Should I contact her or?

[Jim046]

Let her contact me?

 

 

My short story. I want to keep this short but I am sure it will end up long.

 

It has been over 2 years now since I have even came close to dating a girl. (2 years 3 months and a handful of days) I posted a year ago or so, I just don't get the girls. No idea why. I get hit on by married ones or ones I want nothing to do with and have no idea why.

 

A friend of mine kinda set me up to meet a girl friend of hers at a party/get together of friends. I was nervous, I ended up being a little late, food took forever. Not a big deal. Prior to this meeting, maybe 3 days before that, was when she introduced us thru a text msg I got her number, a few texts were exchanged. Nothing much, just said I was busy that last week and wouldn't have time to make it to meet her for dinner, but this week I would. I won't say I forgot about her but I never text or called and she never did me. I didn't want to seem pushy.

 

On the way to this party, I thought to myself, just be yourself and see what happens. Like I said I have no luck picking up girls/getting a number/ starting a relationship. I believe I get a bunch of the "friend zone" ones.

 

Couple months ago I read some pickup artist books, hell I never knew such a thing existed. First one was "the game". What a bunch of garbage in all of them I read. If I tried any of that crap on girls I wanted to take on a date I would get laughed at. There seemed to be a lot of information in the books I didn't really care to learn, but I did learn quite a bit about girls, not sure how much of it is true or not but I felt that I did pick up some things to help me learn about the "nature of the beast". Seems like the whole thing revolves around the "right" conversations. I don't want a one nighter anymore.

 

So, I used some of what I thought I "learned". Showed up, girls must have been in the house, all the guys outside so I joined them with an adult beverage. Didn't take long and my friend and her friend were outside. I said hi, 5 minute conversation then actually kinda ignored her because I was talking about a job I was going to do for the guy I was talking to. They went back inside. She text me about 20 minutes later just saying oh hello. I tracked her down, we talked a bit. Nice girl, I could tell she was totally into me. That made things easier. We mingled in the garage with people more our age. I got a couple kisses somewhere in there.

 

Hours past, she's pouring shots down my throat. I didn't want that. Another thing I told myself on the way there was don't get drunk and blow it. She drags me upstairs to a spare bedroom at some point. Making out, clothes end up off, you know the rest. It wasn't that great of a performance on my part, hers neither. (alcohol does that) We passed out. I wake up 4 hours later and she's gone. She came with my friend and she had to work. I go home, still drunk and somehow manage to drink a ton of water and get to feeling better.

 

I feel regret for what happened. I have no idea when she and her last BF split. Figuring I was the rebound..

 

Next day she finally text me back in the evening apologizing for what happened and said she slept all day but she wanted to go out again for sure with a couple smiley things. Then conversation stopped. dead. She sent a reply a few hours later, I had already went to bed, just said she would let me know her work schedule so we could figure out a time for a "proper date". My last message to her was hit me up with your work schedule and we will find a time this week to meet.

 

That was 2 days ago, I haven't heard from her. Something in my gut wants me to text her but my conscious is saying let her come to me. That or forget about her. Should I send her a message? Id rather call. My friend text me yesterday saying that she thought we hit it off, seemed like she liked me... ?!?

 

Sorry this is long, im pretty lonely anymore and don't really have anyone to talk to other than my dog. Im 28, shes 24

Edited December 4, 2012 by Jim046

[Jim046]

Disregard this, I sent her a message last night, never heard from her.

 

Why the hell can't they just tell me no instead of leave me wondering??

 

:(