Michal2012 Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 I think this is great that your partner be a sperm donor in a clinic. This is amazing to think. However it is great work.
Emilia Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 There are really no "rights" to discuss. His rights (and legal obligations) end when he hands the cup to the nurse. What would worry me is whether this is always going to be the case. There are talks from time to time of increasing sperm donors' rights and responsibilities. Personally, I think it's a can of worms I wouldn't want to open. There are existing child support request cases where the mother knew the sperm donor (in cases of lesbian relationships for example). True that anonimity would be the case here but who knows whether that's always guaranteed in the future?? I wouldn't want my partner to do it 1
TaraMaiden Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 What would worry me is whether this is always going to be the case. There are talks from time to time of increasing sperm donors' rights and responsibilities. Personally, I think it's a can of worms I wouldn't want to open. There are existing child support request cases where the mother knew the sperm donor (in cases of lesbian relationships for example). True that anonimity would be the case here but who knows whether that's always guaranteed in the future?? I wouldn't want my partner to do it Is there a screening carried out for any family medical history, such as prostate/testicular cancer, congenital heart problems, diabetes, that kind of thing....? Can you imagine a child of a sperm donor becoming sick later in life - and having to admit you have no idea of the donor's health history? Where do ethics stop? Just thinking 'outside the box' a bit....... 1
Mina Posted December 6, 2012 Posted December 6, 2012 (edited) Is there a screening carried out for any family medical history, such as prostate/testicular cancer, congenital heart problems, diabetes, that kind of thing....? Can you imagine a child of a sperm donor becoming sick later in life - and having to admit you have no idea of the donor's health history? Where do ethics stop? Just thinking 'outside the box' a bit....... Yes there are. It is difficult to donate sperm now. 6 Terrifying Things Nobody Tells You About Donating Sperm This is a link to a comedy site on the topic, but they do provide sources, though some may be removed due to page age. Donating sperm is not easy. Edited December 6, 2012 by Mina
Author crazylove Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 Yes, there's screening for diseases, Aids, etc, genetic defects, sperm motility and fertility obviously. The donor's see counselors. Here, the donor conceived are able to contact the donor at 18 yrs if they wish. It's not anonymous, and I think it's changing in quite a few countries now. I'm not sure if ethically or morally I agree with it....but there are 2 sides to every tale.
Author crazylove Posted December 7, 2012 Author Posted December 7, 2012 What would worry me is whether this is always going to be the case. There are talks from time to time of increasing sperm donors' rights and responsibilities. Personally, I think it's a can of worms I wouldn't want to open. There are existing child support request cases where the mother knew the sperm donor (in cases of lesbian relationships for example). True that anonimity would be the case here but who knows whether that's always guaranteed in the future?? I wouldn't want my partner to do it No, it's not anonymous here. The kids could turn up on the doorstep in the future if they wish to have contact.
Killer Queen Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 I'm kinda in 2 minds at the moment...I can see his reasoning for helping couples/females that cannot conceive, however, I've been looking into the effects on the children themselves, and it seems that MOST are unhappy that the mother/parents conceived them in this way. Also seems that most end up a little psychology damaged after they are told that their childhood is a lie and the father is not their own?? That is the feeling I'm getting from reading a lot of articles on the net. Is this accurate do you think? I think a lot of people seem to 'forget' about the feelings of the child once they are told and become an adult. I'm a donor child and I learned about this last year when I was 21 but it hasn't really bothered me that much. My dad is still my dad and I haven't really bothered to track down my donor. Sometimes I think about it but there isn't enough information about him anyway... Oh well. I know he was/is a doctor, though, so I came from an intelligent guy. The only thing that bothers me about being a donor child is that I'm paranoid I'm going to end up marrying my half brother, so I always check details with every guy I date before it gets too far... lol. Overall, I think my brother and I (from the same donor) both turned out OK. I think our genes are pretty good. I'm not sure how I would react in your situation, though. 1
Radu Posted December 23, 2012 Posted December 23, 2012 I remember a case in UK, where the ex-wife of a man who put his baby-gravy on ice in a sperm bank decided to unfreeze them even though she did not have access to it legally. The result were 2 children, that the father had no ideea about. He found out yrs later because she decided to sue him for back child support, while he also had 2 kids of his own. I remember the woman being quoted as saying that she didn't feel guilty for what she had done, because it gave her 2 nice kids. Eventually he was found liable, and ordered to pay over 100k pounds. TM, thankyou for your posts here. Here are a number of other fine cases : Gay sperm donor must pay out for daughters he barely knows | Mail Online Man ordered to pay £100,000 for children after ex-wife tricks clinic into using his frozen sperm | Mail Online 1
Author crazylove Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 I'm a donor child and I learned about this last year when I was 21 but it hasn't really bothered me that much. My dad is still my dad and I haven't really bothered to track down my donor. Sometimes I think about it but there isn't enough information about him anyway... Oh well. I know he was/is a doctor, though, so I came from an intelligent guy. The only thing that bothers me about being a donor child is that I'm paranoid I'm going to end up marrying my half brother, so I always check details with every guy I date before it gets too far... lol. Overall, I think my brother and I (from the same donor) both turned out OK. I think our genes are pretty good. I'm not sure how I would react in your situation, though. Thanks for that. It's good to hear a happy ending! Was your donor anonymous? I guess that's the difference here is that now donors have to give their contact details if the child requests it at 18 (not anonymously anymore) and so can and most likely will be contacted at some point in the future I would guess.
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