motl1987 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I'm sitting here and for the past few weeks I've been wondering if my ex hurts as much as I do. We've both said really f***** up stuff to each other and almost immediately after our break up following a 3 year relationship she started seeing and sleeping with someone else. She said all of her feelings are gone for me and she doesn't even want to be friends...which I don't mind right now bc I don't think I could be friends with her right now anyways...but I'm wondering if she thinks about me as much as I think about her? Does it hurt like it hurts me when she does think about me and us? The one thought I have that hurts the most is the idea she doesn't hurt as much as I do therefore she didn't care about me as much as I thought she did and as much as she told me she did. Responses recommended
na49 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I'll tell you what you don't want to hear. She doesn't hurt as much as you do and she doesn't think of you as much as you think of her. While I don't know this for a fact, I can tell you this is probably the case especially if she jumped into a rebound relationship right after your BU. If she is going to miss you at all it will be if her current situation goes bad and she needs someone to talk to. That doesn't mean she'll take you back though. I expect that my ex goes whole days without thinking about me and is only reminded of me because she has to see me in two classes. Sadly I haven't gone a day without thinking of her since she dumped me. The feelings have diminished though, and I've realized that she wasn't all that. The thoughts I have of her are just of her or relating to her, nothing that really makes me feel depressed or keeps me from going on with my life.
LostOne1 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I'm sitting here and for the past few weeks I've been wondering if my ex hurts as much as I do. We've both said really f***** up stuff to each other and almost immediately after our break up following a 3 year relationship she started seeing and sleeping with someone else. She said all of her feelings are gone for me and she doesn't even want to be friends...which I don't mind right now bc I don't think I could be friends with her right now anyways...but I'm wondering if she thinks about me as much as I think about her? Does it hurt like it hurts me when she does think about me and us? The one thought I have that hurts the most is the idea she doesn't hurt as much as I do therefore she didn't care about me as much as I thought she did and as much as she told me she did. Responses recommended you sound just like me. My ex and I were together for 3 yrs. She left me around the week of our 3rd anniversary. I never got to see her to celebrate it she BU with me just a few days before it. I have no valid proof, but I believe she started seeing someone around then, which lead to her having to BU with me. So I know how you feel. I think our EX's DO!!! hurt too. Just not as much as us. I'm sure there WILL be times they will remember us. Especially when they go by a place we always went to or something in life WILL remind them of us. And they will feel some pain even after a bad fight. I don't think most people can let a 3 yr relationship go easily in terms of feelings. I'm sure my ex misses me once in awhile not as much as I do. But I'm sure they do. THe thing is.. does it matter? And the answer is NO it doesn't matter. Who cares? It's not like shes crawling back to you asking you to take her back or give it another chance. So who cares... just realize you are hurt and you will heal and survive like the rest of us. I thought I'd be dead after a week or two of the BU.. it's 3 months now and I'm here and alive still.
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