Sisyphus2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 My wife and I have been married for a while. 17 years, three kids. Our marriage has been rocky, and now it appears as though its done. She basically said she is waiting for some things to happen so she can move in with her mother. This may take weeks or months to get worked out. Until this happens she is staying here, we sleep in the same bed most nights. I am not sure what to do here, what would you do?
standtall Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 What would I do in regards to what? Sleeping ni the same bed? Divorce? We need more info...
Author Sisyphus2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 the entire situation. I am trying to save the marriage, she isnt. She is here biding time until she can leave, and I am sort of stuck not knowing what to do. I feel like the victim, I dont want to be a jerk and ruin the chances of getting back together, but I feel like I am being used as a security blanket until she can do what she wants. Im angry, frustrated not knowing how to handle any or all of it.
trippi1432 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 (edited) Perhaps the thread should start here? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/358678-maybe-i-dont-know-what-love She is the victim, you are the victim....hmmm, how can either of you put each other as the priority? Edited December 4, 2012 by trippi1432 1
Author Sisyphus2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 Perhaps the thread should start here? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/358678-maybe-i-dont-know-what-love She is the victim, you are the victim....hmmm, how can either of you put each other as the priority? I am looking for advice, suggestions from people who have lived through similar suggestions. There is nothing I can do about her priorities now, I can only deal with mine. Trying to keep this thing afloat. Dont know what to do.
trippi1432 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Honestly, looking at the situation that you have laid out, it sounds like you are both depressed. I would suggest counseling, there are many good talk therapy counselors out there that don't prescribe. People get all caught up in the meds, I don't recommend the meds to be honest. Meds don't "fix" you, changing your perspective does.
aMguilts Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I am looking for advice, suggestions from people who have lived through similar suggestions. There is nothing I can do about her priorities now, I can only deal with mine. Trying to keep this thing afloat. Dont know what to do. Hi Sisyphus2012 What do you do? You act as happy as you can be. You act as thou everything is perfectly normal and you are ok with everything. Whatever she wants, you want as well. Agree with EVERYTHING she says or does. You walk the earth with the biggest smile. Nothing from now on is going to p**s you off. She wants out? Thats fine, you are ok with that and will even help her move when the time comes. Now , what you need to STOP doing is trying to keep it `afloat`. She`s gone, checked out , moved on. So should you. You seem to be doing ok with yourself Sisyphus2012. Keep it up aM 1
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