Would you get mad if your friend thought the guy you like is ugly?

[ThaWholigan]

I can always count on IB to make me giggle furiously

 

Its best you say nothing and try not to put your foot in it

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

You need to grow up. You are the text book definition of immature. Who cares what you think. Keep your opinion to yourself. She's dating him not you. You should be happy she's happy, not bitter and judgmental.

 

I know i'm being a total DB right now but still..

Why would I be happy about this? I mean she isn't dating him, and there is no reason for me to be happy.. It's whatever, I mean good for her she has a guy she likes like her so what?

 

I just don't care, I am tired of hearing about this kid, I'm just tired.

Edited December 5, 2012 by ImperfectionisBeauty

[MyPoutine]

The thing is: It's not about you.

 

Whatever you feel/think about this guy...it's not about you.

 

It's about her, be happy for her - that's it.

 

I am reminded of a show I once watched where the bridesmaid clearly stated that she had to like the bridal dress or else she wouldn't attend the wedding. I was left speechless as she spent more time choosing a bridesmaid dress than the bride had spent on her own dress. Coupled with her overdramatic behaviour and constant threats to not attend the wedding.

 

It wasn't about her, she wasn't the focus of the event but she made it about her, don't be that person.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Someone who has accomplished more in life then you will ever have that's who. True story. Stick that in your pipe and smoke it.

 

... again how many kids do you have?

And yes if you are like 50 years older than me I would hope you would have accomplished me than me. It would be tragic if you didn't.

[William]

Some threads just make my day. Stage Two.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

This thread is about you acting like a horrible person not about having kids. Friends don't treat friends like you do and talk smack.

 

I am horrible because I think someone is unattractive? You just said that there are people who probably think the same about me right? So are they horrible people too? I am not treating my friend badly, it is a joke, she jokes too about the guys I have dated, which is why I don't tell her about them or show her them. I can't help if she shows me all the guys she likes. And I have NEVER talked smack about my friend at all.

[Pyro]

Just wondering? My friend is liking this guy and they have actually been talking and hanging out a lot, I think he is super ugly and she knows lol but it is like every time she brings him up I just have nothing to say about him beyond how unattractive he is.. I mean I'm sure he is nice, I talk to the kid every now and then in class but he is like too talkative about pointless things I don't care about and I just have no real interest, most of the time I keep the convo going because she is there and she just loves talking to him. I don't think she is bothered by the fact that I think he is ugly, but I don't want it to eventually be a problem if she starts dating him.. OMG if she dates him then does that mean I have to hear about him ALL THE TIME (shoot me!), or he is going to come hang out in the library with us all the time.. ew. :sick: I can't see my friend being mad about this because it is jokingly but I don't really know? Would it be something that could really upset her?

 

Yes that would upset her and I would get mad.

 

Ever heard the phrase 'if you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything?'

 

What if your future husband was ugly as sin? Would you want to hear it from any of your friends? You're not being a friend to her right now.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Yes that would upset her and I would get mad.

 

Ever heard the phrase 'if you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything?'

 

What if your future husband was ugly as sin? Would you want to hear it from any of your friends? You're not being a friend to her right now.

 

IT IS SO HARD!

How can I be happy for this situation like it is just so horrible. I mean it is great for her and that is cool, she has had a rough dating year, but it is just stupid for me it has no value to me at all. It is just wrong and horrible the whole situation

[Pyro]

IT IS SO HARD!

How can I be happy for this situation like it is just so horrible. I mean it is great for her and that is cool, she has had a rough dating year, but it is just stupid for me it has no value to me at all. It is just wrong and horrible the whole situation

 

All because of how he looks? Your age is really showing here.

 

If you can't be happy for your friend then get rid of her. Let her surround herself with people who will be happy for her regardless of their feelings on how he looks.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

All because of how he looks? Your age is really showing here.

 

If you can't be happy for your friend then get rid of her. Let her surround herself with people who will be happy for her regardless of their feelings on how he looks.

 

No not because of how he looks, it is just a terrible situation as a whole. I can't explain it. His looks aren't even a super problem tbh. I mean he isn't the hottest guy, but he isn't the ugliest either. He is like a 5 on the scales I guess, I am not attracted to him, but that's just me.

[SmileFace]

I really don't see the big deal. This shouldn't matter to you. Plus it is really low that you don't want someone to hang out with and your friend based on their looks. However his drunken tales is a next story. Be straight up with her and let her know if you think he is a bad person or will treat her wrong - however his looks is not your place to judge and shouldn't make a difference to you. You can mention it to her - I am not sure how close you two are but leave it alone after that.

[Pyro]

No not because of how he looks, it is just a terrible situation as a whole. I can't explain it. His looks aren't even a super problem tbh. I mean he isn't the hottest guy, but he isn't the ugliest either. He is like a 5 on the scales I guess, I am not attracted to him, but that's just me.

 

Well if you can't explain it then I can only go by you judging him because of how he looks.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

I really don't see the big deal. This shouldn't matter to you. Plus it is really low that you don't want someone to hang out with and your friend based on their looks. However his drunken tales is a next story. Be straight up with her and let her know if you think he is a bad person or will treat her wrong - however his looks is not your place to judge and shouldn't make a difference to you. You can mention it to her - I am not sure how close you two are but leave it alone after that.

 

No I'm sure he would treat her fine...

[SmileFace]

No I'm sure he would treat her fine...

So grow up and keep your nose out of it. For her sake.

Are you jealous in some small way?

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

So grow up and keep your nose out of it. For her sake.

Are you jealous in some small way?

 

I don't like to ever call myself jealous of anyone because I shouldn't be.. I have a lot of stuff and being jealous makes you look weak and stupid. I mean I guess I am over the situation because 1. I'm just tired of hearing about him in general 2. I'm annoyed by how easy it all comes to her, like I love love love my friend and we have a good friendship, but she doesn't have to work to date at all like I have to do online dating and wear 50 pounds of makeup and spend 3 hours on hair and find the tightest jeans or leggings or yoga pants I own to get even a slight amount of attention. You know how she met this guy? In class, a class that I am in too mind you! Like she just added him on fb (we both did because she was scared) and he messaged her to hang out. I don't want him I honestly don't but it would be nice to be rewarded for all the effort I put in. Not from him but from some cutie guy in my class. You know the one before him that she was talking to (even though he was a douche) she met him in class and he was pretty decent looking, and a FOOTBALL player! She was almost a football players girlfriend! That is huge.. That's like ideal. I do a lot, I am sociable, I'm not a super bitch beyond here because I can vent here but I'm actually pretty nice in real life.. I don't show all my issues.. **** I deserve to be ****ing rewarded! This whole situation is utter bull****

[SmileFace]

I don't like to ever call myself jealous of anyone because I shouldn't be.. I have a lot of stuff and being jealous makes you look weak and stupid. I mean I guess I am over the situation because 1. I'm just tired of hearing about him in general 2. I'm annoyed by how easy it all comes to her, like I love love love my friend and we have a good friendship, but she doesn't have to work to date at all like I have to do online dating and wear 50 pounds of makeup and spend 3 hours on hair and find the tightest jeans or leggings or yoga pants I own to get even a slight amount of attention. You know how she met this guy? In class, a class that I am in too mind you! Like she just added him on fb (we both did because she was scared) and he messaged her to hang out. I don't want him I honestly don't but it would be nice to be rewarded for all the effort I put in. Not from him but from some cutie guy in my class. You know the one before him that she was talking to (even though he was a douche) she met him in class and he was pretty decent looking, and a FOOTBALL player! She was almost a football players girlfriend! That is huge.. That's like ideal. I do a lot, I am sociable, I'm not a super bitch beyond here because I can vent here but I'm actually pretty nice in real life.. I don't show all my issues.. **** I deserve to be ****ing rewarded! This whole situation is utter bull****

Yeah... work on that.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Yeah... work on that.

 

Work on what? There is nothing to work on ill just try harder to find someone.

[SmileFace]

Work on what? There is nothing to work on ill just try harder to find someone.

You are jealous of your friend. Don't you see that? That isn't right?

I think I will stick with my original post - tell her to get new friends.

Like her supposed "luck" shouldn't matter to you at all. Yet it does.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

You are jealous of your friend. Don't you see that? That isn't right?

I think I will stick with my original post - tell her to get new friends.

Like her supposed "luck" shouldn't matter to you at all. Yet it does.

 

I don't get jealous just annoyed.

Even if I was nothing can be done about it.

Oh well I'll just work harder to meet guys.

[suladas]

I don't like to ever call myself jealous of anyone because I shouldn't be.. I have a lot of stuff and being jealous makes you look weak and stupid. I mean I guess I am over the situation because 1. I'm just tired of hearing about him in general 2. I'm annoyed by how easy it all comes to her, like I love love love my friend and we have a good friendship, but she doesn't have to work to date at all like I have to do online dating and wear 50 pounds of makeup and spend 3 hours on hair and find the tightest jeans or leggings or yoga pants I own to get even a slight amount of attention. You know how she met this guy? In class, a class that I am in too mind you! Like she just added him on fb (we both did because she was scared) and he messaged her to hang out. I don't want him I honestly don't but it would be nice to be rewarded for all the effort I put in. Not from him but from some cutie guy in my class. You know the one before him that she was talking to (even though he was a douche) she met him in class and he was pretty decent looking, and a FOOTBALL player! She was almost a football players girlfriend! That is huge.. That's like ideal. I do a lot, I am sociable, I'm not a super bitch beyond here because I can vent here but I'm actually pretty nice in real life.. I don't show all my issues.. **** I deserve to be ****ing rewarded! This whole situation is utter bull****

 

Dating a football player is that big of deal? Crap maybe I should lead with that line on my next date! I should of played longer back in school if I knew it would get me women so easily

 

But yea you're jealous, work on that. Don't be mad at a friend because she happens to get more attention from guys what's the big deal?

[ScreamingTrees]

Well my friends and I joke like that.. I am more wondering about if you think she will possibly get mad. I don't like intend to piss her off, and I have been pretty nice recently about it, when he comes around I'm just like "whatever" I'm not mean to him or anything, I just have 0 interest in knowing him or talking to him or being around him.

 

If that's how you and your friends roll, then why're you even asking us if she'll get mad? You should be used to ripping on each other. How old are you, anyways?

 

In any normal friendship, a person wouldn't go out of their way to insult their girlfriend's boyfriend. It sounds like a really petty and bitchy immature thing to do.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Dating a football player is that big of deal? Crap maybe I should lead with that line on my next date! I should of played longer back in school if I knew it would get me women so easily

 

But yea you're jealous, work on that. Don't be mad at a friend because she happens to get more attention from guys what's the big deal?

 

The big deal is I REALLY reeeeaaalllyyy want one like realllly bad like I would do anything to be in a relationship and if I was in one I would feel jealous or angry all the time. What people don't get is I am the way I am because I'm single it's like a cycle. Stay single be more angry, be more angry dont meet anyone stay single, life sucks poop poop poop.

 

Being a college football players gf is huge those guys can get anyone so if one chose her that's major.

[LittlePrince]

Just wondering? My friend is liking this guy and they have actually been talking and hanging out a lot, I think he is super ugly and she knows lol but it is like every time she brings him up I just have nothing to say about him beyond how unattractive he is.. I mean I'm sure he is nice, I talk to the kid every now and then in class but he is like too talkative about pointless things I don't care about and I just have no real interest, most of the time I keep the convo going because she is there and she just loves talking to him. I don't think she is bothered by the fact that I think he is ugly, but I don't want it to eventually be a problem if she starts dating him.. OMG if she dates him then does that mean I have to hear about him ALL THE TIME (shoot me!), or he is going to come hang out in the library with us all the time.. ew. :sick: I can't see my friend being mad about this because it is jokingly but I don't really know? Would it be something that could really upset her?

Let's consider your last almost sexual conquest was a hobo iirc.

 

But anyway a friend who can only value my SO by physical attraction isn't a real friend and will go through many dating issues in the future themselves. They are also pretty much dateless in my book but that is for the opposite sex to discover like a fried rat in your 8 piece bucket. Also it is good for me since that will be one less person who might try some awful game of stealing away my SO. People who are superficial like that have a nasty tendency to divert another's SO's attention to them and even try to attain their affections.

[suladas]

The big deal is I REALLY reeeeaaalllyyy want one like realllly bad like I would do anything to be in a relationship and if I was in one I would feel jealous or angry all the time. What people don't get is I am the way I am because I'm single it's like a cycle. Stay single be more angry, be more angry dont meet anyone stay single, life sucks poop poop poop.

 

Being a college football players gf is huge those guys can get anyone so if one chose her that's major.

 

MMM guess I made a mistake! I was begged all of high school to play, could of played in the short time I went to college but couldn't of been bothered. If I knew women were that crazy over it I would have!

 

Nothing wrong with being single.....

[terlislee]

You seem jaded and jealous of your friend and it all comes down to your self-esteem. You are not happy with who you are and with your life at the moment and you are taking your frustrations out on everybody around you. Just read what you said - "I'd be different if I had a boyfriend" what does that say about you? You cannot derive your self-worth and inner happiness and basically your whole personality from being in a relationship, that's a short term validation and an incredibly superficial one. Be a better person and be happy for your friend, you'd expect the same from her, but most of all work on your issues first. It's not her who has a problem, it's you.

 

Also you're in college stop going around calling people ugly, what do somebody's looks or attractivness have to do with anything, is that really how you judge a person? If you really find him annoying in other aspects then don't hang out with him, simple as that, but what she does is none of your concern.