Necromancer Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 When a woman is choosing between two equally as good looking guys. If a woman can get a better looking guy than you, then you are dead in the water. Women don't care about your personality as long as you are good looking. The only way to be perfect to women is by having best face possible, the crappier your face is the less perfect you are. 2
carhill Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 If being good-looking is her baseline, then sure personality matters. Guys who aren't good-looking (to her) never get an opportunity to present their personalities. Think of 'good-looking' as the entry fee. The contest starts inside. 3
Author Necromancer Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 Right.... *rolls eyes* Says the bottom of the barel crew.
Mrlonelyone Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 IDK about that. All a man has to be is eye catching enough to get her to look and pay attention long enough to show his personality. That can be for any number of reasons, looks are just the bog standard simplest reason a woman would look and pay attention. Just be good looking enough to be do-able and some woman will pay attention.
Author Necromancer Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 If being good-looking is her baseline, then sure personality matters. Guys who aren't good-looking (to her) never get an opportunity to present their personalities. Think of 'good-looking' as the entry fee. The contest starts inside. The better looking you are the easier it will be still and the more she will appreciate your non physical qualities. Good post as always CarHill.
Author Necromancer Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 IDK about that. All a man has to be is eye catching enough to get her to look and pay attention long enough to show his personality. That can be for any number of reasons, looks are just the bog standard simplest reason a woman would look and pay attention. Just be good looking enough to be do-able and some woman will pay attention. Women find 80% of men ugly. 1
charlietheginger Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Ahhh geezzz... This not true... Im a average guy Average face.... Ive attracted women that are higher In looks then myself... Its obvious these girls can find a guy With a better face and nicer abs Then mine.. But im eazy to talk to and kinda chatty A girl is gonna go for a friendly guy Over a hot guy with no personality
todreaminblue Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 When a woman is choosing between two equally as good looking guys. If a woman can get a better looking guy than you, then you are dead in the water. Women don't care about your personality as long as you are good looking. The only way to be perfect to women is by having best face possible, the crappier your face is the less perfect you are. thats crapp ....I have had the choice to choose from a male who had extremely good looks was popular he was pursuing me he was also well off.......i chose a guy because of a personality i thought was attractive....i stuffed up in that department got sucked in.....led on..... but the fact was i didnt choose a looker I am not the only female on the planet where abs and a face do not determine if i date them compared to a guy who has a personality that floats my boat....then when there personality coincides with their looks(something their smile their eyes whatever it is) they become even more attractive I notice even more.......then im a goner.....deb
carhill Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 The only time personality matters is when, in the realm of meeting, greeting and dating, the person, woman in this case, is open to that personality mattering to her as a possibility. She has criteria for that, in addition to the ever-nebulous and ever-changing realm of her emotions. IME, I've met very few (can't think of any) women who would state that the love of their life is ugly. 'Oh, he's ugly but I love him to death'. Ain't gonna happen. However, if he barely squeaked by on his appearance to gain an audience, watch out if he slips up in the personality contest. Banana peel and a grease gun and he's out the chute into the dumpster. That's been my experience with how the world works in general, gathering from married life and friends and family over the decades. I have noticed this, markedly, in the lives of the married women who remain with men they say have cheated. 'He's a prick but I still can't take my eyes off of him'. Yup. That's how the world works. Accepted. 2
Anela Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Says the bottom of the barel crew. You don't even know her! And she's in a relationship, so you're nowhere close to scraping the bottom of the barrel. You're never going to even get to know a girl, let alone date one, if you keep making these assumptions. I know how easy it is to let fears get in the way of that, I've been doing it myself. You're still young, so if you will excuse my turn of phrase, you have a chance to get your head out of your ass much earlier than a lot of us did, if you pay attention, and follow good advice. 1
ThaWholigan Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 More bitching, more crying Boo-hoo-hoo. 3
iiiii Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 That's somewhat true, but only with the disclaimer that what women find "hot" or "ugly" varies tremendously! True, some guys are so ugly that almost any woman would not give them a chance. And there are some things that disgust all girls, of course, and some things that all girls find attractive. But for average or good looking, well presented guys, different women will rate them quite differently depending on if they're the girl's "type". I can go out with my girlfriends, and we often each think a different guy in a group of guys is the cutest one. So unless you are truly disgusting looking - terrible acne, hugely obese, bad hygiene etc - chances are, there is a girl out there whose "type" you are. Although as Cahill says that's not an automatic score - personality then comes into play.
Pyro Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 When a woman is choosing between two equally as good looking guys. If a woman can get a better looking guy than you, then you are dead in the water. Women don't care about your personality as long as you are good looking. The only way to be perfect to women is by having best face possible, the crappier your face is the less perfect you are. I am now convinced that you are a robot. You post the same exact stuff over and over again. We got it after your first 50 threads. Relationships survive for years because of looks. 5
IT Geek Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 True, some guys are so ugly that almost any woman would not give them a chance. So unless you are truly disgusting looking - terrible acne, hugely obese, bad hygiene etc - chances are, there is a girl out there whose "type" you are. Yep, I'm one of those guys and I can attest women do not give us a chance.
mammasita Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Women find 80% of men ugly. Nope, Its more like women find 80% of men not attractive for them and their personal tastes.
carhill Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 For purposes of discussion, ugly = unattractive is a sexual/romantic way.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 OP - how would you know? I haven't seen what you look like, but until you grow up and change a LOT you're not getting anywhere with your personality.
Mrlonelyone Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 For purposes of discussion, ugly = unattractive is a sexual/romantic way. Basically that's 90% of the reason. I'd say it's a combination of two things. Ugly = unattractive physically + undesirable for some social reason*. i.e. Back in 1857 when asked if a big black buck was attractive, a southern belle would say no. Then, jump him in the tobacco barn anyway. (Then enslave any resulting child until they were a certain age. DNA shows that did happen.) I'd be willing to bet the OP isn't half as physically unattractive as he thinks he is. Something else about him makes him socially or psychologically undesirable. Until he slays those demons he will fail at love.
LittlePrince Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 When a woman is choosing between two equally as good looking guys. If a woman can get a better looking guy than you, then you are dead in the water. Women don't care about your personality as long as you are good looking. The only way to be perfect to women is by having best face possible, the crappier your face is the less perfect you are. But I was working so hard on having a crappy personality. Are you saying all my hard work was for naught and will go unnoticed?
Author Necromancer Posted December 5, 2012 Author Posted December 5, 2012 Basically that's 90% of the reason. I'd say it's a combination of two things. Ugly = unattractive physically + undesirable for some social reason*. i.e. Back in 1857 when asked if a big black buck was attractive, a southern belle would say no. Then, jump him in the tobacco barn anyway. (Then enslave any resulting child until they were a certain age. DNA shows that did happen.) I'd be willing to bet the OP isn't half as physically unattractive as he thinks he is. Something else about him makes him socially or psychologically undesirable. Until he slays those demons he will fail at love. I have allot of friends, that´s not the problem. i can handle myself socially.
Drseussgrrl Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I fell for a dude I wasn't initially attracted to over the summer - HARD. In fact we got drunk and made out one night, and I woke up to see how hairy he was and snoring beside me and I snuck out of the house before he woke up LOL. By the end of the summer I was head over heels.
Els Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Yes that definitely explains why a 5'2" guy whom I know has girls all over him, but you don't, OP. Keep telling yourself that. Your personality, attitude, and mentality are faultless and could have absolutely nothing to do with why some girls are rejecting you.
Els Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 I am now convinced that you are a robot. You post the same exact stuff over and over again. We got it after your first 50 threads. Relationships survive for years because of looks. Robots tend to be at least programmed to be able to process basic logical concepts. 1
pbjbear Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Truth: When a man is choosing between two equally as good looking girls. If a man can get a better looking girl than you, then you are dead in the water. Men don't care about your personality as long as you are good looking. The only way to be perfect to men is by having best body possible, the crappier your body is the less perfect you are. This is life. It is what it is
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