Would you get mad if your friend thought the guy you like is ugly?

[charlietheginger]

You mean to tell me your mad

Becuase your girlfriend almost

Dated a football player.....

 

Jesus that absolute retardation.

Be glad your not dating a football player

 

My god ive played football ... Most football

Players treat women like a football toss

Um around like a football then when the games

over the guy moves on to the next girl

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Let's consider your last almost sexual conquest was a hobo iirc.

 

But anyway a friend who can only value my SO by physical attraction isn't a real friend and will go through many dating issues in the future themselves. They are also pretty much dateless in my book but that is for the opposite sex to discover like a fried rat in your 8 piece bucket. Also it is good for me since that will be one less person who might try some awful game of stealing away my SO. People who are superficial like that have a nasty tendency to divert another's SO's attention to them and even try to attain their affections.

 

I didn't almost have sex with that guy.. Not even remotely close to sex I was just getting to know him then he dropped that bombshell and I was quickly over it.

 

I would never try to take a guy from her, I'm not a total douche, at worst if she dates him ill just sit there bite my tongue and move on. Hopefully their thing will die down.. She has no classes with him next semester so maybe I won't have to hear about him

[LittlePrince]

I didn't almost have sex with that guy.. Not even remotely close to sex I was just getting to know him then he dropped that bombshell and I was quickly over it.

 

I would never try to take a guy from her, I'm not a total douche, at worst if she dates him ill just sit there bite my tongue and move on. Hopefully their thing will die down.. She has no classes with him next semester so maybe I won't have to hear about him

or it will intensify and they'll marry.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

or it will intensify and they'll marry.

 

I doubt that. They're more likely to hookup than marry.

[Mrlonelyone]

Go easy on her. If the OP is sincere about this is picking men based on the same basic criteria all women use,just an immature "high school" version of those.

 

Looks, football players (American fb, or even soccer) are in shape big and strong.

 

Status, on some college campuses football players can get away with anything. Then there is a potential pro career for some of them. It is also an extension of a high school mentality.(I know this from having been on the soccer team in HS and it didn't hurt)

 

What the OP undervalues is character, real intimacy, and friendship.. The things that make a relationship last. That is a common mistake among young women.

 

Her friend may be more emotionally mature than the OP.

[LittlePrince]

I doubt that. They're more likely to hookup than marry.

Hookups lead to marriage too unless you really believe people wait until marriage.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Hookups lead to marriage too unless you really believe people wait until marriage.

 

I just know my friend and I don't think it will. She isn't liking him for the right reasons to eventually marry him. But if it did go that route then that's cool for her.

[LittlePrince]

I just know my friend and I don't think it will. She isn't liking him for the right reasons to eventually marry him. But if it did go that route then that's cool for her.

It is also good for you. Maybe you can be his girl on the side.

[Mrlonelyone]

I just know my friend and I don't think it will. She isn't liking him for the right reasons to eventually marry him. But if it did go that route then that's cool for her.

 

What? She's the one liking him for how he acts and thinks. Honey, looks change. Most big football players become incapacitated with injury and get REALLY fat. (Would you still want to be with a football playing BF if injury made him a para or quadrapalegic? That's what marriage is really about.)

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

What? She's the one liking him for how he acts and thinks. Honey, looks change. Most big football players become incapacitated with injury and get REALLY fat. (Would you still want to be with a football playing BF if injury made him a para or quadrapalegic? That's what marriage is really about.)

 

No this isn't the football player guy, I used that guy as an example because she was talking to him at one point then he became a douche and started drunk calling her and saying he wanted a relationship then didnt.. It was a mess. That was the football guy and he was decent looking actually pretty hot.

 

This new guy is a guy from our class he just randomly started talking to her one day, I know everything isn't based on looks but he is just blah. I don't know if its even him or the fact that I'm annoyed by the situation. I hate when he talks to her because then I have to sit there and listen to her talk about it for the next 2 hours, and she gets all giddy and its just dumb.

 

If I really loved and cared about someone I would be with them no matter what their circumstances. I might not seem like it but I am dedicated when I date someone, I've put up with some ridiculous crap before.

[mammasita]

WOW, just wow.

 

Why do you even care what someone looks like that your friend (NOT YOU) likes?

 

Don't you recall the saying about beauty being in the eye of the beholder and looks being subjective?

 

She's attracted to him. period. Now unless he's the scum of the earth, beats and abuses her - then you really need to keep your feelings to yourself.

[tori0001]

Don't care what other people think.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

WOW, just wow.

 

Why do you even care what someone looks like that your friend (NOT YOU) likes?

 

Don't you recall the saying about beauty being in the eye of the beholder and looks being subjective?

 

She's attracted to him. period. Now unless he's the scum of the earth, beats and abuses her - then you really need to keep your feelings to yourself.

 

I know I'm being a total buttwipe about this whole thing, but for me to like call him ugly it allows me to quickly change the subject you know? I don't want to tell her that I don't want to hear it, so I would rather just get her to talk about something else, like one day she was talking about him and I said he looked like a little gremlin and then we started talking about that movie. It's like an easy out.

[clia]

I guess I can see why you think the nice guy from class who invites your friend to study at the library is such a loser considering your last potential was a homeless guy who asked to borrow money from you.

 

You sound ragingly jealous of your friend. And yes, telling your friend you think a guy she likes is ugly is beyond rude. You really need to grow up. Someday you will realize how low on the "what's important in a man" list looks fall.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

I guess I can see why you think the nice guy from class who invites your friend to study at the library is such a loser considering your last potential was a homeless guy who asked to borrow money from you.

 

You sound ragingly jealous of your friend. And yes, telling your friend you think a guy she likes is ugly is beyond rude. You really need to grow up. Someday you will realize how low on the "what's important in a man" list looks fall.

 

You have to be physically attracted to someone to like them. And yes the drunken kid who fails every test is such a great nice kid.. He isn't even graduating on time:rolleyes:. She invites him to the lib if she wasn't there he wouldn't be either.

 

What can I say the homeless guy was hot! Oh well.

Anyways not every guy I've dated has been super hot but they certainly look better than this kid

[amaysngrace]

I don't really care what other people think of me or my choices unless I respect their opinion.

 

If they are always complaining about unimportant things then it'd probably go in one ear and out the other.

[Mme. Chaucer]

My opinion? It's really hard for me to believe you're for real, but if you are, you are a terrible friend and I'm surprised that you have any.

[LittlePrince]

I'm actually a great friend just because I don't want to hear about every fling she has doesn't make me bad it makes me exhausted

That would be okay if that is all. Many get tired of the smoochy smoochykins, but it sounded much more like her current love interest didn't get an invite to the Beautiful People Club and you are only taking issue with that.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

That would be okay if that is all. Many get tired of the smoochy smoochykins, but it sounded much more like her current love interest didn't get an invite to the Beautiful People Club and you are only taking issue with that.

 

No that's honestly not it. I was like this with the football player she was talking to also. I picked him apart not gonna lie. Now I can say he is cute and stuff but then no never.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Perfect example just now I left class, she and I always walk out and talk and stuff well he waited on her so I just left.. I didn't look at him or talk to him, I didn't try to get in on their convo. I just have no desire to associate with him not because of how he looks I just don't give a ****.

[LittlePrince]

Perfect example just now I left class, she and I always walk out and talk and stuff well he waited on her so I just left.. I didn't look at him or talk to him, I didn't try to get in on their convo. I just have no desire to associate with him not because of how he looks I just don't give a ****.

This **** is eventually going to hit the fan and your weird behavior will become a problem in your friendship.

[stillafool]

I don't like to ever call myself jealous of anyone because I shouldn't be.. I have a lot of stuff and being jealous makes you look weak and stupid. I mean I guess I am over the situation because 1. I'm just tired of hearing about him in general 2. I'm annoyed by how easy it all comes to her, like I love love love my friend and we have a good friendship, but she doesn't have to work to date at all like I have to do online dating and wear 50 pounds of makeup and spend 3 hours on hair and find the tightest jeans or leggings or yoga pants I own to get even a slight amount of attention. You know how she met this guy? In class, a class that I am in too mind you! Like she just added him on fb (we both did because she was scared) and he messaged her to hang out. I don't want him I honestly don't but it would be nice to be rewarded for all the effort I put in. Not from him but from some cutie guy in my class. You know the one before him that she was talking to (even though he was a douche) she met him in class and he was pretty decent looking, and a FOOTBALL player! She was almost a football players girlfriend! That is huge.. That's like ideal. I do a lot, I am sociable, I'm not a super bitch beyond here because I can vent here but I'm actually pretty nice in real life.. I don't show all my issues.. **** I deserve to be ****ing rewarded! This whole situation is utter bull****

 

I think your friend sounds like a wonderful person who has her head on straight. Does she have any idea how jealous you are of her? You are green with envy and I think this is the reason you don't do better with getting dates. I've read some of your posts towards others here who are in new relationships and your bitterness shines through and blocks any beauty you may have. I can't believe someone doesn't even want to have a conversation with a person because they think they are ugly. WTF! If you did get a guy to date you he couldn't even take you home to meet his mother. You might think she's ugly and not talk to her. IB get yourself some therapy or you are going to end up alone. I hope your friend gets a new friend who will be supportive of her. I think you also have alot of nerve to not want to listen to your friend talk about her love interest. God knows if you had a bf you would expect her to listen to you go on and on about him. Grow up!

[amaysngrace]

Yeah tell me something I don't know. This situation doesn't affect me why should I care? Why does anything I say matter

 

Why does her being into some guy bother you so much? Is it cause you want a nice boyfriend and someone you are into or is it because you feel displaced by her when she has one?

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

I think your friend sounds like a wonderful person who has her head on straight. Does she have any idea how jealous you are of her? You are green with envy and I think this is the reason you don't do better with getting dates. I've read some of your posts towards others here who are in new relationships and your bitterness shines through and blocks any beauty you may have. I can't believe someone doesn't even want to have a conversation with a person because they think they are ugly. WTF! If you did get a guy to date you he couldn't even take you home to meet his mother. You might think she's ugly and not talk to her. IB get yourself some therapy or you are going to end up alone. I hope your friend gets a new friend who will be supportive of her. I think you also have alot of nerve to not want to listen to your friend talk about her love interest. God knows if you had a bf you would expect her to listen to you go on and on about him. Grow up!

 

Actually I met my ex's parents quite a few times.. Anyways who cares it doesn't affect me so why should I put myself in the position to have to hear something I don't want to?

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Why does her being into some guy bother you so much? Is it cause you want a nice boyfriend and someone you are into or is it because you feel displaced by her when she has one?

 

It doesn't matter at all. I mean it isn't me or its my life so why do I need to care? Of course I want a nice boyfriend that is pretty much the only thing I have ever posted about since I got here. I just don't feel the need to do things that don't benefit me and talking to him doesn't benefit me in the slightest. Unless he has a hot ass friend to hook me up with I have no real need to talk to him. I can say hi or bye or something if I feel like it but beyond that why would I?