hopelessromantic123 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 months so our relationship has barely begun. Unfortunately a bad habit of mine (jumping to conclusions too quickly) has caught up to me. A bit of background on us: I’m 19, he’s 20. Both in University, he’s in his last year and I’m in my second year. Basically what happened is we were in the bus and as we were walking towards the back, I saw his ex-girlfriend. I had assumed he saw her and simply didn’t mention it. Now I waited till we got off the bus and went our separate ways to text him and ask him why he didn’t tell me he saw his ex on the bus. At first he thought I was joking which ticked me off and caused me to say he was dishonest. I thought he was pretending it was a joke so that he wouldn’t have to admit he saw her (I know, completely far-fetched and paranoid). Bottom point, he said he didn’t see her and I’m now realising that in fact I jumped to conclusions and he may have in fact not seen her. Now he says he feels betrayed because he’s worked so hard to be completely honest and transparent with me. It’s been 4 days and he’s still not over it. Now he says maybe we should stop talking on the phone/texting till he feels better. Were both in the middle of exams and he works on top of it all so it’ll be hard to meet up and talk any time soon. What should I do? Should I give him his space? I’m scared that if I ‘’let him go’’ this early in the relationship he’ll get used to the distance and not come back… This situation is ridiculous, I know, but it’s the situation I’m in. This could have been avoided if I had simply tackled the issue then and there, but I didn’t. PS: I’m writing this in a hurry so no comments on the bad sentence fragmenting please!
whichwayisup Posted December 5, 2012 Posted December 5, 2012 Basically what happened is we were in the bus and as we were walking towards the back, I saw his ex-girlfriend. I had assumed he saw her and simply didn’t mention it. Now I waited till we got off the bus and went our separate ways to text him and ask him why he didn’t tell me he saw his ex on the bus. Why is him seeing his ex on the street such an issue? I get jealously if he is talking to her behind your back, texting, calling and getting together with her, but just casually seeing her by accident like that is really your own problem and somehow you need to gain control of this and figure out why the jealously is so bad, maybe it's insecurity or something from your past that is driving you to feel this way. Give him some space and talk to him in a few days. Let him know that you're going to work on your jealously issues. (Would you seek counseling to help you with this?) Hopefully he'll give you another chance.
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