Highschool Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 (edited) 17 year old kissless virgin in grade 12 here again Continuation from my old thread, but I'll summarize! Okay, there's a girl I've known for a while that I'm interested in. Got her number a few months ago, have been texting. She's an amazing, beautiful girl, and an overachiever heh: -4th dan (level 4 black belt) in Taekwondo -amazing artist and takes art lessons -finished all 10 RCOM grades in piano -Mid 90s average It's better than my accomplishments!! I talk to her about everything through texts (and at school when I can, we talk for hours if we're able to). I had asked her to go to see the Hobbit when it came out with me and she said yes. Skip ahead after much talking and talking and talking and flirting and talking ... She asked about how much I worked out since I was talking to her about that previously and what I do, etc (we have that in common too ). ---- I then decided I'd go for it and I told her that when the time came I'm giving her a heads up and that I'd really love to go to prom with her, and that when it comes up she'll probably expect an invite in some spectacular manner lol. She said that that would be great and that she really enjoys hanging around me. I went a bit too far here though, and... maybe.... went on about how amazing she is and beautiful and how much I like her, etc. She then said "Great but no promises lol. Prom isn't till may 10th. You're not awkward to talk to like most guys. You're a really great friend". I then said sorry and that I'd back off a bit (I can take a hint like that lol), and she said "Dont worry about it but its a little quick :)". Then I said something like "Sorry I've just been a little shy and I really do like you as a friend too!" She then said "Of course. Are we still seeing the Hobbit? :P" Of course I said I'm looking forward to it, and she said great and that she should go to bed "for real" now (she had said she was going to go to bed before but didn't end up doing it heh). This is good right? :$ I guess I was a tad bit too fast there... First girl I've actually legitimately been interested in, and this girl is worth trying for. I think she likes me? Maybe just take it a bit slower? I ended up sending her an apology text after (she went to bed after a bit, she said she was going to bed after I had my long drawn out confession thing the first time but as said above we ended up talking a bit more)... ---- Advice Given: she just said "no promises" because it's so far away and because she isn't sure what'll happen between us in that long length of time, but that she's definitely interested and likes me.. ...probably more than a friend, but that I just took it a little too far too fast and that I should be letting her make the moves and just take it easy? --- Is that correct? I mean I'd never force her to do anything she didn't want to, I'm not that kind of guy and I'd like to think that I'm responsible too. She could probably kick my ass anyway lol. So is that what you guys think about this situation? Or what do you think? Regardless she seems excited about going to watch that movie in theatres with me, and when she had said yes she said she'd "totally be into" watching it with me with a lot of enthusiasm. So I'm doing okay? I just need some encouragement or something here lol. My parents are no help lol. Edited December 5, 2012 by Highschool
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 This is good good good! She wants to go out with you, you just have to like stay in contact and talk to her all the time (don't be overbearing though) then you can for sure ask her to prom. DO NOT MENTION PROM AGAIN because you are jumping the gun times a million.. that is like 6 months away so just don't even ask about it again. Enjoy the time you have with her now.
Author Highschool Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 This is good good good! She wants to go out with you, you just have to like stay in contact and talk to her all the time (don't be overbearing though) then you can for sure ask her to prom. DO NOT MENTION PROM AGAIN because you are jumping the gun times a million.. that is like 6 months away so just don't even ask about it again. Enjoy the time you have with her now. Okay Thank you very much! That made me feel better That was actually my mother's idea lol, she told me that this girl seems like a keeper and that I should give her a head's up and say that I'll probably be asking her to prom when the time comes, while still not actually asking her yet. She actually brought up prom in the texts and teasing me about my dancing (I'm not THAT bad!) and saying how fun it's going to be when the time comes, so I thought I should take my mom's advice into account heh. The public school boards in Ontario are all cancelling extracurriculars to protest a bill (but prom and grad stay) so that's where she got that from to start that conversation. I just don't like the change to "no promises" because that implies "If I find a better guy I'll get him to bring me instead" or something..... :$ unless I'm just looking too far into it and it's just because it's so far away. The issue here too is that her parents are strict Dutch parents (from what she's been telling me before), so we'll see how accepting they are of me if I ever get to there.... If we do end up going steady those marks of hers will be just that much harder to keep up, unless we study together I guess
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Okay Thank you very much! That made me feel better That was actually my mother's idea lol, she told me that this girl seems like a keeper and that I should give her a head's up and say that I'll probably be asking her to prom when the time comes, while still not actually asking her yet. She actually brought up prom in the texts and teasing me about my dancing (I'm not THAT bad!) and saying how fun it's going to be when the time comes, so I thought I should take my mom's advice into account heh. The public school boards in Ontario are all cancelling extracurriculars to protest a bill (but prom and grad stay) so that's where she got that from to start that conversation. I just don't like the change to "no promises" because that implies "If I find a better guy I'll get him to bring me instead" or something..... :$ unless I'm just looking too far into it and it's just because it's so far away. The issue here too is that her parents are strict Dutch parents (from what she's been telling me before), so we'll see how accepting they are of me if I ever get to there.... If we do end up going steady those marks of hers will be just that much harder to keep up, unless we study together I guess Ask her to study with you Just hanging out and spending time with her, who knows she could end up your girlfriend before prom , just don't come off as you are doing too much because you don't want to push her away. Good luck!
Author Highschool Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 Ask her to study with you Just hanging out and spending time with her, who knows she could end up your girlfriend before prom , just don't come off as you are doing too much because you don't want to push her away. Good luck! Okay, thanks again!
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