GLDheart Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 I keep reading that she's afraid of the counseling. OF COURSE SHE IS!! These are professionals that will see right through her Baloney! As for the Polygraph... she'll talk her way out of that one too... if you let her. Damn... If she knew you were getting advice on a website, she'd find smack to talk about that too. This woman wins through keeping you in the dark and isolated. The light of truth and support of others is her enemy. 1
jnj express Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 Hey Collector---THIS IS NOT HER BALLGAME, IT IS YOUR BALLGAME PLAYED BY YOUR RULES She does not get a say in ANYTHING---you speak, she listens, you say jump, she says how high---------SHE IS TO DO ALL THE HEAVY LIFTING At this point forget MC, you don't have a viable mge, to even discuss with a counselor---SHE NEEDS TO GO TO IC---NOW Do not let her tell you she can help you thru this---she can't help you with anything----remember it was she who put you here in the 1st place Above everything else----do not let her MANIPULATE you as to anything---- she is fighting as hard as she can to keep her LIFESTYLE----as said before---if you cut her loose, how will she survive----do you honestly think there are enuff good decent men out there, who want a D, woman with a child, who has little or no income, and who is an adulteress----she knows her life will be absolute PUKE, if you cut her loose----You have all the power---IT IS TIME YOU EXERTED IT.---- ---Actually I am only talking if you want to R, this horror of a mge----Probably in all honesty, what is REALLY BEST for you, is to get far, far, far away from this women, who thinks you are nothing more than a POS, and who she has absolutely NO RESPECT FOR.
2sunny Posted December 10, 2012 Posted December 10, 2012 I'm at work or I would do it now. Should I tell her I'm calling to schedule it Monday no matter what or should I just not say anything until I schedule it Monday? You must have been off work in the past several days - have you had her do it?
Author TheCollector Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 I was out of town most of the weekend BUT My wife reluctantly called and left a message at the local polygraph service. They should call her back tomorrow and she will be setting up the appointment. 3
Author TheCollector Posted December 11, 2012 Author Posted December 11, 2012 And she looked up the places and made the calls while I was at work before she told me she would do it. It will be a few weeks till I can afford it since its $500 bucks! But worth peace of mind
TiredFamilyGuy Posted December 11, 2012 Posted December 11, 2012 OP. 99% she lied, is my prediction. Sorry. But you will be OK eventually.
2sunny Posted December 12, 2012 Posted December 12, 2012 Does she have the appt? Call around - it may be cheaper somewhere else. Make sure you either follow up that she HAS the appt and you go with her! Calling and leaving a message (she may have lied about that too) is much different than HAVING the appointment SET!
NervisPervis Posted December 14, 2012 Posted December 14, 2012 She can't remember several HUGE details from that time frame. It's like her mind blocked them out. She says that she's sorry and that she doesn't know why she can't remember doing some of these things and I'm like "how the hell couldn't you remember that?!?" Sorry, I'm a busy guy and have to limit what I read, so I stopped here. Until she stops lying, you won't get anywhere.
Mystery2Me Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 (edited) So sorry you are dealing with such a confusion account of the events you BOTH experienced. First off both of you were eye witnesses to this train wreck affair, and it is not uncommon for 2 eye witnesses to have completely different accounts of the same event. Also, it is not your responsibility to serve as her therapist to sort thru a foggy memory of flat out denial of the event/affair. Any attempt to do so, means you have to placed your issues/pain/experience second to hers. You have every right to your emotional experience and how the affair negatively effect you. Sounds like now that the fog has cleared facing her poor behavior is kicking her tail...which is a good thing. Damn she did cheat so she should be repulsed by her actions, so denial of one's actions while not the best choice can getcha thru. So, I'd say counseling is a must for you both so objectively you BOTH honor your respective experiences and can work on this regardless of the outcome. Best of luck! To thine ow self be true. Edited December 15, 2012 by Mystery2Me Error
2sunny Posted December 15, 2012 Posted December 15, 2012 So sorry you are dealing with such a confusion account of the events you BOTH experienced. First off both of you were eye witnesses to this train wreck affair, and it is not uncommon for 2 eye witnesses to have completely different accounts of the same event. Also, it is not your responsibility to serve as her therapist to sort thru a foggy memory of flat out denial of the event/affair. Any attempt to do so, means you have to placed your issues/pain/experience second to hers. You have every right to your emotional experience and how the affair negatively effect you. Sounds like now that the fog has cleared facing her poor behavior is kicking her tail...which is a good thing. Damn she did cheat so she should be repulsed by her actions, so denial of one's actions while not the best choice can getcha thru. So, I'd say counseling is a must for you both so objectively you BOTH honor your respective experiences and can work on this regardless of the outcome. Best of luck! To thine ow self be true. He's actually been in the habit of excusing her bad behavior... And then fixing things and taking away her consequences by rescuing her. I'm sure she expects he will just continue with the M as if everything is just peachy.
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