Author Nightsky Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 Virgin girls do nothing for me. At best, it's a non issue...at worst, it's a deal breaker if she is "saving" it or has sexual hang ups. Really you don't find it a turn on at all that you get to be the first. That maybe she's never really seen a penis before. (obviously she may have been giving bj's and anal and still consider herself a virgin but I don't count that as a REAL virgin) What about popping a cherry, don't you like popping things and making messes and causing sexual pain pleasure?
KungFuJoe Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Really you don't find it a turn on at all that you get to be the first. That maybe she's never really seen a penis before. (obviously she may have been giving bj's and anal and still consider herself a virgin but I don't count that as a REAL virgin) What about popping a cherry, don't you like popping things and making messes and causing sexual pain pleasure? I'm not gonna lie and say I've never wondered what it would be like to be someone's first. But, when it comes down to it, it just wasn't a big deal. When I was 22, I had a friend who was about the same age, and VERY attractive. Her body was RIDICULOUS. And I don't mean to harp on the fact and seem shallow, but on a scale of 1 to 10, her body was a definite 10. She was Mexican, but very into fitness and eating right. She was also the nicest girl, sweet as can be, could dance all night long, and the most important thing...she wanted to be with me. She was also a virgin and had never had a bf because she was waiting for the right guy. A big part of me was very flattered that she wanted her first bf to be me. But, deep down inside, I knew she wasn't the right girl for me. She was a bit too "nice"...if that makes any sense. I like girls that have an edge...a naughty side. That being said, I never took it any further and eventually stopped contacting her because it was starting to get awkward. I figured she deserved someone who would appreciate her wholly. Honestly, if she wasn't a virgin, had been with a few guys, and was perhaps a bit more "adventurous" I would have definitely dated her and seen where things would go. So yeah, you could say in that sense, being a virgin was a turn off for me.
Author Nightsky Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 I'm not gonna lie and say I've never wondered what it would be like to be someone's first. But, when it comes down to it, it just wasn't a big deal. When I was 22, I had a friend who was about the same age, and VERY attractive. Her body was RIDICULOUS. And I don't mean to harp on the fact and seem shallow, but on a scale of 1 to 10, her body was a definite 10. She was Mexican, but very into fitness and eating right. She was also the nicest girl, sweet as can be, could dance all night long, and the most important thing...she wanted to be with me. She was also a virgin and had never had a bf because she was waiting for the right guy. A big part of me was very flattered that she wanted her first bf to be me. But, deep down inside, I knew she wasn't the right girl for me. She was a bit too "nice"...if that makes any sense. I like girls that have an edge...a naughty side. That being said, I never took it any further and eventually stopped contacting her because it was starting to get awkward. I figured she deserved someone who would appreciate her wholly. Honestly, if she wasn't a virgin, had been with a few guys, and was perhaps a bit more "adventurous" I would have definitely dated her and seen where things would go. So yeah, you could say in that sense, being a virgin was a turn off for me. Wow well I've been with a virgin before and it was fun! You're story just killed me. Than a gain I have my own stories form when I was younger where I just screwed up. You screwed up man, you screwed up.
KungFuJoe Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Wow well I've been with a virgin before and it was fun! You're story just killed me. Than a gain I have my own stories form when I was younger where I just screwed up. You screwed up man, you screwed up. No, I didn't screw up. I did the right thing. It would have been the wrong thing to lead her on and take something she was saving when I knew I had no intention of being the man she was saving it for.
Author Nightsky Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 No, I didn't screw up. I did the right thing. It would have been the wrong thing to lead her on and take something she was saving when I knew I had no intention of being the man she was saving it for. She would have wanted to screw even more if you had acted all "I just want to have fun with you" about it. Believe me man you screwed up big time. It was painful for me to hear that story. I kind of screwed up in the opposite way one time. This really hot girl was into me back when I went to college. This was when I was a virgin. She was like a mixture of native american and german... smoking hot. Well I know I could have had sex with her she seemed really into me. I was a real prude back than and she seemed like a slut in my eyes so I pretty much never made a move. Oh well. You see the opposite of your story.
KungFuJoe Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 She would have wanted to screw even more if you had acted all "I just want to have fun with you" about it. Believe me man you screwed up big time. It was painful for me to hear that story. I kind of screwed up in the opposite way one time. This really hot girl was into me back when I went to college. This was when I was a virgin. She was like a mixture of native american and german... smoking hot. Well I know I could have had sex with her she seemed really into me. I was a real prude back than and she seemed like a slut in my eyes so I pretty much never made a move. Oh well. You see the opposite of your story. Herein lies the difference. YOU screwed up because you care whether or not a girl is a virgin. I did not screw up because I don't care if a girl is a virgin or not. In fact, I sleep better at night knowing that I've never led a girl on, been dishonest with my intentions, or had to lie my way into her bed. Of course, I've never had any problems with getting women by being exactly who I am so I'm sure that's a factor.
Author Nightsky Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 Herein lies the difference. YOU screwed up because you care whether or not a girl is a virgin. I did not screw up because I don't care if a girl is a virgin or not. In fact, I sleep better at night knowing that I've never led a girl on, been dishonest with my intentions, or had to lie my way into her bed. Of course, I've never had any problems with getting women by being exactly who I am so I'm sure that's a factor. He's the part you don't understand, thats why she liked you. Had you been some guy who just wanted her to be his serious gf doubtful she would have liked you like she did. I also sleep easy at night. Not like I'm obsessed about the vagina that got away. I bet I could still sleep with her even though she's engaged and we rarely speak. I don't find her as hot as I used to all those years ago... hmmm but than again maybe I would... Maybe I would...
KungFuJoe Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 He's the part you don't understand, thats why she liked you. Had you been some guy who just wanted her to be his serious gf doubtful she would have liked you like she did. I also sleep easy at night. Not like I'm obsessed about the vagina that got away. I bet I could still sleep with her even though she's engaged and we rarely speak. I don't find her as hot as I used to all those years ago... hmmm but than again maybe I would... Maybe I would... That's not why she liked me. She had a crush on me back when I was with my previous gf (she was actually my gf's friend to begin with) and we bumped into each randomly years later and started hanging out. But it's all moot anyways. I didn't want to be with her and she wasn't the type of girl who would want to just have sex. I knew it wouldn't be a mutual relationship between us either way and things started to get awkward so I broke off communications. I'm sure she eventually found someone right for her...she really was a very nice and sweet girl. Good head on her shoulders. Just a bit too "nice" for me.
Author Nightsky Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 That's not why she liked me. She had a crush on me back when I was with my previous gf (she was actually my gf's friend to begin with) and we bumped into each randomly years later and started hanging out. But it's all moot anyways. I didn't want to be with her and she wasn't the type of girl who would want to just have sex. I knew it wouldn't be a mutual relationship between us either way and things started to get awkward so I broke off communications. I'm sure she eventually found someone right for her...she really was a very nice and sweet girl. Good head on her shoulders. Just a bit too "nice" for me. No she probably found a man who took full advantage of her niceness as you put it instead of you a respectable man. You sacrificed that poor hot bodied up girl to an animal. Look I'm just kidding, sort of. Really though you must regret it some times. The way you told the story with her hot body and all. If it was no big deal you think you would have forgotten about it like I soon will with the fat girl who hit on me last week.
KungFuJoe Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 No she probably found a man who took full advantage of her niceness as you put it instead of you a respectable man. You sacrificed that poor hot bodied up girl to an animal. Look I'm just kidding, sort of. Really though you must regret it some times. The way you told the story with her hot body and all. If it was no big deal you think you would have forgotten about it like I soon will with the fat girl who hit on me last week. Here's the thing. I KNOW regret. I've felt it. This one time I went out with a female friend of mine and she introduced me to her friend...a 25 year old Korean girl. Hell...I still remember her name...Christine. She was gorgeous and I could tell she immediately took a liking to me, especially after she found out I was half Korean/white. I knew she had a boyfriend and she lived with him because I was grilling my friend about her before we went to her house to pick her up. But when I was talking to her I asked her if she had a boyfriend...and she told me she didn't. Long story short, she was pretty much by my side the entire night, she ended up paying for my cover, my drinks, my dinner that night and when I left she stopped me on my way out and told me to come visit her some time. Even my friend told me that she liked me. What did I do? Nothing. I didn't do jack. Part of it was that I still hung up over my ex...other factors were that I was broke as ****, driving a beat up old car and it was pretty obvious she (or her boyfriend) was pretty rich. The boyfriend part kinda had me thinking twice as well. Anyways...THAT I regretted because looking back I knew she just wanted to have some fun and, like I mentioned, she was very very good looking...and a cool girl as well. But, my friend who was a virgin? No regrets...never...not even a little. Because it's all about mutual intent and expectations. I hope she found the guy she was looking for. I know what you mean about, "It might as well have been me, instead of some jerk." but I can't live my life worrying about what other people are going to do. I can only control what *I* do.
Author Nightsky Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 I hope she found the guy she was looking for. I know what you mean about, "It might as well have been me, instead of some jerk." but I can't live my life worrying about what other people are going to do. I can only control what *I* do. Hey thanks for sharing your story about the Korean girl. Half Korean half European blood girls are pretty hot. Plus you're right about Korean people in the US being into other Koreans or in your case half Koreans. It trumped rich... maybe. You know I've gotten girls who with rich guys before me. Money sure is a plus but I don't think it trumps height and I have that, I'm funny, and a big pervert... The right kind of perv! Look we're going to have to agree to disagree. If a virgin girl came to me today I would try to sleep with her. No I wouldn't lie and say I was going to marry her. I would say stuff like "I don't believe in waiting till marriage" etc. etc.
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