Would you get mad if your friend thought the guy you like is ugly?

[amaysngrace]

It doesn't matter at all. I mean it isn't me or its my life so why do I need to care? Of course I want a nice boyfriend that is pretty much the only thing I have ever posted about since I got here. I just don't feel the need to do things that don't benefit me and talking to him doesn't benefit me in the slightest. Unless he has a hot ass friend to hook me up with I have no real need to talk to him. I can say hi or bye or something if I feel like it but beyond that why would I?

 

If she's truly your friend then you should be happy if she is happy. You should be on her side.

 

Not everything in life is about you, you know?

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

If she's truly your friend then you should be happy if she is happy. You should be on her side.

 

Not everything in life is about you, you know?

 

I know not everything is about me.

 

Why should I be happy about this? How am I supposed to be happy about this?

[amaysngrace]

I know not everything is about me.

 

Why should I be happy about this? How am I supposed to be happy about this?

 

You aren't dating him. Why do you let it bother you so much that he's ugly?

 

Is it cause you are jealous of your friend or do you miss her or what? I don't know why it bothers you so much. Do you?

[LittlePrince]

I know not everything is about me.

 

Why should I be happy about this? How am I supposed to be happy about this?

Since you can't be happy for her then be happy that she is ruining her life with a loser, a sort of schadenfreude.

[LittlePrince]

You aren't dating him. Why do you let it bother you so much that he's ugly?

 

Is it cause you are jealous of your friend or do you miss her or what? I don't know why it bothers you so much. Do you?

She's in love with her friend and doesn't want to romantically compete for her.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

You aren't dating him. Why do you let it bother you so much that he's ugly?

 

Is it cause you are jealous of your friend or do you miss her or what? I don't know why it bothers you so much. Do you?

 

It isn't really that he is ugly.. I just don't like the whole thing. I'm annoyed by it. Like I said I want a cute bf and I want it to come easy, I shouldn't have to put all this effort in to date.

[LittlePrince]

It isn't really that he is ugly.. I just don't like the whole thing. I'm annoyed by it. Like I said I want a cute bf and I want it to come easy, I shouldn't have to put all this effort in to date.

It should be like online shopping, instant coffee, or toasting bread.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

She's in love with her friend and doesn't want to romantically compete for her.

 

Yes I am just SOOOOOO in love with her! I'm a lesbian! haha no. Like I said I just don't like that it is so easy for her. I would soooo not be this bitter jaded person if I was in a relationship, I would be all happy and smiles all the time! When I was with my ex literally NOTHING made me unhappy or made when we were doing good, when we were bad I was a bag of nerves and I couldn't talk to anyone I would just sleep and wait for him to text me, and drink lol

[amaysngrace]

It isn't really that he is ugly.. I just don't like the whole thing. I'm annoyed by it. Like I said I want a cute bf and I want it to come easy, I shouldn't have to put all this effort in to date.

 

So you want a relationship and that's why you find fault in her guys because she has one and you don't? That's not being a good friend.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

It should be like online shopping, instant coffee, or toasting bread.

 

Not that easy, but it shouldn't require me to have to do a lot like online dating it should just be like boy sees me, boy talks to me, I impress boy with my cuteness and funniness, boy likes me, boy asks me to be his girlfriend. Boy and I live happily ever after and have 6 really adorable babies!!

[LittlePrince]

Yes I am just SOOOOOO in love with her! I'm a lesbian! haha no. Like I said I just don't like that it is so easy for her. I would soooo not be this bitter jaded person if I was in a relationship, I would be all happy and smiles all the time! When I was with my ex literally NOTHING made me unhappy or made when we were doing good, when we were bad I was a bag of nerves and I couldn't talk to anyone I would just sleep and wait for him to text me, and drink lol

You could put on some booty pants and grab your own ass for some instant boyfriendly gratification.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

So you want a relationship and that's why you find fault in her guys because she has one and you don't? That's not being a good friend.

 

I know, I said I am being a total douchebag about this situation, but you can't help how you feel you know? What am I supposed to do, I mean I guess I can pretend or fake it.?

[LittlePrince]

Not that easy, but it shouldn't require me to have to do a lot like online dating it should just be like boy sees me, boy talks to me, I impress boy with my cuteness and funniness, boy likes me, boy asks me to be his girlfriend. Boy and I live happily ever after and have 6 really adorable babies!!

Even beautiful people can have ugly children.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

You could put on some booty pants and grab your own ass for some instant boyfriendly gratification.

 

No I hate ass grabbing so I would never do that.. but thanks!

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Even beautiful people can have ugly children.

 

and ugly people can have really cute ones

[amaysngrace]

I know, I said I am being a total douchebag about this situation, but you can't help how you feel you know? What am I supposed to do, I mean I guess I can pretend or fake it.?

 

I guess I would stop thinking about her and him and what she has and how easy it is for her and all that blah blah and start thinking about how you can work on yourself to be more attractive.

 

You probably give off a bad vibe if you're walking around all disgruntled all the time. Maybe try yoga or some other deep relaxation technique. Practice calm.

[LittlePrince]

and ugly people can have really cute ones

So getting an ugly bf might not matter.

[LittlePrince]

I guess I would stop thinking about her and him and what she has and how easy it is for her and all that blah blah and start thinking about how you can work on yourself to be more attractive.

 

You probably give off a bad vibe if you're walking around all disgruntled all the time. Maybe try yoga or some other deep relaxation technique. Practice calm.

Only wearing the yoga pants isn't good enough. You actually have to do the yoga.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

I guess I would stop thinking about her and him and what she has and how easy it is for her and all that blah blah and start thinking about how you can work on yourself to be more attractive.

 

You probably give off a bad vibe if you're walking around all disgruntled all the time. Maybe try yoga or some other deep relaxation technique. Practice calm.

 

I'm honestly really friendly in person, except to him because I don't care about him lol I just look at him and listen and i'm polite.

 

I could try yoga I guess or something to make me less angry (or getting a boyfriend.. that would be the best solution)

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

So getting an ugly bf might not matter.

I mean for me no it doesn't because I won't think he is ugly I'm sure.

[HeavenOrHell]

Stories about getting drunk are boring, but that has nothing to do with how he looks, that's something different altogether.

 

 

 

I know..

I don't like him like THAT though, I don't think I ever could if he was interested in me. He is ok from what I can tell, he just tells incredibly long, drawn out, pointless stories about getting drunk...

[amaysngrace]

I could try yoga I guess or something to make me less angry (or getting a boyfriend.. that would be the best solution)

 

No. That's a bad idea because if you break up then you'll be right back to where you are now.

 

Work on being the best you possible. That will stay no matter who you have by your side.

 

What do you enjoy doing that calms you and brings you inner peace? That's what you need more of.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

No. That's a bad idea because if you break up then you'll be right back to where you are now.

 

Work on being the best you possible. That will stay no matter who you have by your side.

 

What do you enjoy doing that calms you and brings you inner peace? That's what you need more of.

 

I really love to read.. lol such a nerd!

I am have a lot of books I haven't even started, I go to the bookstore buy books that look interesting and then leave them sitting on the shelf because I get distracted. I could do that I guess.

 

I mean I know I have jealousy issues but a lot of people do and those people are fine, a lot of jealous women go on and still meet guys and get married and have kids.

[Mrlonelyone]

OP

 

Why do you think having a boyfriend will solve all your problems?

 

This only works in cartoons.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

OP

 

Why do you think having a boyfriend will solve all your problems?

 

This only works in cartoons.

 

I don't know, I don't have any real issues beyond dating.

I am good in school, I'm graduating, I am what some people would call decently attractive, I have nice things. I don't have any real major issues beyond dating. Only reason I am even in therapy is because I couldn't handle the stress of my breakup, all the other times that I have ended up in therapy have been guy issues, being dumped, losing my virginity to the wrong person.. stuff like that. I don't have like depression, or bipolar disorder or any actually mental illnesses (which my life would probably be a lot less complicated if I did because then I could pinpoint the problem). I just want to be someones gf, and I know I would be happy if I was. If things worked out the way they should I would get a boyfriend, I honestly don't care about other things that much I could do without everything else I have if I had a bf. When I was with my ex I was SOOO happy! Like all the time, I was always smiling and in a good mood and I never yelled I never cried I never got mad I was just sooooo happy! I miss being happy, I miss listening to cute love songs and being able to relate, I miss having someone to text all day, I just miss all the goodness. I would have put up with whatever BS to have the goodness. I would still put up with BS if he ever came back to be happy and have the goodness, and not just from him.. from any guy. You have to take some bad to get good