derrdic3 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 been going out with this girl about a month and a half, nothing is official yet but we are definitely into each other. been really casually dating/hanging out more then 10 times and have been debating the best way to bring up the question about being exclusively dating since we both still have our online dating profiles up and active on the site and just want to see how she feels. my question is she is been having a rough time with some personal issues in her life right now and am trying to find a way that would really cheer her up. first thing that came to mind would to show up at her work (as a horse trainer) and surprise her at the stables she works at with flowers with a handwritten note written in crayon like im 13 sending my christmas list to santa and at the end have " XX as my girlfriend" just trying to get a general consensus of what you ladies out there think of the idea. and any advice would be awesome
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 First, very woman is going to be different. You know your girlfriend's preferences. Do what you think she would like best. That being said, since you are specifically looking for input, it would be far better to plan a special, well-thought out date IMO. Personally, I would not react well to stunts at my workplace, but then again I work in a corporate environment where things might be a little more serious. Still, the goal should be about her and "you" (the couple) and less about the "show" and ostentation to onlookers. Private moments tend to be more valued and cherished for that reason. The other thing I've noticed from my experience (and I'm not saying this is you) is that guys who are less confident tend to resort to grand gestures, asking indirectly, and not having to be around for the response. Guys who are more mature and confident in themselves realize that they are sufficient, and seem OK with having a serious/earnest one-on-one conversation, asking point blank, and risking rejection face-to-face. Again, just my experience, but it's been consistent. Good luck. I think whatever you do will cheer her up. If she likes you, she'll be happy you asked. Period.
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