I had to read your OP again to comprehend it is actually your own Father who wants to Charge you $750!

 

Hope you'll do some shopping around and comparing before giving in to that.

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I had to read your OP again to comprehend it is actually your own Father who wants to Charge you $750!

 

Hope you'll do some shopping around and comparing before giving in to that.

 

Definitely. Granted he renovated his house 5 years ago and has central a/c and whatnot. $750 is just too much with family, especially when just 6 years ago I didn't even want to live with him for free. :laugh: It is me and my husband, but still...I'd rather pay $750 elsewhere. Hence my fish and family stink after 3 days mantra. I don't think it would work unless we aboslutely had no other options.

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That rent is far too high when you don't even have your own bathroom.

 

Some parents are easy for adult children to live with, because the parents understand that being obnoxious and controlling just makes the situation worse.

 

My parents offered to build me a basement when I moved back home for a year.

I declined because of many of the same reasons you are giving. I know my mother would have been up my ass all the time and barging into my space.

 

It is better for married couples to live seperately from parents if possible.

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Check craigslist. I think I know where you live from some of your past posts - I'm from there too. I know it's costly to rent, but there are rooms / shares on there for less, and you won't have the stress of your father.

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Tara247 Established Member

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OP, stay away from your father. The rent is too high and he is greedy and controlling.:sick:

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Leigh 87 Established Member

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I do not understand why your own family would charge you that much....

 

For starters - your technically only using the utilities (power, etc), and you woukd certainly NOT be using 750 dollars worth a week.

 

If your father was a very generous, kind person in general, he would have divided up the electricity and utility bills, and got you to pay half.

 

HOwever, your father does not only want you to pay for utilities, rather he wants to make MONEY off of you!

 

:sick::sick:

 

My personal advice would be to: maintain your connection withy your father, because he is your dad after all.. but to not live or spend too much time with negative people. I am just like that. I spend as little time as possible with negative people who are not very kind.

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