We are thinking about getting back but she had sex with another guy

[tito1501]

Hello everyone,

 

Firstly some relevant information :

 

I am a 20 years old "boy".

She is an 18 years old "girl".

 

At the beginning of the relationship everything was wonderful, she was an one of a kind girl.

 

Two years and a half have past and then bad things started to happen.

We began to have conflicts few months ago because of the stress we were having in our lives and I didn't want to have sex or kiss her like I used to in the beginning.

 

So after a week of a great discussions she decided to break up because of her father that didn't support our dating any longer and she used the excuse that she would have to go university far away from our city.However, as a matter of fact, I know I was making her sad and I was quite away from our affective life.

 

THE THING IS: After three months remote from each other, we are starting to talk again and after some questions that I asked her,she told me she had kissed two guys and had sex with one of them.

 

Now she says she feels very sorry for what she did and it was good for her because after that,she could remember how wonderful it was to make love with me,the one she loves. She said she regret about everything and that she was only drunk and VERY angry with me and she doesn't feel anything about this guys and, in addition, she doesn't want to go out and drink anymore. Now she wants to focus on her studies.

She was also angry with me because she were being advised about the parties I was attending and the girl I had kissed during the break up. She said bluntly about the days I went to night clubs without warning her (during the relationship) and she said she was SURE I had cheated on her.But I didn't.

In other words, she was hurt.

 

I feel bad everytime I remember the fact that she had sex with that guy and I would like to know if I should give credit for a relationship with this kind of person. In other hand, I always think that I ought to give more value to myself even knowing that most of it was my fault.

 

ps : I'm sorry for the bad English, I'm not from UK

Thanks in advance,

 

Mike

[big bear]

Dude, you want us to tell you what to do. How can we?

 

It should be you who should be thinking do I still like/love her enough to get back together.

 

What were the circumstances. What do you foresee for the future.

 

Why is she back out of love or a heartbreak somewhere. Think over all this and lots more then make up your mind.

 

But after you do, you get back together or not,

 

DO NOT PONDER OVER WHETHER YOU ARE RIGHT OR NOT. TAKE A DECISION AND JUMP IN WITH BOTH FEET.

 

Take a lot of time before making the decision.

[ReadMyThread]

DON'T DO IT!!! lol. Don't do it man. I'm telling you. You two are waaaay too young to know what you want for the rest of your life and all you are doing is setting yourself up for more pain. She will leave you again once the old problems come back into the new relationship. she did it once, she will do it again. On top of that she f*** another dude. How are you ever going to forget that? I don't know. It just seems doomed with your twos ages. But if you love and truly think it can work. Go for it. Lol. But I say don't. But you will. I know you will lol.

[tito1501]

DON'T DO IT!!! lol. Don't do it man. I'm telling you. You two are waaaay too young to know what you want for the rest of your life and all you are doing is setting yourself up for more pain. She will leave you again once the old problems come back into the new relationship. she did it once, she will do it again. On top of that she f*** another dude. How are you ever going to forget that? I don't know. It just seems doomed with your twos ages. But if you love and truly think it can work. Go for it. Lol. But I say don't. But you will. I know you will lol.

 

I'm not sure about anything yet.

The problem is that we have met yesterday and everything seemed to be "as in the old times ".

 

She swore to me that she only broke up because of my attitudes and because her father was threating her to stay away from me because he realized how I was treating her. He wasn't even paying food for her to work at the mall ( that's true guys , just because he wanted her to break up with me )

 

I am not judging him but now she said she want's to stay beside me but her father doesn't accept that.

 

I don't know if the SEX part is so serious if we weren't even dating anymore.

I am just confuse lol , but not sad.

[Chi townD]

I don't know if the SEX part is so serious if we weren't even dating anymore.

I am just confuse lol , but not sad.

 

 

True, you weren't dating. But, her excuse to scewing this guy is because she was mad at you? You weren't dating, you shouldn't have been a factor. So, if you were the driving motivation for her to have sex with someone else when you weren't dating because she was mad at you, what's going to happen the next time she gets mad at you WHILE your dating?

 

Personally, it was a Bullsh*t excuse to make you look like a bad guy for her reason on why she acted like a wh*re.