charlietheginger Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Ok guys im a shy guy a def late bloomer.... I was reading "what makes women happy"... so the last 4 months i have been doing this Validation of a women technique i read about. The technique requires letting a women know She attractive. Theory is lots of women go about daily Routines in life and get stuck in a rutt Not really experiencing many emotions Often times they dont feel attractive noticed Special . The actions are not always vocal sometimes Physical examples i have done are Opening doors lots of women feel special When you open a door and say thankyou If they dont say thankyou thats ok tell the "ur welcome " and move on. Helping women load heavy bag into a car Say dog food luandry or a women at homedepot With a big item. This makes them feel helped Often times feeling special. Compliment a women on a cool pair of earrings She is wearing or funky eyeshadow color. Tell her neat ear rings or funky eyeshadow i like it smile and say Guys notice those sorta things. See a cool set of fingernails tell the chick Cool colors i like the glitter or color... Most all be genuine about what and how you say it These are not PUA lines but icebreaker "potential" Openers..you go into it with no intentions Other then a "ebb and flow"mentality. Ebb in flow means natural flow. Just go with the flow Sometimes the ocean tide flows in and you get good Responses sometime the flow is away from you and just Accept that you wait for the incommimg tide... Ive done this now with very well sucess small chat Some flirting... The goal is when all women feel good around you More women will be attracted to you. women see you talking to other women will be attracted To you...
Author charlietheginger Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 To be honest this i think is what got Me a 5 to get a 8 attracted to me I told the cashier i see all the time You look really pretty tonight is that A new hair color.. This lady is like 78yrs old ... The girl over heard me and flirted with Me in the parkingot
Under The Radar Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 No offense, but everything you just listed I'd classify under the "Being a Good Person" Rule. I mean, where it applies, I'd do the same things for men. And you are right, it will attract more people to you (not just woman, but men too). It's called BEING LIKABLE . 1
Nightsky Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 You live in FL? If so I could teach you my ways. I'm some what of a wise man when it comes to the ways of life. It all boils down to being yourself. For me I enjoy complimenting women as it's funny to me and I only go after girls I'm hot for any ways. Also I don't really rate girls as an 8 or 10 or what ever unless I'm joking around. Really I only go after girls I think of as a 10 and if I think other people would only rate her a 6 but I think she's perfect that only makes her hotter to me. Be a pervert. Girls love that. Seriously the best line I ever used went something a long the lines of "you will be T-bagged"
CptSaveAho Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 (edited) You're doing it backwards, you want women validating themselves to you... by you constantly validating yourself to others it puts off this false persona of a "nice guy" People need to learn to just be themselves... figure out who that is and just do it... being a "nice guy" is the wrong way to go about it though In essence want to reward "good behavior" with a compliment/being funny/giving your time to someone and punish bad behavior with "disappointment" (Ignoring does this job) Dont just reward everyone There's nothing wrong with being a shy guy/late bloomer, i do suggest throwing yourself out in the dating world and getting hurt a couple times, you will figure it out on your own after time Edited December 4, 2012 by CptSaveAho
MrCastle Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Of course women, hell, people in general want to feel validated and apprecaited etc. But if you overkill it they will take your kindness for weakness and run all over you. And like Cpt said, you reward good behavior. When a girl texts me or calls me within a respectable time frame, when she shows up to dates as opposed to flaking, when she responds to your flirting positively, you continue positively reinforcing that behavior. When they ignore your texts, flake, tease, etc, you don't continue operating from the same frame, people get treated the way they deserve to be treated.
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