youngnlove89 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I'm angry. I'm angry that he isn't fighting for me. I'm angry that I wasn't "the one." I'm angry that after a year and a half we didn't progress to anything. I'm angry that he never asked me to move in with him. I'm angry that I was never invited on vacations with him and his friends. I'm angry that he never wanted to get married, even to me. I'm angry that we never talked about having a future together. I'm angry that he has never bought me anything special, not even a card. I'm angry that he always put me down. I'm angry that he never was affectionate or romantic enough. I'm angry that he didn't call me more often. I'm angry how he just stopped caring. But most of all, I'm angry that I let myself be treated like this. I'm angry that I still love him.
Author youngnlove89 Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 *Bump* I really need something. Anything. I need to know I'm on the path to recovery and moving on. This is hard for me. I've been in an on and off relationship for a year and a half. I know it's over this time because I chose for it to be over. But I don't understand my feelings. I haven't cried, I'm not really sad to say, but I'm just angry.
amaysngrace Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Don't be angry. Be proud of yourself for getting out of a relationship that you were too good for all along. He treated you like crap then so why would you expect him to treat you great now? 1
Balzac Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 One can only hope that your anger is self directed. He was always about himself. You had the opportunity to walk away and finally did. Why did you wait sooooo long?
terlislee Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Imo anger is good. It means you're breaking the emotional attachment and reclaiming your sense of self. That said, don't let it consume you, but use it in a positive way to move forward and away from him. You cannot change anything that already happened, but you can change this "I'm angry that I still love him". Forgive yourself and keep moving on. You're a great person, he is not, love yourself, not him. 3
Tree_Salmon Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I'm angry. I'm angry that he isn't fighting for me. I'm angry that I wasn't "the one." I'm angry that after a year and a half we didn't progress to anything. I'm angry that he never asked me to move in with him. I'm angry that I was never invited on vacations with him and his friends. I'm angry that he never wanted to get married, even to me. I'm angry that we never talked about having a future together. I'm angry that he has never bought me anything special, not even a card. I'm angry that he always put me down. I'm angry that he never was affectionate or romantic enough. I'm angry that he didn't call me more often. I'm angry how he just stopped caring. But most of all, I'm angry that I let myself be treated like this. I'm angry that I still love him. You need to stop wondering "why" because its going to keep you in this cycle of pain. I think its some weird dependency at this point. You need to love yourself a bit and just let this loser go.
KatZee Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 One can only hope that your anger is self directed. He was always about himself. You had the opportunity to walk away and finally did. Why did you wait sooooo long? Agree. You have no reason to be angry at your ex. Any anger you have should be at yourself. For staying as long as you did and allowing him to treat you the way he did. He is who he is. That's not going to change. You've had years of opportunity to walk away, and you continued to stay. Until you forgive yourself for doing that, the anger will remain.
stillafool Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I'm angry. I'm angry that he isn't fighting for me. I'm angry that I wasn't "the one." I'm angry that after a year and a half we didn't progress to anything. I'm angry that he never asked me to move in with him. I'm angry that I was never invited on vacations with him and his friends. I'm angry that he never wanted to get married, even to me. I'm angry that we never talked about having a future together. I'm angry that he has never bought me anything special, not even a card. I'm angry that he always put me down. I'm angry that he never was affectionate or romantic enough. I'm angry that he didn't call me more often. I'm angry how he just stopped caring. But most of all, I'm angry that I let myself be treated like this. I'm angry that I still love him. Wow, it doesn't sound like you two even had a relationship. Good you ended it. 1
flitzanu Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 it's been a week already??? your ex sucks, he doesn't want to date you, stop talking to him, blah blah. yeah you're going to be hurting until you stop focusing all your attention and energy on this.
KatZee Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 yeah you're going to be hurting until you stop focusing all your attention and energy on this. ^^ Where are your friends? What do you do in your spare time? Do you have any hobbies? I get the impression from your posts that you really don't do much and that you've made this guy your world... time to break that cycle. 1
Author youngnlove89 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 ^^ Where are your friends? What do you do in your spare time? Do you have any hobbies? I get the impression from your posts that you really don't do much and that you've made this guy your world... time to break that cycle. All my friends live in a different city or state or they have serious boyfriends/girlfriends and lost touch. I do need to get more friends but it's hard when all I do is work and how I used to devote all my time to a.sshole. This weekend I'm hanging out with my dad and having a garage sale. I might start going to church or something, maybe I'll meet decent people there. On the way home from work today, I realized that the reason I'm angry is because I wasted my time with someone who didn't want what I wanted. I had 2 options: stay with him and always be angry (bc I didn't have what I wanted) or move on and find a relationship one day. I chose to move on. I think it's all just hitting me now, I finally woke up from this fantasy I thought I was in. Now it's all settling in and I see it for what it really was. I'm just angry, and you are right, I have no reason to be angry with him. It was all caused by me. I wouldn't take him back and that is the first time I've said that and MEANT it.
Author youngnlove89 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 One can only hope that your anger is self directed. He was always about himself. You had the opportunity to walk away and finally did. Why did you wait sooooo long? good question!! I still don't know the answer though. Lesson learned, now I know what I DON'T want in a guy! Now I know what to look for to avoid it next time.
KatZee Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 All my friends live in a different city or state or they have serious boyfriends/girlfriends and lost touch. I do need to get more friends but it's hard when all I do is work and how I used to devote all my time to a.sshole. This weekend I'm hanging out with my dad and having a garage sale. I might start going to church or something, maybe I'll meet decent people there. On the way home from work today, I realized that the reason I'm angry is because I wasted my time with someone who didn't want what I wanted. I had 2 options: stay with him and always be angry (bc I didn't have what I wanted) or move on and find a relationship one day. I chose to move on. I think it's all just hitting me now, I finally woke up from this fantasy I thought I was in. Now it's all settling in and I see it for what it really was. I'm just angry, and you are right, I have no reason to be angry with him. It was all caused by me. I wouldn't take him back and that is the first time I've said that and MEANT it. I don't think you're going to meet a better breed of person in church. A.ssholes are a.ssholes and they hang out everywhere. Case in point is my friend who just ended it with her boyfriend who is very invested in the church. His dad is the minister. Well this guy was one step away from beating her, he was that bad. You need to get out and join groups, meet people who have similar interests. I made the same mistake you made. I made my ex my life, and when he dumped me I lost everything. All my so-called "friends" as well. I joined Meetup.com and I've since met a really large group of girls and I have plans all the time now. I hope to eventually meet a guy through these people as well. I also work all the time too. That's not a good enough reason not to get out. There's always after hours, there's the weekend... etc.
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