burntangel27 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Here's some background: I'm a week away from being 27, he's 27. We met 3 years ago and dated for 2. We almost got engaged. We broke up and continued to talk occasionally, sometimes he would drunk dial me saying how much he loved me/missed me etc. I would reply and we occasionally made tentative "hang out" plans but normally fell through. Around February he asked me out and I said yes which turned into 3 months or so of dating. He was hesitant to make plans/have me over etc. I found out about a girlfriend and was obviously blindsided and hurt. He begged me too forgive him and to take him back once he "grew up & got his irregular together". I told him to never contact me again. Months later, October, he came around (text/calling) asking for another chance. I hesitated at first but gave in after a few weeks. Things seemed great, he had me over and was calling a lot etc. Said he wanted to ease into real relationship yet not see/date others. I agreed. Now, December, I told him a week ago I'm not feeling like this is progressing. He doesn't call, even when I ask, only texts. Rarely makes solid plans (maybe twice) and doesn't plan a single date. He asked me occasionally too "hang out" day of. He has great job working 50 hrs + last week of MBA program then graduation. I have tried to be understanding but I feel no effort is being made. I've seen him twice since before Halloween, been intimate once. I feel like I'm being strung along because of his actions & honestly him not adding me on Facebook (shady). I brought all this up to him calmly and after getting defensive I told him I'm not getting needs met/we don't have same outlook on dating/ don't seem to want same thing and he asked me to wait until after graduation so things can calm schedule wise and he said he wants too make more effort. Saturday he asked if I had plans, he wanted too hang out, we are hour apart, yet after I tell him I'm busy with family at Xmas event he never responds back. 7 hours later I text him & I'm riddled with apologies and him wanting to make plans for week. So, were having dinner tomorrow. I don't know if I should bring this stuff up or just enjoy the time together. I don't think making plans, dates & calling me is too such too ask. I am so confused on my position here and what's the best course of action.
Author burntangel27 Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 Sorry for the typos!! I'm on my phone. :/ *desperate for advice! LOL * after he got defensive during convo above, not me.. * he asked me can I try again after he gets his LIFE together. Not his irregular!? LOL
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