Sanity Check

[updwnwaterfalls]

I guess I'm just looking for some input, since it can be very difficult to look at things objectively when you are personally involved in a situation.

 

A quick overview: I met a girl at a club where she worked. It was my first time in there and we ended up chatting for a long time. I got her number and we planned on going out the next week. A couple of days later I texted her to set up some specific plans and she told me she wouldn't be able to make it because she forgot about some previous plans she had made. I appreciated the heads up, didn't think it was a big deal, and we rescheduled for next week.

 

She invited me to come back to the club one of the nights she was working and we hung out for a while when she wasn't too busy. We set up some plans for our date that night.

 

Fast forward a week or so. I pick her up at her house and take her out. We have a great time - went to a comedy show and had dinner, which was a lot of fun. On the way back from the show I asked her if she wanted to go out again next week and what day was good for her. She said yes and suggested a good day.

 

I started driving to her house and she asked if I wanted to call it a night, to which I said no, not really. She said good and we ended up going and getting a few drinks and then heading back to my place to watch a movie. We ended up making out a bit on the couch and then she fell asleep watching the movie. I woke her up and drove her home. When I walked her to the door we kissed for a while and exchanged the "can't wait to see you again" kind of things.

 

Next day I texted her, saying I had a great time, etc. She responded with the same. I told her I'd call her in a couple of days.

 

Well, when I ended up calling her I didn't get an answer and left a voicemail. A day later I still haven't heard anything back from her and I'm starting to get a little ahead of myself in my head. As far as I could tell things went really well, we both had a lot of fun, and she seemed to be really interested.

 

My biggest problem is that the last few girls I've dated have ended up flaking out. We'd have a few great dates and then suddenly they'd stop responding to texts or calls and just kind of fade away. It's made me a bit apprehensive and I've noticed I'm just expecting that to happen.

 

So... should I be concerned? Should I bother calling or texting her again? Or should I just write her and our next date off?

 

Appreciate any input.

[Under The Radar]

You have already called her. The general rule for phone calls and text messages is based on the "Law Of Reciprocation". In other words, give a call/text, get a call/text.

 

If you don't hear from her in a week you MIGHT attempt to contact her again (I personally wouldn't), but that really depends on you. It seems like you REALLY like this girl so I am sure the silence is deafening.

 

However, you have not known her for too long and not too much has been invested. I wouldn't get your hopes up and be prepared for "The Fade". Regardless, keep your chin up and DON'T take it personally .