PurpleGal Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I'm thinking this topic comes up each year. I kind of thought it might be nice to bring a little levity to the board. Does anyone have an idea of what I can get MM for Christmas? It has to be something that he might have bought for himself, as a small item I got him for his birthday a few months ago caused some suspicion. He has pretty varied tastes. I'm planning the romantic day/dinner thing, but would like to also get him something that he can look at and think of me. Any suggestions?
2sure Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 If a small gift already caused problems anything else might be too hard to keep. The dinner sounds like enough. Unless...a magic 8 ball? 1
Drseussgrrl Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Gift certificate to Olive Garden. Is their anniversary coming up?
KathyM Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I have a suggestion. How about buying one of those silver-plated teddy bears. I think you can buy them at Things Remembered. Have it engraved with a love note to him, signed with your first name. Then make sure to have someone deliver it to his house on Christmas Eve Day, when all the family and relatives will be around to admire it. 2
KathyM Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 A tattoo of his name on your body? How about buying him a tatoo of her name (and picture) on his body. That's sure to be a big hit while he's in bed with the wife.
canuckprincess Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I'm thinking this topic comes up each year. I kind of thought it might be nice to bring a little levity to the board. Does anyone have an idea of what I can get MM for Christmas? It has to be something that he might have bought for himself, as a small item I got him for his birthday a few months ago caused some suspicion. He has pretty varied tastes. I'm planning the romantic day/dinner thing, but would like to also get him something that he can look at and think of me. Any suggestions? How long have you been together, the nice dinner and love making may be more then enough. You can get some nice massage oils and give him a massage, or sex toys are always a big hit.
Author PurpleGal Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 Now, I haven't posted much but I've read quite a bit here. When did this become the "BW Support Forum"? Is it because things for us are really good right now, and I'm NOT crying my eyes out? Is it because I'm not sitting around sad that he has a wife? I'm seeing a married man. Get over it, and yourselves. Don't you inflammatory posters have anything better to do? Glass houses, people...odds are pretty good that at least one person who posted has some effed up skeletons in their closet. The truth is, I am married, but separated from a man who didn't cheat, didn't abuse, just didn't make me happy. Any of you lovely ladies in a less-than-happy-marriage? Where's that courage these MMs supposedly lack? You all sound really bitter, and it's just...sad. Thanks, 2sure, for being helpful. And Olive Garden? Really? Yikes. 3
eleanorrigby Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Now, I haven't posted much but I've read quite a bit here. When did this become the "BW Support Forum"? Is it because things for us are really good right now, and I'm NOT crying my eyes out? Is it because I'm not sitting around sad that he has a wife? I'm seeing a married man. Get over it, and yourselves. Don't you inflammatory posters have anything better to do? Glass houses, people...odds are pretty good that at least one person who posted has some effed up skeletons in their closet. The truth is, I am married, but separated from a man who didn't cheat, didn't abuse, just didn't make me happy. Any of you lovely ladies in a less-than-happy-marriage? Where's that courage these MMs supposedly lack? You all sound really bitter, and it's just...sad. Thanks, 2sure, for being helpful. And Olive Garden? Really? Yikes. Hey you said you wanted some levity brought to the board! 1
Author PurpleGal Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 Hi canuckprincess. We cross-posted. We've been together for 9 months, so it's our first Christmas together. I cook for him often, and we have romantic times often...maybe I can make something really special...or maybe surprise him with some kind of activity, like a cooking class. That's an idea! Thanks for responding. 1
2sure Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I'm sorry, I wasn't being mean, just ...oh, sarcastic. Agreed, not helpful. But seriously, it's hard to give them things. The dinner is good. You don't want him to feel bad because he can't keep something.
Author PurpleGal Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 Hey you said you wanted some levity brought to the board! You have a point... I just thought hey, Christmas question, gift. No tears, just a woman buying a man a present. It's not like I'm going to read the responses and say, "Gee, they're right. I should stop." I'll still see him, still love him...and they've wasted moments of their lives on saying something to me that just doesn't matter. Whatever works for them, I suppose. 2
2sure Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Do NOT get a tattoo. That'll scare the shyte out of him!
Author PurpleGal Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 That IS a good idea!! I'm sure he'll love that surprise - what guy wouldn't love cooking classes. Um...I guess one who doesn't like to cook? Because mine does... 1
canuckprincess Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Now, I haven't posted much but I've read quite a bit here. When did this become the "BW Support Forum"? Is it because things for us are really good right now, and I'm NOT crying my eyes out? Is it because I'm not sitting around sad that he has a wife? I'm seeing a married man. Get over it, and yourselves. Don't you inflammatory posters have anything better to do? Glass houses, people...odds are pretty good that at least one person who posted has some effed up skeletons in their closet. The truth is, I am married, but separated from a man who didn't cheat, didn't abuse, just didn't make me happy. Any of you lovely ladies in a less-than-happy-marriage? Where's that courage these MMs supposedly lack? You all sound really bitter, and it's just...sad. And Olive Garden? Really? Yikes. Thanks, 2sure, for being helpful. Thank you very well said, I was very ticked when I read some of the responses. I even scrolled up to make sure I was in the correct forum. We deserve a place to seek support just like bs do, news flash ladies we are more alike then you may realize, or care to admit. 2
Author PurpleGal Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 Do NOT get a tattoo. That'll scare the shyte out of him! No, don't have any of those. Besides, he's my boyfriend, not my husband! 5
veryhappy Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 The infidelity forum is where BS deal with the pain and the OW forum is where they release the anger and learn to smile and laugh again. What a therapeutic place. Then they complain how OW are so bad... I agree an activity is better than an actual gift. We didn't do gifts in my A. I suggest something he can keep in his office if it's an actual gift, and nothing to incriminate him. Check with him first though. You don't want your gift to end in the trash. 3
Author PurpleGal Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 MM in affairs typically "love" to do whatever it is they think will impress the OW. You should ask his wife if he "loves to cook" at home. Well, I said "likes", not "loves". But isn't that a blanket answer for anything an OW might say an MM likes? By your logic, he certainly does NOT like sex at home! Or talking about his family. Or decorating for Christmas. Or going out for meals. Or taking walks. Or sharing books. Hell, if this isn't the real him, so be it. Because he's great! 2
canuckprincess Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 You have a point... I just thought hey, Christmas question, gift. No tears, just a woman buying a man a present. It's not like I'm going to read the responses and say, "Gee, they're right. I should stop." I'll still see him, still love him...and they've wasted moments of their lives on saying something to me that just doesn't matter. Whatever works for them, I suppose. Oh Purple girl I wish I could give you a hug or a pat on the back. I really mean that. A while ago I was having a heated discussion with my cousin about my relationship with mm, and I let her go on about how I could get any guy I wanted and so on. I waited till she was done and then said If I don't listen to my parents and close friends why would I all of a sudden say oh ya your right I'm gonna dump him. Holy crap! As I told her and many others their opinions mean very little to me. So if some person has nothing better to do then judge me all the power to them. There are only two people in this world who's opinion of me matters. They both love me UNCONDITIONALLY! and that's all I care about. 2
canuckprincess Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Well, I said "likes", not "loves". But isn't that a blanket answer for anything an OW might say an MM likes? By your logic, he certainly does NOT like sex at home! Or talking about his family. Or decorating for Christmas. Or going out for meals. Or taking walks. Or sharing books. Hell, if this isn't the real him, so be it. Because he's great! How would his wife know what he likes, hell she doen't even know he's been making love to another woman for close to a year, so really does she know him? 2
Author PurpleGal Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 The infidelity forum is where BS deal with the pain and the OW forum is where they release the anger and learn to smile and laugh again. What a therapeutic place. Then they complain how OW are so bad... I agree an activity is better than an actual gift. We didn't do gifts in my A. I suggest something he can keep in his office if it's an actual gift, and nothing to incriminate him. Check with him first though. You don't want your gift to end in the trash. That makes sense. I understand being in pain, but choose to deal with it in a positive way. But that's just me! The office idea is a good one. Any ideas for an activity besides a cooking class? I just looked and they're pretty expensive. 1
KathyM Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Now, I haven't posted much but I've read quite a bit here. When did this become the "BW Support Forum"? Is it because things for us are really good right now, and I'm NOT crying my eyes out? Is it because I'm not sitting around sad that he has a wife? I'm seeing a married man. Get over it, and yourselves. Don't you inflammatory posters have anything better to do? Glass houses, people...odds are pretty good that at least one person who posted has some effed up skeletons in their closet. The truth is, I am married, but separated from a man who didn't cheat, didn't abuse, just didn't make me happy. Any of you lovely ladies in a less-than-happy-marriage? Where's that courage these MMs supposedly lack? You all sound really bitter, and it's just...sad. Thanks, 2sure, for being helpful. And Olive Garden? Really? Yikes. I'm not bitter, and I'm not a BW, but I have seen the effects of infidelity on people that I am close to, so I'll admit to being not a fan of it. It's good that you left your husband rather than stay in a marriage where you would be cheating, but what about your MM's marriage? I guess that doesn't bother you, the damage your actions do to his wife and family? I guess the thought of giving your MM a Christmas gift, of all things, triggered some bad memories of when my sister's cheating husband received a Christmas gift in the mail from his OW, and the devastated call I got from my sister that day when her and her husband had been trying to reconcile. 1
BrokenPrincess Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I got my xMM a guitar pick from the band that sings the song that always reminded him of me. Figured it was small enough to keep hidden but he could also use it when he was playing around on the guitar he got last year & have a little piece of me with him. Not sure if you guys do a lot of video calls, but another time I got him an inexpensive stand for his iPhone so he could have his hands free while we talked for hours If you get him the cooking classes, maybe pick up the chocolate body frosting from Victoria's Secret. It actually tastes pretty good and you can at least enjoy the "dessert" afterward together! 3
Drseussgrrl Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Deceit. Lies. Betrayal. Broken promises. The inevitable sh*t storm that will befall all of you once this comes to light. Gosh don't women look out for each other anymore? He is not yours - HE IS HER HUSBAND. Yeah, he sounds real "great".
veryhappy Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I know it goes against your heart, but do not go out of your way financially. If it's extensive, don't buy it. Let the man do the most effort. Trust me, he's getting the best deal. You could also ask if he has any sexual preferences, some holiday themed lingerie or fantasies you can help with. He can show up with the items, and you can be his gift. You're already giving him the gift of yourself, he should be satisfied and eternally greatful.
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