blue_jay_bird Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Is NC damaging, if you hope to get back together. Or is NC the right way to go... For Contact: Leave's the lines of communication open. ( seems pointless cause you are the only one that want's to communicate, and work on the relationship) Ex can see how you have grown changed, become independent, or changed the problem's on your side. Keep's a reminder that he can't have your ? ( but he can you...your having a coffee date?) (give's him a chance to let go of you slowly as he dates other's and has coffee dates with you) NC list: Give's you the ability to heal and let your self-esteem become heathy. Let's your ex miss you. You can move on, cause chance's are he's not coming back. Out of sight out of mind? I'd like to understand if anyone one her does not follow NC. AND why, AND if you think its helping. What do you guys even talk about (your relationship) or do you just ignore it and do chit chat. People Breaking NC...why?
Author blue_jay_bird Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 So wait everyone here is NC. Or are their people here that are "friends". (hoping that they will somehow return) Is it working, i mean how much distance is between the two of you. Do you talk a couple time's a month, once a week, everyday? Do you feel like your ex is changing, for the good or bad? Do you feel like your hoping and the ex is trying, or is slowly letting go? How does non NC work?
Quest4_TheLost Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I was in a realationship that started off as friends. He in the beginning wanted more, I didn't. Then the shoe was on the other foot so to speak. We battled it out for a while. We did LC because I wanted to restore the friendship. What we had before crossing the line and creating a huge mess. Part of me was hoping for another shot at things. The reason I did it though was cause deep down I knew he was talkin to other girls and it didn't really bother me. I saw no risk of getting hurt by remaining his friend. We would txt almost everyday or every other day. The exchange was always good. We ended up into a huge fight the last time hanging out. Since then I realize the whole thing was a wash. Now I want nothing to do with him and haven't. Here is my take on it though. Think of your friends. How often you talk to them hang out with them. I can go months without talking to my friends because we get busy doing our own thing. This is not what your expecting or hoping for when your doing the "friend" thing with an ex. You want them to show more interest and as soon as they start txt you a little to often you get your hopes up and a lot of times it means nothing. When you don't hear from them you sulk. Its just a constant roller coaster. I've see people remain friends and eventually get back together. More often then not that dosen't happen though. Hope this helps..
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