kerme Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I'm worried about my best friend. She's been severly stalked/harrassed/bullied for the last five years. She used to worry about it and take extra precautions but stopped doing that about two years ago. I still worry for her but she told me that she can't let one person ruin her life. I worry because it's not just one person anymore. Her ex is hell-bent on destroying her and attempts to sabotage every relationship whether it be friends or dating. I keep telling her that it's gotten way out of hand but she won't talk about it anymore. It's as if she wants to believe it's not happening. I can't forget about it because I've seen her ex in action. I've seen her lose friends and boyfriends over this, because they don't want to deal with her ex. Her ex keeps spreading lies and rumors in order to make her life miserable. I can see why she doesn't want to fight it anymore but it's wrong what he's doing. I can see what it's done to her life, even if she refuses to acknowledge it anymore. I'm afraid of how far her ex will go if she keeps ignoring him and the situation? What can I do? Help!!
Author kerme Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 I've suggested that to her. She just tells me that a restraining order will not stop her ex from trying to destroy her life. A restraining order can't stop him from ruining her relationships and reputation or spreading the rumors. I've gotta say that her ex isn't nearly as stupid as we thought. He used to physically threaten her. Now he does all this other crap and thinks he can get away with anything.
PrinceAli94 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Are you the only friend concerned? Does she have any caring siblings or parents who you can talk with? The best thing to do in my opinion is to have an intervention by a large group of friends, and let everyone express concerns for her and the situation. Maybe then she'll come to terms with what's going on and seek advice regarding her ex. From that point on, her getting a restraining order against this guy would be a good idea, if he's literally stalking and harassing her. The law can bend people into compliance really quick when it comes to harassment. But the important thing is, she's gotta want to. You can't do it all for her, only help. By the way, this isn't in the right section of the forum.
FitChick Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 If she doesn't care, don't make it your problem.
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