WhatDo Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I've know this girl for over half my life. We grew up knowing of each other and talking here and there about our interests. We have always had a lot in common and I have always liked her. We grew closer for the past two years and I started liking her more and more. Because of school (across states) we see a little of each other every now and then, but manage to stay connected through Facebook and texting. I would sometimes text her and ask how she is doing and she would reply that she misses me. The texts started to get more personal from there. I would get "I love you" and other texts of affection but always thought they were just in a joking tone. After a while she said I was her best friend. That really hurt me because I wanted more than friendship with her. She came back to town once to visit her family, and I confessed I had feelings for her. She then, to my great surprise, told me she had feelings for me. This would be great but she has a boyfriend she has been with for about four years. I don't exactly know how she feels about him, but she doesn't want to leave him and feels guilty of having these feelings. She has had them for over 6 months, and she says they grow stronger. She feels she has to stay with her boyfriend because of the time spent together and she is still attracted to him, though not fully. He is a very, very needy person. Maybe this is wrong, but I feel that he is the only one she has had a mature relationship with and does not see others in that light. It is hard to write about this as it really hurts me to think of her with him. I was thinking about making a physical move towards her, but I really don't want to put her in an awkward situation as I like the friendship while I hate the friendship. I feel like it may be the one link that makes us see each other. We still hangout and do things sometimes on the occasion she does see her family. I love her very much, and I want her. I don't know if she feels the same intensity as I do. I like discussing these things with her face to face as texts, e-mail, and Facebook really miss the mark (i have tried, it has failed). I come to this sight for more perspectives and opinions. What should I do? What should I not do? What is best?
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