Author Lego Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 You need to allow yourself to be open towards sex as an act of biology as opposed to something that's frowned upon. Think of it as a child being taught to like vegetables. It might be distasteful at first, but overtime, you will come to enjoy it and crave for it. Hmm I suppose it seemed like other people (my peers) reached a point in their mid-teens where they just magically got over the "ew factor" and started chasing the opposite sex, with me as odd one out. I hadn't really thought of all of them having to condition their minds to see this stuff favorably. I wonder if this is like learning another language - the older you get, the harder it is to learn as your brain closes doors.
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Hmm I suppose it seemed like other people (my peers) reached a point in their mid-teens where they just magically got over the "ew factor" and started chasing the opposite sex, with me as odd one out. I hadn't really thought of all of them having to condition their minds to see this stuff favorably. I wonder if this is like learning another language - the older you get, the harder it is to learn as your brain closes doors. Doubtful. Most people do it out of wonder, and therefore, have little then the typical disgust. But upon visualizing it, they usually tend to copy what they see...and start pleasuring themselves. Everyone is different so don't worry. Just start slow, start with a story or softcore, start with your hand and clit, and start telling yourself in your head it feels good, visualize how good it is, and it will be so. What's the saying, "mind over matter."
FitChick Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Watch lesbian porn. Perhaps you are gay and in denial.
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Watch lesbian porn. Perhaps you are gay and in denial. LOL perhaps huh
Author Lego Posted December 4, 2012 Author Posted December 4, 2012 (edited) Watch lesbian porn. Perhaps you are gay and in denial. Hmm... I mean I gotta admit I've wondered that too. It's one of the things I had hoped to answer when I decided to start dating. There are more mental barriers to that idea, for me. Guess society, media, upbringing, all that stuff. I dress/carry myself/act in a more-masculine-than-average way, and get along better with men. I've had people subsequently wonder if I was a lesbian. But I had seen it more as a rejection OF femininity than an attraction TO femininity. I actually think I'm attracted more to androgyny in general, either gender. But only visually - I don't know how much that actually influences sexuality itself... (Also, because I was kind of turned on when I made out with that guy this thread's about, I'm guessing that means I'm not fully gay?) But I will take your advice when I get the chance. Edited December 4, 2012 by Lego
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 I am just worried that you are attaching a label to yourself that may not be true. As for masturbation, I remember that I tried it for nearly a year before I was able to make it work. I think it was mostly a mental block. I was 14 at the time though :/
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 If you where turned on by that Guy; then you could or where wet. If you can get wet, you can have an orgasm. I doubt you are a lesbian...I dunno, do you see yourself able to mess with another vagina? Sorry I'm being blunt. Yeah it could take time to get used too. Watch softcore. Focus on your clit. Ask a girl for tips. I certainly do not wanna give tips...I'm already pervy enough...even though I do know techniques. PM them me or anyone else. But meh..
Divasu Posted December 4, 2012 Posted December 4, 2012 Some people are born asexual, some were sexual prior but have become "asexual" as a result of trauma. Many sexual people as well as asexual people find that they need to get to know someone in order to feel romantically attracted to them. If you become aroused when seeing an adult film or by reading something sexy, and become aroused, most likely you have the ability to be sexual. 2
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