drakewrites Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 My girlfriend and I have been going out for over two weeks now, but some things have happened that I'm not sure how to handle. I haven't had a relationship this long since highschool (I'm now 24), and she's been steadily single for a while now too. She likes to go out to bars/parties and drink sometimes. I'm okay with that, I go with her sometimes, but it's when I'm not with her that I'm a little bothered by it. I have no reason not to trust her, I just don't like it. (I don't drink, and don't care about parties at all.) So the other day she mentioned that she had been thinking about going to this party the day before but had decided not to. I kind of was taken aback that she would have gone to a party without letting me know at least. Is that being too controlling? I never said anything about how I felt about that. And then tonight she went out again with her girlfriend (who is a good friend of mine) to the bars, which is fine, but now I know they are at this guy's house since the bars closed. I still wouldn't mind too much, only this is the second time she's went to this guy's house with my good friend, and this guy used to like my girlfriend. He even has his default of him and my girlfriend hugging, and there was some more in his profile pics. I'm not sure if I'm being too controlling/paranoid or not, but I just don't get why someone would want to stay out so late with a guy that she knows used to like her. I also don't get why she would want to go out to bars in the first place, the only reason I went to bars was to flirt. And then there's the whole thing where she would have gone to a party without notifying me. Am I just being too controlling, or should I say something? Are we too different?
movingon12 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 You've been going out with her for TWO WEEKS. You are so nowhere near in a position to be telling her where she can go and who she can see. Just because he likes her doesn't mean she likes him and she's not there alone. But if you're stressing that your girlfriend likes drinking and socialising after TWO WEEKS then I really don't see a future for you too. 1
Author drakewrites Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 You've been going out with her for TWO WEEKS. You are so nowhere near in a position to be telling her where she can go and who she can see. Just because he likes her doesn't mean she likes him and she's not there alone. But if you're stressing that your girlfriend likes drinking and socialising after TWO WEEKS then I really don't see a future for you too. She's also spending the night because she says she can't drive...? But alright, thanks, maybe I am being too controlling, thank you for your reply.
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