livingaloha Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 so here's the story (short version), we met when i was in vacation in paradise and spent a lot of time together, including two nights. that weekend he came to visit me and it was a good visit. since then the communication has been less than ideal. when i reached out the next week he didn't acknowledged my texts, etc. he texted me 3 times that week and said things like, he missed me. when we finally spoke everything seemed good. when i expressed to him that i got a little worried and insecure when i didn't hear from him he apologized and reassured me of his feelings and said that i shouldn't be worried or feel insecure. he also said that if we had been dating long term and i didn't hear from him than that is when i should be worried. the first week of meeting was very intense and passionate. i have never felt so strongly for someone and i am afraid that he may have taken advantage of my naiveness and i fell for a smooth talker. whatever the case may be i haven't heard from the guy for a week now. i reached out about 4 days ago and he has not acknowledged it. i know that i need to wait for him to contact me and show me that he is interested in continuing what we have if his is going to work. i just want him to be honest because the cold shoulder is especially hard when someone is so inconsistent with their words and actions. how can someone talk about forever then not care to reach out... are they not afraid to lose them? thoughts?
justwhoiam Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 He was not inconsistent. You contacted him, he didn't. Second time again. You contacted him, he didn't. Either he gets in touch with you or he's not that into you. Get it? Don't call him. Don't text him. Then see what happens. He didn't rule you out, as he answered and reassured you, but as I see it he's just keeping a door open. It's a flashing red flag.
Carenth Posted December 8, 2012 Posted December 8, 2012 Uh yeah.. if he was interested he would be contacting you or at least returning your messages. If you are the one always having to reach out for contact and are getting the brick wall in return then he isn't interested.
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