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Would you get mad if your friend thought the guy you like is ugly?

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ImperfectionisBeauty Established Member

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Just wondering? My friend is liking this guy and they have actually been talking and hanging out a lot, I think he is super ugly and she knows lol but it is like every time she brings him up I just have nothing to say about him beyond how unattractive he is.. I mean I'm sure he is nice, I talk to the kid every now and then in class but he is like too talkative about pointless things I don't care about and I just have no real interest, most of the time I keep the convo going because she is there and she just loves talking to him. I don't think she is bothered by the fact that I think he is ugly, but I don't want it to eventually be a problem if she starts dating him.. OMG if she dates him then does that mean I have to hear about him ALL THE TIME (shoot me!), or he is going to come hang out in the library with us all the time.. ew. :sick::sick: I can't see my friend being mad about this because it is jokingly but I don't really know? Would it be something that could really upset her?

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....Wow. Just wow.

 

Anyway, no, I wouldn't be offended if someone thought my boyfriend was not attractive. Someone being a rude a** about it, yes.

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You're not dating him, his looks are not your concern. Be happy for your friend and be nice to him if you care about your friend.

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Really shallow on your part and overall just disappointing behavior. Stop judging the man by his appearance and let your friend enjoy the time she spends with him.

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Opinions vary, but you should probably keep that one to yourself ...

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He isn't her bf.. I don't know if it'll even get to that point, he just asks her to hang out and come to the lib when we are there sometimes.

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No, I wouldn't. I've dated plenty of guys my friends didn't find attractive, and my friends have dated guys I didn't find attractive. Such is life.

 

Also, my friends are grown-ups and they wouldn't even 'jokingly' tell me a guy I like/am dating is ugly.

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No, I wouldn't. I've dated plenty of guys my friends didn't find attractive, and my friends have dated guys I didn't find attractive. Such is life.

 

Also, my friends are grown-ups and they wouldn't even 'jokingly' tell me a guy I like/am dating is ugly.

 

Well my friends and I joke like that.. I am more wondering about if you think she will possibly get mad. I don't like intend to piss her off, and I have been pretty nice recently about it, when he comes around I'm just like "whatever" I'm not mean to him or anything, I just have 0 interest in knowing him or talking to him or being around him.

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Well my friends and I joke like that.. I am more wondering about if you think she will possibly get mad. I don't like intend to piss her off, and I have been pretty nice recently about it, when he comes around I'm just like "whatever" I'm not mean to him or anything, I just have 0 interest in knowing him or talking to him or being around him.

 

If you have zero interest in knowing, talking to, or being around him, then I'm sure your friend will be fine with that, given that if it were the opposite, he would surely be bowled over by your infinite charm and she'd be horridly jealous.

 

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If you have zero interest in knowing, talking to, or being around him, then I'm sure your friend will be fine with that, given that if it were the opposite, he would surely be bowled over by your infinite charm and she'd be horridly jealous.

 

:)

 

...??? I would NEVER want him. EVER I would rather stab my eyes out with plastic forks.

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Well my friends and I joke like that.. I am more wondering about if you think she will possibly get mad. I don't like intend to piss her off, and I have been pretty nice recently about it, when he comes around I'm just like "whatever" I'm not mean to him or anything, I just have 0 interest in knowing him or talking to him or being around him.

 

All this because you disagree with his looks? I'm sorry but there is such thing called humility. You can choose not to like him but if your friend likes him either way, you should have the respect to at least treat him like a decent human being with politeness rather than being indignant.

 

It's people like you who want to look down on others based on outer appearances who have ' ugly' hearts, and i apologize if I hadn't kept that to myself.

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All this because you disagree with his looks? I'm sorry but there is such thing called humility. You can choose not to like him but if your friend likes him either way, you should have the respect to at least treat him like a decent human being with politeness rather than being indignant.

 

It's people like you who want to look down on others based on outer appearances who have ' ugly' hearts, and i apologize if I hadn't kept that to myself.

 

-_-

 

I said I am not mean to him, I'm sorry I am not going to fall all over myself for someone.. If he comes in I will of course speak because I'm not totally rude but I just have no real need to talk to him or anything. He is nice but he likes her not me so why do I need to do anything?

 

Half the time I'm pretty sure anything i say to him does not matter because he is so googly eyed over her..:rolleyes:

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Well my friends and I joke like that.. I am more wondering about if you think she will possibly get mad. I don't like intend to piss her off, and I have been pretty nice recently about it, when he comes around I'm just like "whatever" I'm not mean to him or anything, I just have 0 interest in knowing him or talking to him or being around him.

 

YES it will eventually make her mad.

 

s.hit how would YOU feel if your friend was constantly telling you that your man is ugly? hello??

 

You can be cordial and polite, or you can excuse yourself when he joins the group. Don't make any more negative comments about his appearance to her, that's really rude. You and your friends are all still kids, that's why you do that crap...just stop doing it, even if they still do.

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He is nice but he likes her not me so why do I need to do anything?

 

This line is incredibly telling :)

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Plus, how would you feel if you were dating a guy and his buddies were telling him how ugly / annoying you are? Don't be that person.

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Plus, how would you feel if you were dating a guy and his buddies were telling him how ugly / annoying you are? Don't be that person.

 

Ok that would suck.

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This line is incredibly telling :)

 

I know..

I don't like him like THAT though, I don't think I ever could if he was interested in me. He is ok from what I can tell, he just tells incredibly long, drawn out, pointless stories about getting drunk...

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You may want to tell her to get new friends.

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I know..

I don't like him like THAT though, I don't think I ever could if he was interested in me. He is ok from what I can tell, he just tells incredibly long, drawn out, pointless stories about getting drunk...

 

Yeah but if he showed interest in you he's probably a pretty cool guy that you just don't like physically.

 

But because he's showing interest in your friend and not you he's hideously ugly and should have his own exhibit at the zoo.

 

In your mind you probably can't understand why someone you deem unattractive isn't throwing themselves at you.

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You may want to tell her to get new friends.

 

Awesome :D

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You may want to tell her to get new friends.

 

I don't think i'll be doing that.

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Yeah but if he showed interest in you he's probably a pretty cool guy that you just don't like physically.

 

But because he's showing interest in your friend and not you he's hideously ugly and should have his own exhibit at the zoo.

 

In your mind you probably can't understand why someone you deem unattractive isn't throwing themselves at you.

 

That isn't the case at all. He is ugly because he is just ugly.. I didn't make him that way. Anyone who has eyes can see it, except my friend of course because he looks like a guy she hooked up with who she likes but now he likes someone else. If he liked me I would be like "wow he tells really stupid pointless stories and he is ugly" just like I said before.

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That isn't the case at all. He is ugly because he is just ugly.. I didn't make him that way. Anyone who has eyes can see it, except my friend of course because he looks like a guy she hooked up with who she likes but now he likes someone else. If he liked me I would be like "wow he tells really stupid pointless stories and he is ugly" just like I said before.

 

Alright :laugh::p

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That isn't the case at all. He is ugly because he is just ugly.. I didn't make him that way. Anyone who has eyes can see it, except my friend of course because he looks like a guy she hooked up with who she likes but now he likes someone else. If he liked me I would be like "wow he tells really stupid pointless stories and he is ugly" just like I said before.

 

Truth be told, if you find him ugly, I would imagine he feels the same way about you- your attitude is very telling indeed.

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Truth be told, if you find him ugly, I would imagine he feels the same way about you- your attitude is very telling indeed.

 

Haha well I know that THAT isn't the case... He doesn't know my personality or attitude so he has no idea.

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