PrinceAli94 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I decided to make my move on a long time crush of mine back in August. The reaction wasn't exactly great. She explained that at the time, she still wasn't quite over a previous relationship that had ended and didn't want to struggle being with another if she couldn't get over the other. However it wasn't all bad news, she added that she will be graduating from high school in December and would be able to visit me more often from then on, and in her words "though now would be better than later". She added that maybe by then it would be a good time for her. Now, I'm not normally the kind of guy to wait around for a potential relationship, but this situation is an exception. Obviously now it's December, and she's turning 18 really soon and graduating right after that. Still, I just can't shake this feeling that something is up though. A mutual friend of mine recently let me know that she's been hanging out with some guy a lot as of late. I'm all for keeping your options open, but this strikes me as suspicious. Has this girl been benching me as sloppy seconds in case a more ideal suitor can't be found??? Worse, did I willingly sit for her?
Tara247 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 You can wait around if you want to, but I wouldn't wait around for someone to get over someone else. In addition, she's been hanging around some other guy, so she's probably not into you unless it's some friend of hers.
Author PrinceAli94 Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 You can wait around if you want to, but I wouldn't wait around for someone to get over someone else. In addition, she's been hanging around some other guy, so she's probably not into you unless it's some friend of hers. If that were the case though, why would she imply that there might be something down the line? Also, I've still been out and about weighing my own options with the girls on my college campus, so it's not like I been exclusively holding out for her. This is just somebody who I've kinda developed a thing so I'm going out of my way more than normally.
kerme Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Stop listening to the mutual friend and pursue her if you like. Ask yourself if you'll regret it if you don't.
Tara247 Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 If that were the case though, why would she imply that there might be something down the line? Also, I've still been out and about weighing my own options with the girls on my college campus, so it's not like I been exclusively holding out for her. This is just somebody who I've kinda developed a thing so I'm going out of my way more than normally. Because you're her backup.
Author PrinceAli94 Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 Stop listening to the mutual friend and pursue her if you like. Ask yourself if you'll regret it if you don't. I definitely would in the long run. I've been friends with a girl for the last 4 years and have had an on and off again crush on her. We hit it off really quick and I planned on asking her out back then, unfortunately for me I wasn't aware of her boyfriend at the time until after I asked her out to the movies @.@ On that same note, I'd rather not feel like a schmuck if it turns out I really am just her backup.
Author PrinceAli94 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Posted December 6, 2012 Well based on the above comments alone, I decided to wait it out and see if she had any intrest. I don't like chasing girls, it seems kinda desperate to me. Just this morning I woke up to some texts from her. It's nice to see she's seeking my attention at least, even during her school day. (The teachers at that high school are extremely strict about texting in class) Usually when she calls/texts she has a specific topic to talk about but in this case she just asked how I was. I'm gonna ask her out soon, but only after some more initiative on her part. How can I improve my chances? What should I expect to see if I want her to show more desire in dating me, instead of the other way around?
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