ls32ssibm Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Long story short if you didn't previously read, was dating this girl I met on OKC for the better part of a month. She had no business being on there; was the complete and total package. We were both off OKC for the better for of 2 weeks, preparing for exclusivity I guess. Sends me a text saying "I need some space. I need time to process everything". Immediately goes back on OKC. I tried calling her a few times but she ducks my calls. Well, I sent her a text earlier telling her she must not have very much respect for me if she is just going to keep me on retainer as a Plan B in case some new OKC stint doesn't work out. I said I was just going to move on. She texts me back, denies the whole thing, makes me out to be the bad guy, says "well I was GOING to call you back but not now" and "I don't see this working out" (even though I had said I was moving on. Guess she couldn't be the 'dumpee'). I admit, I was foolishly falling. Built it up to fast for a hard fall. Back to the drawing board.
DC4 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 That's too bad, those situations sting. One thing I have learned the hard way over the past 6 months is keep yourself emotionally distanced until you are 100% sure it's ok to let your guard down.
LittlePrince Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Should have guessed she had personality issues early on and that's why she was there.
pbjbear Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Long story short if you didn't previously read, was dating this girl I met on OKC for the better part of a month. She had no business being on there; was the complete and total package. We were both off OKC for the better for of 2 weeks, preparing for exclusivity I guess. Sends me a text saying "I need some space. I need time to process everything". Immediately goes back on OKC. I tried calling her a few times but she ducks my calls. Well, I sent her a text earlier telling her she must not have very much respect for me if she is just going to keep me on retainer as a Plan B in case some new OKC stint doesn't work out. I said I was just going to move on. She texts me back, denies the whole thing, makes me out to be the bad guy, says "well I was GOING to call you back but not now" and "I don't see this working out" (even though I had said I was moving on. Guess she couldn't be the 'dumpee'). I admit, I was foolishly falling. Built it up to fast for a hard fall. Back to the drawing board. If she ignored your calls she def is not interested. Yeah, she doesnt want to be the dumpee and wants to have the last word. Think of it this way: you dodged a bullet. Based on her actions, she is not a great person. I ALWAYS let a guy know if I dont want to see him anymore, assuming he contacts me for another date. I see why someone would ignore you after a few dates, because that early on you dont really owe an answer, but for how long you two saw each other...she sounds rude and inconsiderate. 1
Imajerk17 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Sorry to hear man. I'd say though, that her actions are par for the course for a 21-year-old girl with her relationship experience (I read your past threads). It's not knocking her or anything, but most people (guys AND girls) are actually pretty immature at 21. And related, I don't think there's much you could have done differently.
Author ls32ssibm Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 Sorry to hear man. I'd say though, that her actions are par for the course for a 21-year-old girl with her relationship experience (I read your past threads). It's not knocking her or anything, but most people (guys AND girls) are actually pretty immature at 21. And related, I don't think there's much you could have done differently. I suppose not, I guess I could have just forgotten about her and watched it play out, but then I would be sacrificing my self-respect for a shot at a girl.
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